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Oh Dan, please don't say that and please give yourself credit. A good woman would be so appreciative of you! Relationships are very hard, anxiety or not. You accept yourself and do not compare yourself to others. I know how hard that is but you have to try. What you see on the outside of relationships is not what goes on inside. Don't ever lose hope and when the time is right, that special someone will come along. Normal people can go through multiple relationships until they find that special someone. Don't lose hope. Have you ever tried online dating honey? Do you think that would help you a bit open up? Much love and prayers to you and keep your chin up. xoxoxox
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Thanks Mya, i got upset reading your post, because i realised just how lost and lonely i feel. You see i am sat here whats so wrong with me! I have had a few relationships but only a few, you see i am not very good at them and have been hurt by people, so here i am all alone, and its my own doing because to avoid getting hurt i've locked myself away, and thats the sad truth and it hurts so much to admit it. I feel i need a purpose in life, someone to get up on a morning for to go to work hard for, to make happy, to talk to, to share with.. I am far to shy to try online dateing. DAN
Re: Other people's assumptions?
I am so very sorry if I have made you feel worse. I feel awful if I did. I am a highly sensitive person that has had anxiety all my life and I too had very few relationships and the ones I did have I had gotten hurt so much. I also avoided them like the plague to protect myself. It seemed everyone that I attracted was so opposite from my sensitive personality and I would come out of the relationships feeling worse than before. I finally gave up and decided never again would I date. And then out of the blue, I met my husband. He worked in my building and we just happened to strike a conversation. We saw each other more frequently and then went to lunch, etc. It just naturally happened. We have now just celebrated our 11 year anniversary.
I am very shy and reserved too. My husband, although he is not the shy, sensitive type nor suffers anxiety, still never approached women. It was a miracle he and I even ended up in this! You never know how they may begin. I was very frightened to begin the relationship with him because I was so hurt in the past. But I got the courage to be up front with him and told him about my past and the reservations I had. It took a huge weight off me and also allowed me to let my guard down more. It also allowed he and I to understand one another on a deeper level.
With my anxiety and depression, I too have felt alone and needing a purpose in my life and I am married. I say that so you understand that you can have family life and still have these feelings. We are such deep thinkers and I know with my anxiety, I can be surrounded by my husband and closest friends and still feel so alone. I think it is very common for people like us.
You never know when you may meet someone and when you do, just be yourself. If that other person is worth your time, they will listen and understand. Just when I had given up, that is when I had met him. I am not sure if there are activities or clubs you can join too where you could meet new people? My good friend who was single purchased a dog and met her significant other at the park. There are thousands of ways people meet. Try and stay positive because you never know what tomorrow may bring.
Wishing you the best
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Hi Mya, oh no i never ment it to come across like that, you didnt make me feel bad at all, now i feel bad thinking i made you feel bad thinking you made me feel bad, mmmm i don't think that makes any sense at all, haha.... but hopefully you know what i mean, thankyou for your kind words and encouragement, it really lifted me up reading your story, and i am so pleased you have now found happiness and yes who knows maybe one day i too might find happiness too, i live in hope... Dont feel bad my freind, like i said your story is one that has given me hope too.. Thankyou Mya take care..
Dan