Filthy1
17-04-11, 12:54
Hi guys,
Its been a long time since I've been on here but recently I think my ROCD has been acting up but I am not sure if it is or not so need some advice. Sorry if it's a long one!
I have been with my boyf for 4 yrs & at the start of our relationship I had really bad ROCD but we got through it and we are happily still together.
However, the last couple of months I have been wondering if I really am happy with my boyf.
Example: Last night I went out without him, drinking & dancing etc & I love to dance & obviously like to get attention from guys. The thing is I worry that I want TOO much attention from guys, or the fact that I do means that I don't love my boyf. I also feel really ugly, fat & horrible if I don't get chatted up/danced with, even though I don't actually want to go home with any of these guys. Am I just being slutty??
Second of all, I tend to make friends with men much easier than women & when ever I make a new male friend, I suddenly think that I fancy him & worry that I don't want to be with my bf & that I would be tempted to run off with this new friend. I have recently made one of these such friends, but have kept my distance after he turned up at a family party (inappropriate much!) and was a bit too friendly for my liking! But now, I keep thinking that I fancy one of my bf's friends who I have only just started getting on with recently. I met up with him & a couple of other lads who I am friends with last night. I am not sure if I was getting jealous that this lad was chatting up another girl or not! (I don't actually like the girl so this could have actually been what was going on).
So every time I go out drinking without my bf, the next day I always feel horribly guilty & feel like I need to confess to him!! I constantly am paranoid that he is pissed off with me for going out, even though he says he isn't.
Also, I worry that I don't really miss him, or that I am faking it when I say "Love you" or that I am not really having fun with him or enjoying his company. Or that when we are at home, I am too interested in my laptop/tv/phone and not interested enough in him.
A bit of background, my first real relationship was a complete nightmare, they convinced me that I had cheated on them because I slept with someone else around the same time we got together - I didn't cheat, I was single - but they twisted it & even made me confess to family & friends that I had cheated.
I have always felt like everyone's ugly friend or the easy girl, I never had boyfriends in school, I was more the girl that the lads would get off with but never actually go out with. Also, after my first relationship ended, I was a bit slutty & slept with a few blokes that had girlfriends, but I didn't know this until AFTER!
Anyway, I know you guys all are very wise so I look forward to your replies.
Thank you lots! xx
Its been a long time since I've been on here but recently I think my ROCD has been acting up but I am not sure if it is or not so need some advice. Sorry if it's a long one!
I have been with my boyf for 4 yrs & at the start of our relationship I had really bad ROCD but we got through it and we are happily still together.
However, the last couple of months I have been wondering if I really am happy with my boyf.
Example: Last night I went out without him, drinking & dancing etc & I love to dance & obviously like to get attention from guys. The thing is I worry that I want TOO much attention from guys, or the fact that I do means that I don't love my boyf. I also feel really ugly, fat & horrible if I don't get chatted up/danced with, even though I don't actually want to go home with any of these guys. Am I just being slutty??
Second of all, I tend to make friends with men much easier than women & when ever I make a new male friend, I suddenly think that I fancy him & worry that I don't want to be with my bf & that I would be tempted to run off with this new friend. I have recently made one of these such friends, but have kept my distance after he turned up at a family party (inappropriate much!) and was a bit too friendly for my liking! But now, I keep thinking that I fancy one of my bf's friends who I have only just started getting on with recently. I met up with him & a couple of other lads who I am friends with last night. I am not sure if I was getting jealous that this lad was chatting up another girl or not! (I don't actually like the girl so this could have actually been what was going on).
So every time I go out drinking without my bf, the next day I always feel horribly guilty & feel like I need to confess to him!! I constantly am paranoid that he is pissed off with me for going out, even though he says he isn't.
Also, I worry that I don't really miss him, or that I am faking it when I say "Love you" or that I am not really having fun with him or enjoying his company. Or that when we are at home, I am too interested in my laptop/tv/phone and not interested enough in him.
A bit of background, my first real relationship was a complete nightmare, they convinced me that I had cheated on them because I slept with someone else around the same time we got together - I didn't cheat, I was single - but they twisted it & even made me confess to family & friends that I had cheated.
I have always felt like everyone's ugly friend or the easy girl, I never had boyfriends in school, I was more the girl that the lads would get off with but never actually go out with. Also, after my first relationship ended, I was a bit slutty & slept with a few blokes that had girlfriends, but I didn't know this until AFTER!
Anyway, I know you guys all are very wise so I look forward to your replies.
Thank you lots! xx