LahOas
13-08-11, 22:26
Hey :), I was hoping for some help with understanding someone with anxiety.
My boyfriend has suffered with I.B.S for many years, but it has recently become worse.
He will be starting his second year at college in September and his first year has been quite a struggle as his I.B.S has caused him to have anxiety, which also has become worse. He seems to struggle when he's in a situation which could be embarrassing or difficult to get out of, like a dentist chair, or his lectures at college (which is understandable). He's been to the doctor numerous times but to what it seems no avail. They have prescribed peppermint capsules to help with the stomach cramps he gets which are linked to the I.B.S, as this is the start of a vicious cycle which causes him to worry he is going to have a bad bout of I.B.S while at college as his tummy is hurting, however they didn't seem to make much difference. He's also had quite a few other prescription tablets to stop stomach spasms, but these haven't helped either. He managed to get a counselor at college for a short while but he didn't seem hugely useful as sometimes he wouldn't turn up. As with college, he has made a huge amount of progress as at one point he was just calling in sick everyday because his I.B.S was so bad, however now he is doing a 3 day week which the college have agreed to, he still struggles a lot with it, but manages to get through and that makes me really proud. I was just wondering if there is anyone out there who can help me to understand how he feels a bit more, as I sometimes struggle to understand and sympathise with him as i was brought up in a very "get on with it" kind of way, however i understand it's a slow process getting through this kind of anxiety. I was also wondering if anyone could share their success stories with me as he would absolutely love to look forward to something, aspire to be as successful as someone and know there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Thank you in advance for any advise.
Olivia :).
My boyfriend has suffered with I.B.S for many years, but it has recently become worse.
He will be starting his second year at college in September and his first year has been quite a struggle as his I.B.S has caused him to have anxiety, which also has become worse. He seems to struggle when he's in a situation which could be embarrassing or difficult to get out of, like a dentist chair, or his lectures at college (which is understandable). He's been to the doctor numerous times but to what it seems no avail. They have prescribed peppermint capsules to help with the stomach cramps he gets which are linked to the I.B.S, as this is the start of a vicious cycle which causes him to worry he is going to have a bad bout of I.B.S while at college as his tummy is hurting, however they didn't seem to make much difference. He's also had quite a few other prescription tablets to stop stomach spasms, but these haven't helped either. He managed to get a counselor at college for a short while but he didn't seem hugely useful as sometimes he wouldn't turn up. As with college, he has made a huge amount of progress as at one point he was just calling in sick everyday because his I.B.S was so bad, however now he is doing a 3 day week which the college have agreed to, he still struggles a lot with it, but manages to get through and that makes me really proud. I was just wondering if there is anyone out there who can help me to understand how he feels a bit more, as I sometimes struggle to understand and sympathise with him as i was brought up in a very "get on with it" kind of way, however i understand it's a slow process getting through this kind of anxiety. I was also wondering if anyone could share their success stories with me as he would absolutely love to look forward to something, aspire to be as successful as someone and know there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Thank you in advance for any advise.
Olivia :).