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Hi,ive been doing ok lately but ive fallen to pieces again..yesterday my other half said id lost weight,i now believe i do have cancer..im so scared im leaving my 2 young kids..ive hardly slept last night and i feel sick and cant stop crying,ive had alot of tests done in the last few months and my last full blood count was in November,it was fine..im so scared all over again.
You don't have cancer. Your Fbc was fine and it would be highly unlikely you'd be seriously unwell in such a short space of time.
If people tell me I look like I've lost weight I can usually see it myself and u know if I've not been eating so well, or been off my food due to being ill. Don't forget anxiety makes you lose weight.
If you lost alot of weight despite eating then see your GP, but you'd feel unwell, and have other symptoms too. Try not to worry, I know it's hard. Years ago I was terrified of leaving my children, and cancer was my biggest fear. It's a scary fear but worrying won't do you any good, it won't prevent what happens to us in life, so try to relax, but do see your GP is you you think your weight loss is a concern.
Hi Sandy
A few words of wisdom from an older sufferer (I'm 53).
I suffered a major breakdown in my early 20's and was hospitalised. It happened after a panic attack which just spiralled out of control - I was convinced I had this that and the other and was about to drop down dead any minute! I was terrified. I went to every specialist/consultant under the sun and - nothing. At the time, I knew nothing about anxiety etc and not one doctor even mentioned it. (most doctors are only interested in the clinical side of medicine) until they rule out any other cause, they then consider psychological disorders.
Anyway, once I started to get a little better, I started reading about anxiety etc and slowly began to understand what the mind can do to the body.
My advice to you is to be as well imformed as possible - read Claire Weeks's books if you hav'nt already and then you need to practice acceptance. Once you accept you are an anxious person and you may have times when you feel crap, you will start to get things under control.
Even after all these years, I still get times when I have a blip and start sliding back, however, I think the key is - not to get scared of your symptoms, dont worry about not sleeping etc etc. I know its hard and everyone has their own survival strategies - you just need to find yours.
Hope this helps.
Judi
Thanks for your replys..i am a worrier and always have been,im losing weight and scared my other half and family say it will be because of the stress ive been since july when the fear of cancer and dying got a grip of me,ive had to date a colonoscopy/upper endoscopy/pelvic internal ultra sound and a abdo ultrasound all what was shown was gastris and small cysts on my ovaries..i had my FBC done in July and repeated in November they were fine both times..ive had a inflammation blood test done twice and both times it was normal..my gp has referred me to my local Psychiatric centre to be seen by a consultant im fine with this but what if hes wrong and all the tests have missed something..over christmas i was getting better but now im a mess again and the fear back.I dont eat regular but i do eat,however when im stressed my appetite goes.
I'm the same, when I'm anxious I just can't eat, my appetite goes. I then lose alot of weight quickly, and I'm thin enough. 6 years ago when my anxiety was bad I didn't eat for 2 weeks and I lost so much weight. It was all due to stress from worrying.
I used to ask for blood tests etc.... Now I dont ask and if my gp requests them I worry, lol!! Like recently I had a bad few months with my IBS, I saw my GP and he referred me for a pelvic ultrasound to rule out female issues, he scared me and I really didn't want the scan, but it was fine. Having frequent tests makes anxiety worse, unless needed I would try to avoid them.
Best of luck x
My GP takes this approach with me as well - he's very good at dealing with my anxiety and he will only refer me for tests if he thinks there's something useful to be gained from them. I've been having a lot of problems with my IBS lately as well but other than sending me for an abdominal scan later this month, he's managing it himself as he's convinced that IBS is the main problem and my anxiety is just making it worse.
Anxiety deffinately makes IBS worse! Mine flares up if I'm stressed out, and my GP knows that so he's a great help when it does flare up.
Im sitting here shaking with fear im going to die and leave my young kids,i feel sick and my arms/back and neck hurt,how i can i overcome this,what if the drs are wrong and im dying?
Hi Sandy,
Try to calm down and look at the facts logically for a moment.
“ive had alot of tests done in the last few months and my last full blood count was in November, it was fine.”
That's good. It’s true that doctors do very very occasionally miss things, but it’s extremely rare. So for different doctors and lots of different tests to all miss something serious and life threatening would be verging on the impossible, don’t you think?
Have often have they been wrong in the past?
How often have your worries been right :winks:
“I dont eat regular but i do eat, however when im stressed my appetite goes.”
Could there be an answer in there somewhere?
And on top of that, anxiety can be demanding of the body, burning off more calories at the same time as you’re consuming less. Plus the body works differently when anxious and panicky. Panic and anxiety are all about survival – looking out for and preparing to face some sort of danger. So less essential functions like the digestive system are suppressed, compounding the problem still further.
I’m sure this is just a case of worrying about worrying :winks:
Take care :)
Nigel
Nigel,thanks for your reply..i have little faith in Drs as they made mistakes last year regarding my son..today im still the same,feeling sick and shaking and to be honest scared more than ever im dying..how or what do i do..my gp is closed to wed and iver no-one to talk to,my other half is at work and i so scared.
Yes but you've had tests, which are very unlikely to be wrong. If it was just your doctors word then ok, but it's not, he's run tests and told you all is ok. You should take comfort in that.
Don't wish the precious years with your children away. My anxiety was so bad 7 years ago that I don't remember my 2nd Childs first steps or first words:((( That will always haunt me! I cherish every day, and although I have blips I don't let it stop me enjoying my life with them.
Anxiety causes tension, aches and pains.
I think you need to ask for cbt asap, and have you thought of anxiety medication?
Self help books are good. Here my GP prescribed me a book about how to stop worrying about your health, it was a helpful read.
Hi im taking Cymbalta and pregabalin, but im in such a mess its just to much,i see a Psychiatric consultant on the 12th,what will she do? I see a gynae consultant this fri because of my cysts and heavy periods..im worried about that.I had a internal pelvic scan in August which showed small cysts but my gp said all was fine,they were the type of cysts that come and go and are common..he read out the report to me and said it was all fine..where can i get some good books and what are the best ones to read? my shoulders/arms are aching and i cant stop crying and shaking..is this really just anxiety? i wake up during the night and lie and worry.
Sandy Honey, this IS anxiety - but you are panicking and this is causing the adrenaline to surge through your body and give you all these horrible symptoms and thoughts. I know it is difficult to believe that the way you feel at the moment is all psycological, but believe me it is. Just read your posts in this thread - you seem to be searching for a medical reason for the way you feel. There probably is'nt one - but even if there was, it is probably something very minor and treatable. I went for numerous test and to dozens of specialists and the conclusion was - I was mentally and physically exhausted and I had GERD, which I take medication for and is fine - not life threatening.
Your shoulders and arms ache at present because you are so tense that your shoulders are probably up around your ears!! Try and let your body go limp, particulary your shoulders and neck.
My favorite books are Claire Weekes, when I first read them, I thought she was writing about me - they are very easy to read and make a lot of sense. They became my bible when I was very ill!! (I've had them nearly 30 years) and I still go back to them when I have a blip.
You'll be fine when you get this under control and accept it for what it is - anxiety.
Good luck
Judi
Hi Thank you for your reply,im scared to believe its all due to stress..what if its not and im right,can anxiety really cause all these pains? like i said im scared to believe it..are Claire Weekes books available in book shops?
It really is anxiety, it drains you and makes you feel terrible.
You have alot on your mind, no wonder you feel stressed.
At the gynae appointment they will probably do a vaginal examination and talk to you about your symptoms. The cysts are common and can cause heavy periods so try not to worry, they may try to treat them, which is a good thing.
The book is called 'How to stop worrying about your health'. I can't remember who wrote it, google the title. It's a great book.
The 2 Claire Weekes book I would recommend you get are "Hope and help for your nerves" and "Essential help for your nerves". They are both available on amazon.
You can probably order them from book shops and yes, stress/anxiety/panic CAN cause all the pains.
help me i konw im dying,im losing weight,no-one believes me
Sandy go and see your GP. We aren't qualified to tell you if you're ill or not, but I can say from my own experience that you're experiencing high anxiety which will cause a number of symptoms.
You are so stressed out, I bet you're not eating so no wonder you've lost weight.
I'm not trying to be harsh but I've been where you are and reassurance gives temporary positive thoughts, but then you're back asking again a few hours later. part of CBT is not asking for reassurance, only going to GP if necessary etc....
You are not ill I'm sure, but go and see your GP for a chat, as I'm sure he/she will be able to help.
Larna,im not eating but im not hungry im crying all the time and cant cope,im so scared im dying..im going try and see my GP today..
macc noodle
05-01-11, 08:00
Sandy
I know completely where you are coming from with this - have had exactly the same problems this year (for the first time in over 15 years) - when referred to hospital for a scan I was too damned scared to have it done and so I haven't even put the fears completely to rest by having an examination BUT my doc has done loads of blood tests and assures me it is all anxiety and that I do need to get a grip of the anxiety rather than it getting a grip on me!
Easier said than done we all cry out !!!!
BUT the worse we feel with anxiety the higher our senses become to every little twinge etc and the more we feel anxious the more tired and achey painy we become because of the constant tension in our body and the countless hours spent worrying over every little blip.
Re: weight loss - if you are not eating then you will lose weight!! (I go the opposite way when anxious and eat constantly which gives me a weight gain).
Larna is spot on about the CBT giving you the power to stop seeking constant reassurance and to give you coping strategies to deal with this. Right now, I feel quite in control of my anxiety because I can rationalise these sensations when they occur and say "OK this is just me being anxious" and not allow myself to build up to a crescendo of fear and worry and convince myself I am dying or that the docs. have missed something - you can achieve this too although I know at the mo. it does not feel like it - call the doc and tell them how bad you are feeling.
Take care
Larna..my last FBC was 9th Nov and he said it was fine my inflammation marker was normal then too..i had my oxygen level taken just before christmas as i thought lung cancer he said it was better than his..wheres my appetite gone..i LOVE food. xxxx
Hi Sandy 40,
I understand how scared you are. I have been there. Try a strategy you have been taught. Breath. We are all here for you.
Daniela
You're fine then honestly!! Blood results do not change that quickly, so you should relax, you're healthy.
You need to relax and take your mind off things, then your appetite will creep back. I know because it's happened to me so many times with anxiety.
AllInMyHead
05-01-11, 16:54
Sandy40,
I know where you are coming from with the loss of appetite. Eating is my second favourite thing (second only to sleeping). I even did weight watchers for a while. But when I had really bad anxiety recently, I couldn't eat or sleep, and I was very concerned about losing weight quickly. But I became less anxious and my appetite returned.
Try to stop yourself imagining what it would be like if the worst happens. I sometimes imagine what it would be like to have to tell my family I'm dying, and what it would be like for my husband without me. The reality is that a) the situation is soooooo unlikely to happen that it's not worth beating myself up about and b) if it did happen, it would be ok. It would be awful and terrible and difficult, but it would be ok, and everyone would cope, people always do.
Hang in there, you seem like you've been through this before and come out the other side. You'll come through this too. x
FitnessLady02
09-01-11, 15:45
Hi! Don't assume that much. Maybe your speculations are wrong and you are in the fine shape. :) Just have your regular check up and never loose hope.
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