~glowly worm~
19-04-11, 15:01
Hi all,
i have been battling with what to do about next year's living accommodation for a while now and thought it might help to get some thoughts from those who understand.
I have spent this year living alone as I thought it might help ease the non stop panic i get about others being ill and also thefact that i could have my own kitchen and not worry about the food contaminated thing..
It has not been without its stresses and friends and family think it has made me worse in some way (last thing i want!!) because i get to avoid illness and being on my own is avoiding having to share a kitchen and share with others etc.. and im in my own head alot and barely socialise duye to the workload. However ive still been non stop anxious!
Ive been thinking of asking 3 friends if they want to share next year and have found a decent 4 bed property to rent near uni.
I thought 3 was agood number, not too many but enough so that if we have problems we can mediate them.
I have shared 7 times before so it isnt new to me but im afraid as my anxiety is so bad at the mo and it will be a crucial few months with uni...
Has anyone with HA shared before? Has it helped or made things worse for you?
Did not avoiding help?
Were there any strategies that you found useful to cope?
I made a big list of pros and cons but still no idea what to do...and need to decide soon. I need to learn to be okay and know they say avoidance is the worst but do want to make the best choice in order to manage it.
Many thanks,
~glowly~
i have been battling with what to do about next year's living accommodation for a while now and thought it might help to get some thoughts from those who understand.
I have spent this year living alone as I thought it might help ease the non stop panic i get about others being ill and also thefact that i could have my own kitchen and not worry about the food contaminated thing..
It has not been without its stresses and friends and family think it has made me worse in some way (last thing i want!!) because i get to avoid illness and being on my own is avoiding having to share a kitchen and share with others etc.. and im in my own head alot and barely socialise duye to the workload. However ive still been non stop anxious!
Ive been thinking of asking 3 friends if they want to share next year and have found a decent 4 bed property to rent near uni.
I thought 3 was agood number, not too many but enough so that if we have problems we can mediate them.
I have shared 7 times before so it isnt new to me but im afraid as my anxiety is so bad at the mo and it will be a crucial few months with uni...
Has anyone with HA shared before? Has it helped or made things worse for you?
Did not avoiding help?
Were there any strategies that you found useful to cope?
I made a big list of pros and cons but still no idea what to do...and need to decide soon. I need to learn to be okay and know they say avoidance is the worst but do want to make the best choice in order to manage it.
Many thanks,
~glowly~