harasgenster
29-12-10, 18:21
Ok, I know I have posted about this before so I am sorry both about that and the subject matter! I hope this isn't too disgusting!
Right, I'm female and 24. I haven't been able to enjoy sex properly since I was 21 as I began to experience what people usually call female ejaculation. Before I start, I'll say that I am well aware it is contested whether this is urine or secretions from the skene's gland. I've done as much research I can and have found most doctors saying it is urine and most girl's magazine's saying it's something else. I've decided it's urine and I'm not going to change my mind anyway!
The point is, that really shouldn't matter. I only dribble very slightly and this has only happened to me three times in my life (years ago now!) but it's making me feel really depressed because I just don't enjoy sex anymore. I'm currently getting over an overactive bladder (meds working impeccably!) which makes me feel a bit like I need the toilet during sex anyway, and this has just made the issue stronger with me.
I did have a high sex drive but now rarely want to do it. I dread sex, don't enjoy it (don't get pleasure from it anymore) and actively avoid orgasm.
This article http://www.embarrassingproblems.com/problem/urination-during-sex talks about irritable bladder as a cause, which I find comforting as I'm already on medication for that, but the fact there is a slight risk is making me feel too anxious to become aroused.
I think I'm more here to vent my frustration, to be honest. I've been told by boyfriends and friends that I'm massively overreacting to what is essentially a teaspoon of pee (or if you believe some articles, not even pee) and nobody else minds but me! It's really getting me down. I just want my life back! Sex used to be something I enjoyed! :(
Right, I'm female and 24. I haven't been able to enjoy sex properly since I was 21 as I began to experience what people usually call female ejaculation. Before I start, I'll say that I am well aware it is contested whether this is urine or secretions from the skene's gland. I've done as much research I can and have found most doctors saying it is urine and most girl's magazine's saying it's something else. I've decided it's urine and I'm not going to change my mind anyway!
The point is, that really shouldn't matter. I only dribble very slightly and this has only happened to me three times in my life (years ago now!) but it's making me feel really depressed because I just don't enjoy sex anymore. I'm currently getting over an overactive bladder (meds working impeccably!) which makes me feel a bit like I need the toilet during sex anyway, and this has just made the issue stronger with me.
I did have a high sex drive but now rarely want to do it. I dread sex, don't enjoy it (don't get pleasure from it anymore) and actively avoid orgasm.
This article http://www.embarrassingproblems.com/problem/urination-during-sex talks about irritable bladder as a cause, which I find comforting as I'm already on medication for that, but the fact there is a slight risk is making me feel too anxious to become aroused.
I think I'm more here to vent my frustration, to be honest. I've been told by boyfriends and friends that I'm massively overreacting to what is essentially a teaspoon of pee (or if you believe some articles, not even pee) and nobody else minds but me! It's really getting me down. I just want my life back! Sex used to be something I enjoyed! :(