miss_moose
27-06-11, 14:41
Me and my fiance, (Mr Moose:)) have been engaged for over 2 years now, and we havent got married as account of my agoraphobia and people phobia.
To give you an idea of how bad my people phobia is, I have panic attacks and feel terribly sick when even my closest family members visit or i visit them, and I only ever manage to spend around 10 mins with them especially at their houses, and that 10 mins is torture.
Anyway, we are both 27 and I have been agoraphobia (although i am getting better with that) for 10 wasted years, everyone i know is married now, or engaged or have children and I just feel my life has been on hold for 10 years and i'm not going to get any better.
Mr Moose wants a wedding with atleast his parents there and a party after, i would havppily get married at home (This is not an option as we dont live in a particually nice flat and Mr Moose won't go for it.)
SO we've found a compromise, Gretna Green, in a penthouse apartment where you are limited to only inviting 6 guests. He gets his parents and a luxuarious place, and I get my "hardly any guests" and my "outdoorsy" wedding as you get married on the balcony, or option 2 if weather is bad, an comfortable lounge room wedding in front of a fire.
I say comfortable,the thought of it at the moment just makes me tremble with fear.
My mum has told me to just get a date, book it and just go for it because life is so short and precious, and if i keep holding off it may never happen.
I'm thinking next year, possibly March for my birthday or May/June time.
I'll have to have alot of uncomfortable exposure "therapy" (i'm too frightend to have an actual thereapist) so Mr Moose takes me out in the car and takes me to families houses and invites them here.
What do you guys think? I really value your opinions. I just so want to be Mrs Moose but I know how sik i get when a family member comes to visit me at home.
Thank you, Miss Moose xx
To give you an idea of how bad my people phobia is, I have panic attacks and feel terribly sick when even my closest family members visit or i visit them, and I only ever manage to spend around 10 mins with them especially at their houses, and that 10 mins is torture.
Anyway, we are both 27 and I have been agoraphobia (although i am getting better with that) for 10 wasted years, everyone i know is married now, or engaged or have children and I just feel my life has been on hold for 10 years and i'm not going to get any better.
Mr Moose wants a wedding with atleast his parents there and a party after, i would havppily get married at home (This is not an option as we dont live in a particually nice flat and Mr Moose won't go for it.)
SO we've found a compromise, Gretna Green, in a penthouse apartment where you are limited to only inviting 6 guests. He gets his parents and a luxuarious place, and I get my "hardly any guests" and my "outdoorsy" wedding as you get married on the balcony, or option 2 if weather is bad, an comfortable lounge room wedding in front of a fire.
I say comfortable,the thought of it at the moment just makes me tremble with fear.
My mum has told me to just get a date, book it and just go for it because life is so short and precious, and if i keep holding off it may never happen.
I'm thinking next year, possibly March for my birthday or May/June time.
I'll have to have alot of uncomfortable exposure "therapy" (i'm too frightend to have an actual thereapist) so Mr Moose takes me out in the car and takes me to families houses and invites them here.
What do you guys think? I really value your opinions. I just so want to be Mrs Moose but I know how sik i get when a family member comes to visit me at home.
Thank you, Miss Moose xx