captured_butterfly
24-04-11, 12:23
Hey im new to this website but im feeling very sad and thought i might find some nice words or advice from you guys, sorry this will be long, need to vent :-(
Basically ive had anxiety for aslong as i can remember, my mum has mental health problems and i had a tough upbringing, i always felt not gud enough for anyone, always felt rejected by a lot of people. I also suffer with a mild form of agrophobia, i get VERY anxious if i have to stay away from home for any period of time, ie going on holiday, i have got a lot better at going away after having CBT but i still find it very stressful.
I got with my now ex bf 7 yrs ago wen we were both 17, he was my first boyfriend, my first everything, couldnt beleive my luck that someone could actually fancy me, we had lots of fun together and lots of happy memories, he helped me through CBT and was always there for me when my mum was bad, he was my star.
Things went wrong when he cheated on me 2 yrs ago :-( worst time of my life! Absolutely devastated when this happened! I found a way to forgive him and we tried again, i was sooooo scared of what people would say that i didnt tell anyone i was seeing him again for months, which he wasnt happy about but went along with it for me, but then out the blue he dumped me and started seeing someone else, once again i was absoutely devastated that he had left me :-( Blamed myself that i wasnt the happy bubbly person that i used to be :-( His relationship didnt last long and once again we got back together and once again i didnt tell anyone for fear of what people would think etc etc I hate feeling that people are talking about me, i cant stand it, i hate that i feel like everyone is judging me :-( By october last year i told my family and friends and they were'nt particulalry happy but got on with it, my ex arranged for an all expenses paid trip to London for us and we had the most amazing time.
In February this year we talked about renting somewhere together, we saw a couple of places then i got panicky and couldnt go through with it :-( He got a little house in the same village i live, on his own and said i could move in when ever i was ready. Since then all we've done really is argue, i just never really beleived he wanted to be with me and that there was someone better that he wanted, i was constantly asking if he was alright and if we was alright as a couple, i just kept getting the impression he didnt love me, even though he said it all the time. He was always a liar which doesnt help, as im trying to build up trust he would lie about something stupid that would just undo all the good, guess he got bored of trying with me :-(
Last Monday we broke up, i went out with a friend for tea and he was sat with another girl having tea :-( I dint know who she was, and i started having a panic attack, he came over and said it was a uni friend, when i got back to his later that night i laid into him about it, askin y he cudnt have just txt me to let me know and stuff, next monring he asked me to leave cos he was sick of it :-( i knew if i left his house that i couldnt go back, we're constantly on and off and i hate this :-( I wanted to speak to him but he wouldnt come home and talk to me so i left :-(
Ive havent txt him, just left him to it, he has txted me saying how hes full of regrets that he couldnt make it work and how he does really love me and that he hopes i find someone who can make me happy :-( :-( I havent replied to this :-( Painfully obvious theres no going back.
I just blame myself for this whole sorry mess, if i only i could have not worried about what people would say and just got on with it :-( If i only i didnt ask him a million times a day if he was happy :-( If i only i didnt say how ugly i was all the time and y i couldnt understand why he was with me :-( If only i had been more fun instead of sad and worried all the time. :-(
Im 24yrs old, have few friends that i dont think really like me, no boyfriend and now im never going to get married or have children :-( Feel like ive pushed away the one person that really understood me and that hurts like mad :-(
Im sorry this is long and anyone whos got to the end of this i appreciate it, any advice or nice words would be lovely :-( Feeling very low :-( xx
Basically ive had anxiety for aslong as i can remember, my mum has mental health problems and i had a tough upbringing, i always felt not gud enough for anyone, always felt rejected by a lot of people. I also suffer with a mild form of agrophobia, i get VERY anxious if i have to stay away from home for any period of time, ie going on holiday, i have got a lot better at going away after having CBT but i still find it very stressful.
I got with my now ex bf 7 yrs ago wen we were both 17, he was my first boyfriend, my first everything, couldnt beleive my luck that someone could actually fancy me, we had lots of fun together and lots of happy memories, he helped me through CBT and was always there for me when my mum was bad, he was my star.
Things went wrong when he cheated on me 2 yrs ago :-( worst time of my life! Absolutely devastated when this happened! I found a way to forgive him and we tried again, i was sooooo scared of what people would say that i didnt tell anyone i was seeing him again for months, which he wasnt happy about but went along with it for me, but then out the blue he dumped me and started seeing someone else, once again i was absoutely devastated that he had left me :-( Blamed myself that i wasnt the happy bubbly person that i used to be :-( His relationship didnt last long and once again we got back together and once again i didnt tell anyone for fear of what people would think etc etc I hate feeling that people are talking about me, i cant stand it, i hate that i feel like everyone is judging me :-( By october last year i told my family and friends and they were'nt particulalry happy but got on with it, my ex arranged for an all expenses paid trip to London for us and we had the most amazing time.
In February this year we talked about renting somewhere together, we saw a couple of places then i got panicky and couldnt go through with it :-( He got a little house in the same village i live, on his own and said i could move in when ever i was ready. Since then all we've done really is argue, i just never really beleived he wanted to be with me and that there was someone better that he wanted, i was constantly asking if he was alright and if we was alright as a couple, i just kept getting the impression he didnt love me, even though he said it all the time. He was always a liar which doesnt help, as im trying to build up trust he would lie about something stupid that would just undo all the good, guess he got bored of trying with me :-(
Last Monday we broke up, i went out with a friend for tea and he was sat with another girl having tea :-( I dint know who she was, and i started having a panic attack, he came over and said it was a uni friend, when i got back to his later that night i laid into him about it, askin y he cudnt have just txt me to let me know and stuff, next monring he asked me to leave cos he was sick of it :-( i knew if i left his house that i couldnt go back, we're constantly on and off and i hate this :-( I wanted to speak to him but he wouldnt come home and talk to me so i left :-(
Ive havent txt him, just left him to it, he has txted me saying how hes full of regrets that he couldnt make it work and how he does really love me and that he hopes i find someone who can make me happy :-( :-( I havent replied to this :-( Painfully obvious theres no going back.
I just blame myself for this whole sorry mess, if i only i could have not worried about what people would say and just got on with it :-( If i only i didnt ask him a million times a day if he was happy :-( If i only i didnt say how ugly i was all the time and y i couldnt understand why he was with me :-( If only i had been more fun instead of sad and worried all the time. :-(
Im 24yrs old, have few friends that i dont think really like me, no boyfriend and now im never going to get married or have children :-( Feel like ive pushed away the one person that really understood me and that hurts like mad :-(
Im sorry this is long and anyone whos got to the end of this i appreciate it, any advice or nice words would be lovely :-( Feeling very low :-( xx