candicemarie88
27-12-10, 03:25
I'm 22 years old and suffer from general anxiety, health anxiety, social phobia, ocd and depression. I am currently studying at university and am in my first year.
I have always been a worrier and spent the last few years since my A levels working, living with my parents and pretty much being alone. I have a boyfiend who i've been with 3 1/2 years and three close friends. However, my friends went to uni at 18 and i was too afraid to at the time. I only see them twice a year and since I finished school I made no new friends at work or anywhere. I moved away to go to university in September and have made one fairly good friend, though I don't see her very much since she has other mates who she sees too.
I have a deeply ingrained thought that everyone hates me and this is the reason that people ignore me. I have been told many times that I'm 'boring' and 'no fun', which has added to and maintained the negative thought that eveyone hates me and I am a loser. This caused me to develop social phobia and i have really struggled over the last few years. I find it very hard to go out alone and if i do I disguise myself in sunglasses or a hat, to try and blend in. I was teased at school because of my freckles and height (im 5ft1) and I still replay these events over and over in my head.
I'm often told that I look about 16, since I'm really small and have a really young looking face. My sister is 19 and she looks older than me, people always think im the younger sister and say 'oh, i can't believe you're 19, you don't look 19' and they nearly faint when i tell them im actually 22, nearly 23! Because of this, I still fell like a child and as if i can't grow up. I miss my parents when I'm away at uni and cry myself to sleep most nights because I feel so alone.
I get on with my flatmates, but I don't bring much to the conversations, I just nod along with what's being said and I lack the confidence to actually speak my mind and argue my personal opinions. I fear I will mess up and besides, during conversations my mind goes blank and I lose the ability to think stright, so I can never elaborate or add to what's being said. I try to avoid people if i can, because I hate and can't stand people looking at me, it makes me so nervous.
I have one friend who lives nearby, she's fairly shy too, but she is well-liked and I notice that she doesn't speak a lot to others, but they still accept her. I really think that people don't take me seriously because of my appearance, I mean they think I'm a kid, so why are they going to talk to me? I'm so self concious it's unreal. Even with make-up on i still look really young. As my parents say, I know I'll appreciate it when I'm older, but could I at least look 18 now!? I also hate the fact that I'm short, it makes me feel very inferior to other people.
Sorry to go on and on, I just have a lot of emotions built up inside that I need to let out. I just want to be able to hold and lead a conversation, to not constantly worry about what's running through the other persons mind. I really struggle with eye contact too, so want to overcome that. I'm just very lost at the moment.. living in a city with only one real friend, it's so depressing. I have also missed most of this first semester at uni and am considering quitting, because I really can't face my fellow students. I know I have my boyfriend, but he is much more outgoing and I don't really speak to his friends or family. I just feel like I'm dragging him down and preventing him for having fun, because he is always trying to reassure me and help me through my constant worries.
I'm such a miserable person and long to be someone else. why is there always something wrong with me, why can't i just be normal??
Thanks for reading if you got this far! hope you all had a lovely christmas.
I have always been a worrier and spent the last few years since my A levels working, living with my parents and pretty much being alone. I have a boyfiend who i've been with 3 1/2 years and three close friends. However, my friends went to uni at 18 and i was too afraid to at the time. I only see them twice a year and since I finished school I made no new friends at work or anywhere. I moved away to go to university in September and have made one fairly good friend, though I don't see her very much since she has other mates who she sees too.
I have a deeply ingrained thought that everyone hates me and this is the reason that people ignore me. I have been told many times that I'm 'boring' and 'no fun', which has added to and maintained the negative thought that eveyone hates me and I am a loser. This caused me to develop social phobia and i have really struggled over the last few years. I find it very hard to go out alone and if i do I disguise myself in sunglasses or a hat, to try and blend in. I was teased at school because of my freckles and height (im 5ft1) and I still replay these events over and over in my head.
I'm often told that I look about 16, since I'm really small and have a really young looking face. My sister is 19 and she looks older than me, people always think im the younger sister and say 'oh, i can't believe you're 19, you don't look 19' and they nearly faint when i tell them im actually 22, nearly 23! Because of this, I still fell like a child and as if i can't grow up. I miss my parents when I'm away at uni and cry myself to sleep most nights because I feel so alone.
I get on with my flatmates, but I don't bring much to the conversations, I just nod along with what's being said and I lack the confidence to actually speak my mind and argue my personal opinions. I fear I will mess up and besides, during conversations my mind goes blank and I lose the ability to think stright, so I can never elaborate or add to what's being said. I try to avoid people if i can, because I hate and can't stand people looking at me, it makes me so nervous.
I have one friend who lives nearby, she's fairly shy too, but she is well-liked and I notice that she doesn't speak a lot to others, but they still accept her. I really think that people don't take me seriously because of my appearance, I mean they think I'm a kid, so why are they going to talk to me? I'm so self concious it's unreal. Even with make-up on i still look really young. As my parents say, I know I'll appreciate it when I'm older, but could I at least look 18 now!? I also hate the fact that I'm short, it makes me feel very inferior to other people.
Sorry to go on and on, I just have a lot of emotions built up inside that I need to let out. I just want to be able to hold and lead a conversation, to not constantly worry about what's running through the other persons mind. I really struggle with eye contact too, so want to overcome that. I'm just very lost at the moment.. living in a city with only one real friend, it's so depressing. I have also missed most of this first semester at uni and am considering quitting, because I really can't face my fellow students. I know I have my boyfriend, but he is much more outgoing and I don't really speak to his friends or family. I just feel like I'm dragging him down and preventing him for having fun, because he is always trying to reassure me and help me through my constant worries.
I'm such a miserable person and long to be someone else. why is there always something wrong with me, why can't i just be normal??
Thanks for reading if you got this far! hope you all had a lovely christmas.