harasgenster
27-12-10, 23:59
Hi
I've been trying to socialise over Christmas but have found it absolutely horrible. I went out with my boyfriend and his friends for Christmas Eve.
I felt like everything had gone wrong over a few events I can see are quite small and subjective things and I cried all night. Despite my boyfriend saying nothing went wrong and knowing I'm overreacting I'm still too terrified to do it again and have pulled out of all other socialising events over the holidays.
The thing is, I just think everyone's going to think I'm weird. I'm a bit eccentric (but in a nice way, I think), which means my friends find me funny but people who maybe aren't used to people with my sense of humour say things like "that was a really odd thing to say" or "what a weird thing to say" or "you're weird" after I speak. I mean, to my face and quite often!
Compounding this is that I get so anxious I actually do say weird things! I stumble over my words and end up saying something I didn't mean to say. Often it comes out so jumbled it doesn't make sense!
ALSO! It's got worse because I sometimes see people from home (where I grew up) who knew me when I was at school when I was very ill. I've worked very hard to become more stable, it's meant a lot of willpower and I'm extremely proud of myself but it's all kind of taken away but people saying TO MY FACE "Oh, so you're not nuts anymore", or "I used to think you were crazy but you're actually ok" or "Glad to see your not a mental anymore". Theses are all things people have said to me!
Sorry, I mostly wanted to rant, but does anyone else get called weird or feel like everyone's going to think that? I really want to socialise for the sake of my boyfriend if nothing else. I know he really wants me to get to know his friends and family. I just can't get over this!
Thank you!
I've been trying to socialise over Christmas but have found it absolutely horrible. I went out with my boyfriend and his friends for Christmas Eve.
I felt like everything had gone wrong over a few events I can see are quite small and subjective things and I cried all night. Despite my boyfriend saying nothing went wrong and knowing I'm overreacting I'm still too terrified to do it again and have pulled out of all other socialising events over the holidays.
The thing is, I just think everyone's going to think I'm weird. I'm a bit eccentric (but in a nice way, I think), which means my friends find me funny but people who maybe aren't used to people with my sense of humour say things like "that was a really odd thing to say" or "what a weird thing to say" or "you're weird" after I speak. I mean, to my face and quite often!
Compounding this is that I get so anxious I actually do say weird things! I stumble over my words and end up saying something I didn't mean to say. Often it comes out so jumbled it doesn't make sense!
ALSO! It's got worse because I sometimes see people from home (where I grew up) who knew me when I was at school when I was very ill. I've worked very hard to become more stable, it's meant a lot of willpower and I'm extremely proud of myself but it's all kind of taken away but people saying TO MY FACE "Oh, so you're not nuts anymore", or "I used to think you were crazy but you're actually ok" or "Glad to see your not a mental anymore". Theses are all things people have said to me!
Sorry, I mostly wanted to rant, but does anyone else get called weird or feel like everyone's going to think that? I really want to socialise for the sake of my boyfriend if nothing else. I know he really wants me to get to know his friends and family. I just can't get over this!
Thank you!