W.I.F.T.S.
29-03-06, 09:21
There are many things that I am still trying to come to terms with. I've had severe depression and panic attacks for 3 years now and I've done really well to carry on working, to go away for holidays and to go out there and be proactive. If I wasn't unwell, then the things that I have done would surely have made me feel really good about myself, so why haven't they lifted me out of my depression?
I feel like I was more ill towards the start of my depression when I barricaded myself in my room on christmas day because I had a horrible, violent urge to hurt myself or other people that terrified me. Yet, back then, there were other times when I could drive down the motorway quite happily, now it's a struggle to leave my home town.
I've always tried to push through the fear: I've gone away, I've driven over bridges, been on motorways, climbed small mountains, been on planes and, for most of them, it was really easy and I felt great afterwards, but the frustrating part is that I still haven't conquered the fear. I still have the same terror about doing those things as I ever did.
I am learning the lesson that fear is purely psychological. When I see old grannies climbing the Great Orme in LLandudno, I know that I can do it too and the only thing stopping me is me.
I am learning that the reason I have been depressed most of my life is because I have let fear rule me. I have been passive and not dared to ask for what I want, letting other people ride over me to get what they want. I've not really joined in with things or put myself out there. I've not given myself the opportunity to make new friends because I've been introverted and scared of rejection. I've not dared go for what I want in case I fail (or succeed!).
I am learning that I'm not unusual or a freak, that most other people think exactly the same as me. That they have intrusive thoughts too, but that they don't feel the shame, the guilt or the fear about them that i do.
I am learning that 'normal' people aren't all super confident and sure of themselves, that we all struggle to find direction and meaning in life. I am also learning that the people I know who are the happiest are either those that have truly accepted their lot or those that keep pushing through fear, stretching themselves, expanding their comfort zones and seeking new experiences. Those that are the happiest are doing what they want with their lives, rather than conforming to what other people want them to do.
I am learning how important it is to live in the hear and now, to live life rather than endure it. The two things that scare me the most are 'what if... ' and trying to take on the scale of the world that we live in. I look outside my window and see miles of fields and it makes me feel sick in my stomach because I think that this is the surface of the earth and it goes for thousands of miles in every direction...stop the world I want to get off!!! But the funny thing is that I can also see it how 'well' or 'normal' people would see it, as a beautiful scene.
I'm learning that my life isn't a failure if I don't become recognised as a genius or make a million pounds. I'm also learning how many people put those exact same pressures on themselves and become paralysed by them. The important thing for me is to keep growing and to learn how to appreciate life more fully.
I'm learning that other people's wisdom is valid and helpful and that i don't have to try and do it all by myself. This site and self-help books have really helped to mould my outlook.
I'm learning that recovery doesn't necessarily happen in a straight line. There have been so many times when I have felt like I have been getting better only to feel worse than ever the next day. My symptoms have changed over the course of three years. I used to have a non-stop ringing headache and be unable to sleep at night, they have thankfully passed. Unreality came and hopefully is going. I think in some ways I used to have more drive because I had a picture of a car on my wall that I was determined to possess and I had
I feel like I was more ill towards the start of my depression when I barricaded myself in my room on christmas day because I had a horrible, violent urge to hurt myself or other people that terrified me. Yet, back then, there were other times when I could drive down the motorway quite happily, now it's a struggle to leave my home town.
I've always tried to push through the fear: I've gone away, I've driven over bridges, been on motorways, climbed small mountains, been on planes and, for most of them, it was really easy and I felt great afterwards, but the frustrating part is that I still haven't conquered the fear. I still have the same terror about doing those things as I ever did.
I am learning the lesson that fear is purely psychological. When I see old grannies climbing the Great Orme in LLandudno, I know that I can do it too and the only thing stopping me is me.
I am learning that the reason I have been depressed most of my life is because I have let fear rule me. I have been passive and not dared to ask for what I want, letting other people ride over me to get what they want. I've not really joined in with things or put myself out there. I've not given myself the opportunity to make new friends because I've been introverted and scared of rejection. I've not dared go for what I want in case I fail (or succeed!).
I am learning that I'm not unusual or a freak, that most other people think exactly the same as me. That they have intrusive thoughts too, but that they don't feel the shame, the guilt or the fear about them that i do.
I am learning that 'normal' people aren't all super confident and sure of themselves, that we all struggle to find direction and meaning in life. I am also learning that the people I know who are the happiest are either those that have truly accepted their lot or those that keep pushing through fear, stretching themselves, expanding their comfort zones and seeking new experiences. Those that are the happiest are doing what they want with their lives, rather than conforming to what other people want them to do.
I am learning how important it is to live in the hear and now, to live life rather than endure it. The two things that scare me the most are 'what if... ' and trying to take on the scale of the world that we live in. I look outside my window and see miles of fields and it makes me feel sick in my stomach because I think that this is the surface of the earth and it goes for thousands of miles in every direction...stop the world I want to get off!!! But the funny thing is that I can also see it how 'well' or 'normal' people would see it, as a beautiful scene.
I'm learning that my life isn't a failure if I don't become recognised as a genius or make a million pounds. I'm also learning how many people put those exact same pressures on themselves and become paralysed by them. The important thing for me is to keep growing and to learn how to appreciate life more fully.
I'm learning that other people's wisdom is valid and helpful and that i don't have to try and do it all by myself. This site and self-help books have really helped to mould my outlook.
I'm learning that recovery doesn't necessarily happen in a straight line. There have been so many times when I have felt like I have been getting better only to feel worse than ever the next day. My symptoms have changed over the course of three years. I used to have a non-stop ringing headache and be unable to sleep at night, they have thankfully passed. Unreality came and hopefully is going. I think in some ways I used to have more drive because I had a picture of a car on my wall that I was determined to possess and I had