OrganDonor
12-06-11, 10:46
I really hope someone here can help me! I found this place by typing "dealing with anxiety" into Google... had a quick look around and it seems to be the place I need.
My problem may sound small and insignificant to a lot of you here, but hopefully someone can relate and help me out a little.
I was in a troubled relationship for six years (from '99 until '05) where I was cheated on and taken for a fool, I have two children from this relationship. Since it ended I'd been single up until recently, I've now found a girl who is perfect and who I love immensely.
The problem is the way I feel and think about things because of the way I was treated in the past. If my new girl goes out, my chest tightens and I get palpitations as well as feeling sick. Sometimes I find myself sitting at the window watching for her return like a lost dog... I know, sounds pathetic, doesn't it?
Thing is, my trust is ruined and I need help to learn to build it back. I feel like everything she says to me is a lie and she's not going where she says she is. I get jealous and insecure. I know if I make these feeling show to her I will end up ruining the relationship... what girl wants a partner acting like me, right?
I look forward to any replies, thanks in advance.
My problem may sound small and insignificant to a lot of you here, but hopefully someone can relate and help me out a little.
I was in a troubled relationship for six years (from '99 until '05) where I was cheated on and taken for a fool, I have two children from this relationship. Since it ended I'd been single up until recently, I've now found a girl who is perfect and who I love immensely.
The problem is the way I feel and think about things because of the way I was treated in the past. If my new girl goes out, my chest tightens and I get palpitations as well as feeling sick. Sometimes I find myself sitting at the window watching for her return like a lost dog... I know, sounds pathetic, doesn't it?
Thing is, my trust is ruined and I need help to learn to build it back. I feel like everything she says to me is a lie and she's not going where she says she is. I get jealous and insecure. I know if I make these feeling show to her I will end up ruining the relationship... what girl wants a partner acting like me, right?
I look forward to any replies, thanks in advance.