How do i get others to understand?
Im really at a loss here - i desperately want support from my family but they just dont understand anything about anx and panic.
Whenever im suffering from what i call a 'Bad Spot' my mum puts it down to me being tired, not eating properly or being online too long.
Ive tried a few times to explain to her about what i go through each day but she doesn't get it.
Could you give me any advice please?
Stacey :)
Re: How do i get others to understand?
Stacey,
go grab some pamphlets for them to read or indeed let them read it all online...it's very frustrating for you i know that people do not get it until they've been there.
or if you do see a dr or goto any sessions etc take a member of your family with you that helped me to get them to see its REAL.
don't concentrate on making them understand as that only makes you feel worse.
or bring them to this site for a good read up.
x
J
Re: How do i get others to understand?
Thanks for the ideas Jayman!
Im thinking of taking mum along with me to my GP the next time i go but shes very judgemental and stubbourn. Im very scared she'll convince the GP i'm exagerating (sp?) then i will get no help at all. I'm also worried i'll be shut out by the family for being a 'freak'. They aren't horrbile people but no one else suffers from mental illnesses in my family and im already an outcast as it is.
I wish Mental Illnesses weren't such a taboo subject and everyone knew a bit about it like they do with diseases. It would help so many of us sufferers.
Re: How do i get others to understand?
you certainly are NOT a freak
i'm hoping your mum will support you and not be to judgemental you will find the GP will be on your side 100% and will do there best to help your mum understand.
Mental illnesses are very well known about ( but not spoken about)
You simply have symptons that CAN be helped and treated.
at the end of the day its just chemical imbalances and the mind playing tricks right?? you're quite safe.
I'm sending you out a HUUUUGE hug and wish you good luck with the family im sure they'll be fine.
i'm here if you wanna chat as is the whole forum.
Chin up xx
J
Re: How do i get others to understand?
Thank you :)
Really appreciate it.
Stacey :)
Re: How do i get others to understand?
Hi Stacey,
You could also have her take a look at the front of the symptoms list on this site as it describes what we all go through and she will realize that you are not alone. There are many carers who also visit this site. I hope your doctor visit goes well.
Hugs,
Laura
Re: How do i get others to understand?
Hello stacey.I get alot of support from my family,but I dont think they fully understand how we feel.My partner of 24 years has only just started to understand a bit more since last summer when he witnessed me having the worse panic attack ever.He seems to be a bit more calmer with me.I still think I get on all there nerves,but thats probably my negative way of thinking.
I agree with everyone here,is to get some info and let them have a read,and a good idea to take your mum along with you to the gp.
Sending you HUGS:hugs: :hugs:
Re: How do i get others to understand?
Thanks everyone!
Im definitely going to take mum with me to see my GP.
Lets hope it works!
Stacey
:)
Re: How do i get others to understand?
Hi Stacey,
My GP gave me a big booklet on anxiety, it was very helpful and informative. Maybe you could ask for one and show it to your mum.
Good luck xx
Re: How do i get others to understand?
Hi Stacey
I think its a good idea to take your mum with you when you go see the GP, i never went alone to my appointments, took my husband on various occasions and my mum as been with me too. The gp was helpful while they where there and even gave them advice too on how to support me.
hope that helps
Love
:hugs:
Andrea
xxxxx