Could do with some reassurance please

[debbsi]

Hi
I keep lurking on here hoping for some reasurrance and havent posted for a while, but I cant hold off any longer - I really need someone to make me feel better :(
Anyway its a bit of a long one sorry -
I have been to the docs with my 13 yr old son a couple of times over the last 6 months ish he complains of mid back pain particularly when he's been sat at the playstation pc etc - he does sit in some odd positions - so i am sure the pain is to do with that.
Anyway I went to see the nurse practioner (who seems to refer you for everything to be on the safe side and often puts the fear of god into you). He thought it was just muscular but referred for an xray and wanted urine samples in case it was his kidney (!!!!!!!)
Anyway my son has had problems with wetting himself since he was a toddler and was seeing a paediatrician who discharged him saying he would grow out of it and he didnt have any physical problems it was behavioural - he still hasnt grown out of it but has improved
The sample came back saying it had more white blood cells in it than it should but there was no infection - so he had to do another sample
Anyway after panicking for a week over the sample the doctors receptionist phoned to say that the nurse had spoken to the gp who wanted to refer him to a paediatric specialist in urology (!!!!!!!)
this appointment was about 5 weeks away - then i got a letter to say that his appointmnt had been cancelled and referred to a more appropriate dept - which is the consultant paediatrician (still in 5 weeks)
the xray came back normal
So I dont actually know what the referral is for - urine problems, his back or both???
I darent phone the doc to ask cos it will probably give me something else to worry about
I am really scared - so frightened what is wrong - if anything - the angel on my shoulder says the back is muscular due to his awkward position when sitting for long periods of time at the playstation, it says that the urine sample is ok otherwise he would still be seeing the urology doc and that the referral is for his bedwetting
What does everyone else think??? cos that dam devil on my other shoulder says its something awful -
I am also mega stressed as i am on a full time work placement and have loads of essays to write and no time to breath, let alone deal with this - i have cried all the way home from work several times but am trying to stay strong
HELP :weep:

[Gemmalou84]

Awww Hun please try and stay calm much easier said than done I know ! I'm sure if it was anything serious the doc would have been in touch and u wouldn't have 2 wait 5 weeks for an appt if it was for something urgent ! so I'm sure it's just the bedwetting andaybe the doc just presumed u would know it's for that with the X-ray and sample all coming back ok ! They may just want 2 do see if he has a weak bladder or something simple like that ! Why don't u just phone the docs 2moro and ask what exactly is he being referred for ??? Keep calm hun :))) xx

[sandy40]

Hi Debs,dont worry any longer,if it was anything sinister then he would not be waiting 5 weeks..honest..now get on the phone tomorrow and ask if you could speak to the Paediatric Consultant who is dealing with your son and tell him your worried and crying as your scared whats wrong with your son..he will put your mind at ease..he probably wont be there when you call his secretary but leave your contact nbr for him to get back to you..the fact hes been referred to a paediatric consultant and not a urology consultant is good..but get on that phone to ease your worries.x

[debbsi]

hi thanks for the reply - the first urine sample was not ok - i dont actually know what the second one came back like as they didnt tell me, i'm too scared to phone the docs in case they tell me something bad - i will just put 2 and 2 together and get 5 no matter what they say :(

[snowgoose]

HI:)
No wonder you are frantic :hugs: any parent would be so completely natural.
agree with others .......if anything serious was going on believe me .....you would not be waiting for 5 week appointment . hand on heart xx

Ring your surgery tomorrow and get appointment with gp .....and also contact secretary of the consultant your son has been referred to as previously suggested ..............ask for him to phone you or contact by e -mail which is sometimes easier for them .and you have record also.
honest if something was ringing alarm bells ......you would be called in sooner .
they should explain why the switch ..so call gp tomorrow . and dont fret xxxx

[debbsi]

thanks guys - that makes me feel a bit better, not sure if i feel brave enough to phone the consultant or go to the gp, i find it hard admitting to people that i am a worrier. Daft I know - but i am training to be a health professional myself so i think i dont want to look like a failure

[scaredstiff695]

hi

my cousin has nwet the bed zsince she hwas little and she is 17 now and still does she has to wear special nappies anyway...she desnt deal with her doctor about this its a specialist dnt no what it is or anythin. they treat her and tried different meds etc wth her and better advice and not too sure if tests were trun to make sure they were on the right path.

it sounds like you have been reffered for that and maybe for the back pain. but honestly i think they are dealing with the bed wetting and urine sample.

for your own mind ring doctors tomorow i would and any parent would be worrying like you are. dont though it will be fine big hugs to you chin up and dont fret xx

[uk23]

Not sure if it helps but when I was younger and had a playstation - thats when my back pains started. I am now 24 and work at a PC and the back pains have gotten worse. So from all the tests I am sure its that.

Also I had a blood test a couple of years ago and they found a higher WBC, the consultant just said I was most likely battling a cold or similar at the time and thats perfectly normal.

[debbsi]

hey thanks uk23 - i have back pain myself for the last 18 years - my daughter also has it she is 19 - i just cant get those thoughts out of my head x

[uk23]

I totally understand, its really hard to get the obsessive 'what if' thoughts out of our heads.

There are 2 possible outcomes with your son;

1. Muscle pain from posture (most likely)
2. Something wrong

The fact he has had a lot of tests which would rule out most things and that they are all clear means the chances of it being 2 are very very small, which just leaves 1.

Hope that helps a bit.

[debbsi]

Hi
Thanks again for the support.

Just an update - I spent a lot of time thinking about phoning the doc, and decided to go to see the gp who i like and discuss my snxiety and ask for some help.

I told him how fed up i was suffering from anxiety and that once this particular worry is resolved it will just be replaced with another one.

I came away with some propanalol, he suggested anti depressants but i declined and asked if i wanted to be re referred to the counsellor, which i said yes to

So i have the propanolol which i am reluctant to take yet as i cant have my well deserved glass of wine at the weekend when taking them so think i will put them away for when i really need them

I feel much better having been to see him and he alos sent me in to see the nurse who referred my son, i went in his office in tears and he did a good job at making me feel better.

So thanks again guys, i just hope the counselling works this time, as last time i went i discharged myself thinking i was better when i obvs wasnt xxxx