d4zzling
26-01-11, 23:44
About a year ago I split from my wife and moved out of the family home, leaving behind my 2 children. The reasons behind this are many fold but the hardest was knowing that she was at the very least having facebook dirty chat with ex school friends (whilst I worked long hours to pay for the good lifestyle we had and she began to expect), the rest I can only guess.
Since then I have lived on my own and have found this incredibly hard both in terms of being lonely and the pressures of needing to raise more income to cover more bills, maintenance etc.
Also I have my own business which after a few years of reasonable trading is suffering a bit with the state of the economy and if I am being honest is my reduced enthusiasm because of my state of mind.
My time with my kids (2 nights a week) has become less and less fun for them as I just can't be in a great frame of mind.
About 2 months ago I met a lovely girl and our time together has been great but I found myself getting strangely anxious when we are apart (usually only for 2 or 3 days at a time). She has now gone on holiday with her freinds and I am quite literally falling apart and feel worse than I have ever felt.
Its almost like everything that has happened over the past couple of years is about to push me over the edge, including the feeling that even though I am trying to hold it in that my anxieties over my new girlfriend are pushing her away. Maybe I am for the first time really scared of another failed relationship.
I know find myself drinking more alone and not having the energy for anything other than a bit of running I do. I can see my business is suffering and I am about to chuck away another relationship.
In short I am rock bottom and find myself telling myself a couple of times a day to "snap out of it" BUT it's really not that easy!
I am totally lost with it all!
Since then I have lived on my own and have found this incredibly hard both in terms of being lonely and the pressures of needing to raise more income to cover more bills, maintenance etc.
Also I have my own business which after a few years of reasonable trading is suffering a bit with the state of the economy and if I am being honest is my reduced enthusiasm because of my state of mind.
My time with my kids (2 nights a week) has become less and less fun for them as I just can't be in a great frame of mind.
About 2 months ago I met a lovely girl and our time together has been great but I found myself getting strangely anxious when we are apart (usually only for 2 or 3 days at a time). She has now gone on holiday with her freinds and I am quite literally falling apart and feel worse than I have ever felt.
Its almost like everything that has happened over the past couple of years is about to push me over the edge, including the feeling that even though I am trying to hold it in that my anxieties over my new girlfriend are pushing her away. Maybe I am for the first time really scared of another failed relationship.
I know find myself drinking more alone and not having the energy for anything other than a bit of running I do. I can see my business is suffering and I am about to chuck away another relationship.
In short I am rock bottom and find myself telling myself a couple of times a day to "snap out of it" BUT it's really not that easy!
I am totally lost with it all!