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I've just been out for the afternoon. To the shops and then finished with getting a bag of chips to eat on the sea front. Although my teeth couldn't quite bite them so I had dibs of the squashy ones.
Mr C had a funny turn yesterday. He was ok after nap and it turned out he'd taken his pill for his gout on an empty stomach and it clearly says on the packet, take just after a meal. Set my anxiety off. Not that it wasn't there anyway.
So I'm pleased we both got out today and we feel the benefit from it. One foot forward and shove anxiety into oblivion. :D
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I'm so pleased you got out today Carnation. I understand what you mean by knowing your anxiety was there anyway. We become so inured to it that it becomes our default setting. And then we forget what living without anxiety was ever like. We then ask what 'normal' really means anyway, because it means different things to different people.
We had chips too, from a van.
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Thanks fishman x
When life gets tough, eat chips :yesyes:
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I haven’t had chip shop chips for years.:weep:
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You can't beat good chip shop chips. We haven't got a chip pan and oven chips just don't cut it. In fact the other night I was thinking about cheese patties from the chip shop and really fancied one,if I wasn't still waiting on my cholesterol results I might just have gone and got one or two.
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Exactly Carnation :D
Cholesterol be damned Catkins. Go get yourself some chip shop chips, you know you want to. :D
Darksky, are there no chippies near you? :ohmy:
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Not without getting in the car Fishman:winks:
Years ago my son swore off chip shops, Mac Donald’s, KFC and all fizzy drinks.
I sort of went with him.
Drew the line at crisps and cider though.:D
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This has been going over in my mind.....
Two days ago I was driving into town. As I got to the junction of the main road the white van in front of me stopped, a woman got out of the van to appear to be delivering a parcel. I assumed it was something like Amazon. She delivered the package across the road. So I waited behind the van as my view was obstructed and I would had to use the oncoming side if I was to overtake, my view still obstructed to my left. While I was waiting a car did turn into that lane anyway so it only confirmed I took the safe option.
When the woman returned she was waving her arms in the air shouting at me in a foreign language and although I didn't understand her words I did understand she was angry for not overtaking her illegally parked car. I didn't respond but afterwards I wondered if I'd done the right thing. :shrug:
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You definitely did the right thing. It wasn't safe to overtake and she was in the wrong for not parking correctly. Sometimes I think people get angry or frustrated because our good behaviour highlights their bad behaviour and that's why they kick off, to try and make themselves feel better.
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I never thought of it like that catkins, well said!
I forgot to mention when she got back in the van the woman parked the van in the pub car park literally a few yards away. :huh:
I often why this sort of thing mulls over in my mind so much. Its almost like a delayed feeling and thinking. :shrug:
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I hope she wasn’t going into the pub?
The fact that she moved the van to somewhere more appropriate to park, proves you took her on a guilt trip. She was badly parked and she knew it and she knew you knew it. Her problem.
As to mulling it over, it’s what we do. Nothing is ever tossed aside as an unimportant incident. Its an added element we have to cope with. Give it time and it will fade and know you did the right thing. She would have got in neck if the police had passed by.
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That's very true darksky.
No one likes being shouted at for no reason. I shouldn't let it affect me so much.
It's been so long since driving, I'm hyper aware of any reactions but I won't let it put me off. I've waited so long to get where I am, I'm not letting go now.
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:yesyes: No, definately not…:yesyes: :flowers:
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I've had so many run-ins with foreign delivery workers..They park wherever they want to and go nuts if you ask them to move from blocking your drive. So arrogant and self-entitled. Don't give this a second thought, Carnation. You didn't put yourself at risk to cater for her needs x
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Thanks pulisa x
There was part of me that thought "why should I go round an obstacle that shouldn't be there possibly putting me and my partner at risk" just because she couldn't be bothered to walk a few more steps. If we accommodate and accept this behaviour it will only continue.
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Thanks darksky and catkins for your comments too xx
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My Mum would have been proud of you Carnation. She ran her own driving school and was very good at it. She got all four of her children to pass first time and would have backed you up in this situation. And yes you called this driver's bluff. Well done!! :hugs:
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Back to the grind post-vacation :doh:
It ended up being a lovey time. I stressed about my pup and we couldn't do everything we would have necessarily wanted to - and I did argue with my dad some because he couldn't quite get why my dog couldn't just do certain things - but he did really well and I'm very proud of him. Also got to have some nice solo hikes which were lovely, even if it seems hiking etiquette is a thing of the past.
My mom mentioned that she wants to go back next year but bring along my brother, his wife, and my niece and nephew as my nephew is very eager to go "hike in the mountains!" (I think I told him once it was something I liked to do and now he wants to as well). So I'm really hoping we can get that set up as that would be lovely.
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That sound great Poppy. So glad you had a nice time.
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So pleased you had a good time poppy, you should be very proud of what you achieved. :yesyes:
It's still very hot my way, I'll be glad to see the back of it.
My tooth has been stable. Wish I could say the same for my wobbly teeth which has kept me on a semi soft diet. Could be worse though.
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It's been very muggy here today Carnation, I had to check with a colleague that she felt the same as I kept thinking it was just anxiety. Overcast but sweaty, not a nice combination.
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Very glad to hear that you had a good holiday, Poppy..
Can't be long until yours, Catkins?
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It’s way too humid here. Not exactly hot but the moisture in the air is draining. Can’t really do anything, even a dog walk without feeling exhausted. We are set for rain tomorrow, so hopefully it will pull fresher air in.
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Tomorrow supposed to be the last hot day here too.
You are so right darksky, even walking is exhausting in this high humidity.
Tomatoes must like it though. I've got my best crop ever. :D
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My tomato crop has been rubbish. There's only about 6 on three plants, only one ripening.
I go on the 4th Carnation.
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Glad you’re all ok.
So humid yesterday wasn’t it! We went to a farm in Surrey and it was ok for a while and then just sticky hot and sweaty. Had to put my fan back on last night too! I’m very tired of this weather now.
Well done on the tomatoes!
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I normally have a rubbish crop catkins, don't give up for next year.
Nice to hear from you Scass.
My fans have been going nonstop from morning til night.
The cat sits under one nearly all day. Rain expected tonight. :)
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So the promised rain hasn’t materialised:weep: so it’s just as humid as ever. Fed up of this now, just need some energy.
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We've got ours coming in the early hours of the morning and most of tomorrow darksky.
I've not got anything done the last few days because of the humidity. The cat is getting restless and when he's not he's sparko out on the floor (coolest place).
The fans are giving me a sore throat and my eyes are sore from watching far too much TV.
Not a soul outside in my street. At least in the winter you can wrap up.
Hopefully this heat is not for much longer Darksky x
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Seems a bit cooler today…I’ve got a fleece on instead of a t shirt…so that’s a step in the right direction.:yesyes:
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We had a bit of rain this morning, still humid though.
And I've seen people walking about outside today.
Had a terrible night's sleep with my mind doing overdrive. Mainly about the moving property. It's really unsettling not knowing where you are going to live as apposed to choosing where you live. Nothing coming on in my area.
I feel like the responsibility is all on my shoulders because Mr C seems so laid back about it all he'll literally wait until the last knockings to realise we are in dire straits.
I'm sure it's affecting my teeth, they are so wobbly now I could barely eat my toast this morning. Or maybe it was when the dentist knocked them with his little instrument causing trauma to them. I actually regret going to the dentist in a way. They didn't solve the issue, it solved itself. I'm proud of going though. Sorry, not very upbeat today.
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Carnation :hugs: The feeling of not being in control of your own destiny is unsettling for sure. I can't stand it either. Does Mr C understand how you feel? Perhaps he needs a reminder and to take a lead in being more proactive. I think its entirely natural your anxiety is active over a potential move, its one of the most stressful things we can do. Even for non-anxiety people.
Strangely I've had the best tomato crop ever this year. I really don't know why. Some much needed rain here too.
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Thank you fishman x
He has realised today how much its unsettling me.
Thing is I'm the one who deals with the paperwork, organises everything, packs and unpacks everything and so on. I can deal with that. Its the not knowing where we are going to be, not knowing anyone in the area, being possibly isolated or stuck in a busy town that is strange to me. Finding my feet again as a agoraphobic. What the whole procedure could do to my mental health. The sleepless nights with worry and concerns.
Hopefully something will come up but until then I'm bound to be worried.
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Your feelings are exactly what I would be feeling too. :hugs:Your thoughts would be mine.
What would our therapist say? All those thoughts are negative, all are catastrophic. In reality 99% of the stuff we worry about never comes to pass and the other 1% is not as bad as we think it will be.
Now, if you can give me some tips on actually believing that, I would be very grateful.:scared15:
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99% is a high percentage darksky, wonder how they came up with that figure.
As I'm inclined to not believe that I'm unable to give you any tips. I'd also be applying them to myself. There lies the problem.
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Carnation, I'm sure it will all work out but I understand your fear. Of course you want to stay in the place where you've set up your home; I'd be obsessively looking for other options as well.
I hope you all get your rain and heat relief. My boss told me that the farmer's almanac is predicting a very cold and snowy winter here - I so hope it's right.
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I haven't got any wise words of wisdom Carnation, I would feel the same. Just keep looking and something is bound to come up. In the meantime do all your grounding techniques and everything that helps you stay calm.
Re teeth; do you grind them in your sleep? I tend to when I'm feeling stressed, I wore a mouth guard for a while and it helped a bit.