harasgenster
24-03-11, 11:21
Ok, I feel like I've already covered this with some of you and you've already given me advice. Thanks for all the support. I just need some more reassurance because I'm struggling to stop the worry!
I wrote on another thread how I feel that problems with my bladder (needing to go constantly) have weakened my pelvic floor (by going constantly for a year!) I have been doing kegel exercises and can hold them tense for longer than I used to be able to but haven't noticed a difference in the size of my vagina.
I know I'm not massive and that to most it wouldn't be a problem but this year I have not had one session of intimacy (best way I could put it!) that I can say I totally enjoyed. Unfortunately, I met my bf just after the illness started so this means I have never enjoyed totally it with him and have been putting it on a lot! First my bladder just made it too uncomfortable and then now that the bladder problems are starting to go, I just can't feel it! I used to be able to feel everything - as if my muscles were squeezing around it - but now it just feels a bit, well, slack. The sex isn't bad, I just find it disappointing. Not because of anything my bf is doing but just because I can't feel it like I could with exes before I had these problems. My bf is no different from them, before anyone asks! But this makes me feel rotten, because I want my sex life with this bf to be as good as it was with other people and I also just miss my body being the way it was!
I know it's just a small problem but my mind has honed in on it over the past few days - it was just a nagging little worry at first - and now it's making me upset. I've started refusing my bf because I just don't see the point anymore!
Sorry if it's too much TMI but I just need reassurance. If I keep doing the exercises will my body go back to how it used to be? I just need to believe that this is reversible!
Thank you :)
I wrote on another thread how I feel that problems with my bladder (needing to go constantly) have weakened my pelvic floor (by going constantly for a year!) I have been doing kegel exercises and can hold them tense for longer than I used to be able to but haven't noticed a difference in the size of my vagina.
I know I'm not massive and that to most it wouldn't be a problem but this year I have not had one session of intimacy (best way I could put it!) that I can say I totally enjoyed. Unfortunately, I met my bf just after the illness started so this means I have never enjoyed totally it with him and have been putting it on a lot! First my bladder just made it too uncomfortable and then now that the bladder problems are starting to go, I just can't feel it! I used to be able to feel everything - as if my muscles were squeezing around it - but now it just feels a bit, well, slack. The sex isn't bad, I just find it disappointing. Not because of anything my bf is doing but just because I can't feel it like I could with exes before I had these problems. My bf is no different from them, before anyone asks! But this makes me feel rotten, because I want my sex life with this bf to be as good as it was with other people and I also just miss my body being the way it was!
I know it's just a small problem but my mind has honed in on it over the past few days - it was just a nagging little worry at first - and now it's making me upset. I've started refusing my bf because I just don't see the point anymore!
Sorry if it's too much TMI but I just need reassurance. If I keep doing the exercises will my body go back to how it used to be? I just need to believe that this is reversible!
Thank you :)