RND2011
27-04-11, 19:48
Hi
This is a difficlut thing to explain but I wonder if anyone else can relate to it. I have suffered with GAD, depression, panic attacks for a number of years. I have tried to gain as much knowledge as I can and in very simple terms it appears that the sensible approach seems to be to face your fears, build a social network, eat well, exercise, spend time outdoors and relax.
I appreciate that this is the responsibility of the individual but real life dictates we also rely to some extent on others. My problem is that my wife is not the best person to be with when attempting to apply this guidance.
She thoroughly dislikes any kind of heat (in her terms 20 degrees or above), dislikes sunlight, enjoys walking only if it is cloudy or wet, dislikes any other sport or exercise, passionately hates pools, spas etc. Holidays are to be spent in cities visiting sights or galleries etc. She dislikes socialising to the point where she gets argumentative and irritable up to 3 days before we go out. I now have no friends I socialise with. Other than the half a dozen people or so I work with I have no other social interaction. Oh, and she hates cooking and only enjoys a narrow range of food.
Don't get me wrong, I enjoy culture etc and I am no social animal myself but I do find myself in a position where making the changes suggested is very difficult if not impossible at times. All of the above must sound terrible and please don't think for a minute that leaving her is even a thought in my mind (we have been together 22 years) but I just wonder whether anyone else understands the point I am making - that sometimes making the changes seems nigh on impossible
Sorry if this sounds like bleating and self pity - it really isn't meant to be - I just feel a tad frustrated.
This is a difficlut thing to explain but I wonder if anyone else can relate to it. I have suffered with GAD, depression, panic attacks for a number of years. I have tried to gain as much knowledge as I can and in very simple terms it appears that the sensible approach seems to be to face your fears, build a social network, eat well, exercise, spend time outdoors and relax.
I appreciate that this is the responsibility of the individual but real life dictates we also rely to some extent on others. My problem is that my wife is not the best person to be with when attempting to apply this guidance.
She thoroughly dislikes any kind of heat (in her terms 20 degrees or above), dislikes sunlight, enjoys walking only if it is cloudy or wet, dislikes any other sport or exercise, passionately hates pools, spas etc. Holidays are to be spent in cities visiting sights or galleries etc. She dislikes socialising to the point where she gets argumentative and irritable up to 3 days before we go out. I now have no friends I socialise with. Other than the half a dozen people or so I work with I have no other social interaction. Oh, and she hates cooking and only enjoys a narrow range of food.
Don't get me wrong, I enjoy culture etc and I am no social animal myself but I do find myself in a position where making the changes suggested is very difficult if not impossible at times. All of the above must sound terrible and please don't think for a minute that leaving her is even a thought in my mind (we have been together 22 years) but I just wonder whether anyone else understands the point I am making - that sometimes making the changes seems nigh on impossible
Sorry if this sounds like bleating and self pity - it really isn't meant to be - I just feel a tad frustrated.