Re: ROCD - Please help :-(
Firstly congratulations...
Insecurity isnt attractive, and you have no reason to be insecure, these girls were before your time... and hes asked you to marry him, so that shows he loves only you.. You dont want to ruin this happy time by being this way...
Your anxiety is causing this, you just have to say to yourself that you wouldnt be this way if it wasnt for anxiety.
I have been married 10yrs, i still have a box of photos of ex's... well hidden away... why should i have to get rid of them, theyre my past memories....
I did recently burn all the letters i found while having a clear out though,,, and im sure if your bf says hes done the same, then he probably has....
Enjoy your present time of happy news, and planning your future... the exes are just that exes, past tense... dont give them any importance...
Re: ROCD - Please help :-(
I am aware that he loves only me, and as for the ex-girlfriend related things; we both agreed it would be inappropriate for us to keep such things after moving in together and committing to a future together. It may not be something everyone agrees with, but that's what worked for us.
The problem here is that I am having these intrusive thoughts which are hard to get rid of, they are not a product of my insecurity.
Re: ROCD - Please help :-(
my apologies, i must've misread it...
In the case of intrusive thoughts, you just need to tell them your not interested in listening to them, that your happy to believe there are no letters around, and even if you should find one, you can just get rid of it straight away,
tell the thoughts you are not bothered and they are boring you now... just keep repeating this everytime they come.... dont try and fight the thoughts, just calmly say not interested... and eventually they die off, the less importance you pay them, the less they will come...