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[shy]

[:I] Hi im Kim.I have two children and live with OH and find it hard to make friends and panic when i start chating to people it just makes it impossible to make any friends being like this, i wish i was Confident. I need to get out the house and meet other mums just so my kids can have playmates too. I feel like im letting them down just because of my serious shyness.

Anyway i hope to get to know you all soon and hope i can give you advice and support as well[^]

[carolynw]

Hi kim,

Im new too! only found this site yesterday and already have found some help and advice i seriously needed. I know how you feel about meeting new people as i can be quite shy too until i get to know people, its very hard in those situations to know what to say and do. Some times, you have to just grit your teeth and jump in, easier said than done though.

Hope to speak to you again soon

Love Carolyn

[ebonieyes]

hi kim ,i'm clare.just joined as well so well done for getting the confidence to talk about you're shyness,i know how you feel as i have children and find it hard to talk to other mums at school and at nursery.

clare smith

[trac67]

Hi Kim,

Welcome to the forum, you will get a lot of good advice here and make some new friends.

Take care

Trac xx

'Live your life with arms wide open, today is where your book begins, the rest is still unwritten'

[chucklehound]

Hi Kim and welcome to the forum!

[dream]

hi kim
welcome to this site
take care denisexx

denise

[giddy]

Welcome Kim
Love Helen

[Karen]

Hi Kim

Welcome to the forum.

You might find the following information helpful:

First Steps (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/default.asp?t=cms&c=firststeps)

Symptoms (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/default.asp?t=cms&c=symptoms)

Links post: Links to posts about Common Problems (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7784)

You will find a lot of help and support here.


Karen



Happiness is not a state to arrive at but a manner of travelling.

You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough ~ Christine Cagney, Cagney & Lacey

[heths]

Hi Kim,

Welcome to the forum.

I have shyness/social anxiety too. I can relate to what you're saying, I have always found it hard making friends, fitting in, socialising etc.

You're not alone with it and you'll get some good support and advice on here.

Take Care,
Heather

Heather

[strawberrie]

hi Kim, welcome to the site, you will meet lots of nice people here.

It can feel quite isolating being a mum and looking after kids, we moved to a new area when my kids were very small and I felt very lonely for quite a while. The only advice i can give you is to try and get out with your kids and concentrate on doing stuff with them rather than worrying about trying to make friends.

I went to a couple of toddler groups but only felt worse because i felt as though everyone there already knew each other, but i found that the more i got out and did stuff just for the kids (e.g. going to the local park, walking the kids up to school) the more i kept seeing the same people and over time friendships developed. You might start off just by smiling or saying hello to someone you recognise, and then you are not feeling the pressure of having to keep up a conversation.

I don't know how old your kids are, but if they are at school age, how about asking them if they have any friends they would like to invite round, this would give you an opportunity to gain some familiarity with other mums without too much pressure.

I know you said you feel like you are letting your kids down, but you are not. They have plenty of opportunity to make friends of their own at school or nursery, and before that age, your love and attention is much more important to them than lots of playmates.

Remember that friendships dont happen overnight, try to start small and that way things will happen naturally.

take care,
mag

[nomorepanic]

Hi Kim

Welcome aboard. You will soon settle in here and feel at home.

Nicola

[Alexandra]

Hi Kim

Welcome to the forum.

You will find lots of help & support on here.

Take Care

Alex

Many People Will Walk
In & Out Of Your Life
But Only True Friends
Will Leave Footprints
In Your Heart

[May Day]

Hi Kim and Carolyn

Welcome to NMP ... you'll be able to make friends here and get lots of advice too ... being shy is hard when you have kids to think about but other mums are usually quite friendly and often realize how hard it is to socialize so make a few small frist steps ine saying hi to them ... natter about the kids if nothing else ... maybe ask one round for a coffee while the kids play for an hour ... its sometimes easier to ask one round so that the kids can get used to socializing ... i often used this as an excuse as i only had one child and felt she needed to learn to interact with others before starting school ... good luck

May

The brightest, sunniest day may follow the darkest, stormiest night ... enjoy the sun

[honeybee3939]

Hi Kim,


And welcome to the site!:D


Love Andrea
xxx

[shy]

THanks for all your replys everyone i feel at home already:D

[jackie]

shy, hope you feel at home here

you are not alone, hope we can help

jackie