Feel so lonely and depressed....no friends

I suffer with anxiety and have done for few years now.it has stopped me doing things like socialising and going out ,and I have now found for the last few years now I feel so lonely at times,and get really depressed about it at times.i realise I have only one friend and just don't have anyone to meet with or talk to .it's almost like I struggle building friendships with people ,and literally have no friends apart from one.it feels so depressing .
Feel so lonely at times !like I literally have no one

I only have one friend too. I find it very difficult to socialise. Unless it's one on one I don't feel comfortable in front of family either. Sorry I don't have much advice but wanted to let you know you aren't alone.

I hardly even see my friend too, although we do text.

I'm the same , my only friend apart from my partner is my mother in law! I just can't cope with people when I'm really anxious.

I wouldn't say I suffer from anxiety but still don't have all that many friends. Apart from my husband, I perhaps had one, but that ended twenty years ago, and after that I haven't been able to make new friends even though it has been close a couple of times. I had a few friends in school (no more than one at a time but some years zero). I have no siblings, and have no close kin, so am sort of used to managing on my own. The last 5 years I haven't really made any attempts at getting new friends. I've tried joining common-interest groups, taking handicraft classes, asking colleagues to go see a movie after work, but it hasn't worked thus far. Tracking down old friends doesn't work either, they're too few, so right now I only have acquaintances.

I'm glad I'm not alone with this then.it seems I've tried sometimes,maybe giving someone my number who I thought I'd be friends with and they don't get in touch .it's hard because having anxiety makes me isolate myself in a way from others ,and stops me connecting with people ,but at the same time it is what makes me depressed,because I beleive we all need meaningful friendships with other people . someone to chat with,someone to meet for lunch. But as I said the anxiety stops some of these things

Hey i have private messaged you hope that helps x

bit late to this sorry Kate but totally know how you feel, I work full time, have a family and all the boxes look ticked but I am constantly worried I`m not good enough, not funny enough etc and while I know lots of people, I don`t know many I could count on if that makes sense?

anyway, you`re not alone on here so I hope you feel a bit better

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Originally Posted by Kate1989

I'm glad I'm not alone with this then.it seems I've tried sometimes,maybe giving someone my number who I thought I'd be friends with and they don't get in touch .it's hard because having anxiety makes me isolate myself in a way from others ,and stops me connecting with people ,but at the same time it is what makes me depressed,because I beleive we all need meaningful friendships with other people . someone to chat with,someone to meet for lunch. But as I said the anxiety stops some of these things

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Well it was the other way round for me some one on here kindly gave me their number which I thought yes I have a new friend now it went very well for a period of time now it's just a trickle and did meet twice but that's gone quite at the moment. So know exactly what you are going through I too believe we all need a meaningful friend but the only difference with me is I want to meet these people but do have feelings of doubt wether they are going to like me or not or is it going to be only one meeting or will they contact me again etc but it actually doesn't stop me from wanting to meet them if that makes sense?? Hang on in there Kate :)

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And to add it makes you feel it's 'my' fault and I also find each time it gets harder to trust some one new well it does me. but I do trust again as I believe there is hope how ever small that hope is it's still there :)

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What is really bad is every end of the year I say to my self it will get better the following year and it doesn't so I do feel trapped any one who wants to pm me, feel free to do so thanks :)

I think someone once said that you can count on one hand your true friends. I haven't any true friends, acquaintances, yes, but I wouldn't confide in them. And as I look around I see many people in the same boat.

You are not on your own, dont despair.