kitty18
03-05-11, 15:29
Hi there. I've been absent from the forums for quite a long time, because my anxiety (I usually suffer from health anxiety, if anything) has been under control for a while. I have mild bouts of depression, on and off, which I'm also managing well with. But recently I've been quite affected by the news and have general anxiety about travelling, especially abroad. I'm afraid of terror attacks, even moreso with the news yesterday and the much higher threat level we are now all facing with imminent revenge attacks.
We are due to holiday in Italy in September. We've been to the place in question before, so I am familiar with it and looking forward to going - but I'm very nervous about getting there and back, which means I haven't actually booked the trip (hotel or flight) yet. I keep putting it off. My husband hasn't twigged yet, as there is really no rush to book, but we should really do it within the next month or so.
My main issue is that, our first choice of flight happens to be on September 11 - the 10 year anniversary of 9/11. I know this should have no significance, but I'm a superstitious person and would rather not fly on that day. So I told myself, 'just fly earlier or later in September.' But then I started suffering from paranoia - imagining that terrorism will be EXPECTED on 11th September, so the days surrounding it may be even more dangerous since it's not 'expected.' I know deep down that it IS still expected, that the security will not go down drastically, but I am still plagued with worry and don't know the best decision to make. I've even thought about skipping September altogether, and going in October. Like this will make it any safer! But I don't know, it's a psychological thing.
Even if I want to delay the trip, my husband will probably have an issue with it, as he did want to go in early September, and I have already booked and then cancelled a hotel because of this (for the same reason... he talked me round and then we decided to book Italy instead). He is understanding that I have anxiety, but he tends to think it's mostly all behind me now, and doesn't like it when I am irrational. He is naturally a very rational person, which is good sometimes as it keeps me balanced. But it doesn't help when I am panicked because he just quotes statistics at me... I know the odds, and I know I am being irrational, I just need methods to calm down and not worry. Sometimes even hard facts can't do that.
So I don't want to tell him 'hey, let's go in October instead shall we?' just because I want to avoid September. :( Unfortunately, we also need to fly at the end of September for a conference he is going to - which is making me nervous enough as it is. I would be even more nervous if he was going alone! But thankfully I can go with him. I can't avoid what date we fly out for that, so I guess I just want to feel in control with our own holiday.
I guess what I'm looking for is any help and guidance, or just comfort in that I'm not alone in these thoughts. I would also like advice on what action to take - should I just go ahead and book in September? I will probably avoid September 11 anyway, but even anywhere close to it is making me fearful. How ridiculous am I being? :(
xx
We are due to holiday in Italy in September. We've been to the place in question before, so I am familiar with it and looking forward to going - but I'm very nervous about getting there and back, which means I haven't actually booked the trip (hotel or flight) yet. I keep putting it off. My husband hasn't twigged yet, as there is really no rush to book, but we should really do it within the next month or so.
My main issue is that, our first choice of flight happens to be on September 11 - the 10 year anniversary of 9/11. I know this should have no significance, but I'm a superstitious person and would rather not fly on that day. So I told myself, 'just fly earlier or later in September.' But then I started suffering from paranoia - imagining that terrorism will be EXPECTED on 11th September, so the days surrounding it may be even more dangerous since it's not 'expected.' I know deep down that it IS still expected, that the security will not go down drastically, but I am still plagued with worry and don't know the best decision to make. I've even thought about skipping September altogether, and going in October. Like this will make it any safer! But I don't know, it's a psychological thing.
Even if I want to delay the trip, my husband will probably have an issue with it, as he did want to go in early September, and I have already booked and then cancelled a hotel because of this (for the same reason... he talked me round and then we decided to book Italy instead). He is understanding that I have anxiety, but he tends to think it's mostly all behind me now, and doesn't like it when I am irrational. He is naturally a very rational person, which is good sometimes as it keeps me balanced. But it doesn't help when I am panicked because he just quotes statistics at me... I know the odds, and I know I am being irrational, I just need methods to calm down and not worry. Sometimes even hard facts can't do that.
So I don't want to tell him 'hey, let's go in October instead shall we?' just because I want to avoid September. :( Unfortunately, we also need to fly at the end of September for a conference he is going to - which is making me nervous enough as it is. I would be even more nervous if he was going alone! But thankfully I can go with him. I can't avoid what date we fly out for that, so I guess I just want to feel in control with our own holiday.
I guess what I'm looking for is any help and guidance, or just comfort in that I'm not alone in these thoughts. I would also like advice on what action to take - should I just go ahead and book in September? I will probably avoid September 11 anyway, but even anywhere close to it is making me fearful. How ridiculous am I being? :(
xx