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Sorry to hear you're not feeling great Nic:(
I think everyone has days where they feel down and cant be bothered with anything - if you werent feeling panicky with it then thats good. You are allowed an off day and you are allowed time off from here if you feel like it!;)
Emily
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Hi all
I have been feeling a bit like this too lately. One minute I feel quite positive and think right I can control this and then all of a sudden I feel anxious and panicky and back to the beginning almost again.
I was thinking about this on the way home from work today actually. I was trying to work out if there is anything in particular that I'm doing or not doing that can be causing this. I do think my diet has a part to play in it. For instance last week I ate quite a lot of fast food, chinese etc and I think that caused me to be more anxious. I also lost a night sleep due to my husband staying away from home 1 night and i panicked the whole night..and got roughly 1.5 hours sleep in total. I am a born worrier and find myself thinking about things which may or may not happen every day all day. This causes me to get uptight and anxious and starts the anxiety etc. I found myself breathing weird quite a lot last week to, such as holding my breath or breathing shallowly. By saturday last week I was a crying mess.. I got out of bed and had some breakfast, I did feel slightly irritable and then all of a sudden I couldnt stop myself crying. I think i just needed to let some stress out or something.
This week has been slightly better..I dont feel quite on edge but yesterday was not a good day.
I think I will keep a diary and see if I am right about what makes mine worse. I guess this is what happens with anxiety..you will have good and bad days but eventually there will be more good than bad.
take care
sadie
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Hello All,
It`s good I suppose to know that I am not the only one feeling this way. I do believe it is weather and holiday related, with all the rushing around and so forth, gets us tired and irritated, which leads to the anxiety and restlessness. I hope you all do better in the coming days. Like Bryan said we all have something to look forward to. Thanks Bryan for the encouragement, I too am feeling a little at sorts with all of the holiday rush, weather and also my 18 year old daughter. This year has been so trying for us, actually she will be 18 on Tuesday December 16th. We have had our problems in the past, but compared to this past year they were nothing. All of the emotional strain and losing that for lack of a better word "CONTROL" of what she does and when she does it is very hard. She is being "VERY,VERY" rebellious rightn now. I suppose that is normal at that age, as I now I was too, but being on the receiving end of that is very hard to swallow. As I am posting I do not even know where she is at this moment, as she has been gone overnight till the present time. I am feeling very hurt, afraid, angry you name it I am feeling it. Every emotion possible running through me like a water fall. I know this is`nt related totally to this topic, but felt like I needed to share, as I feel at home with all of you, and feel like you all are family. Sorry for the rambling on, but just needed to vent my feelings before I burst into a ball of flames!!!! Thanks for listening.
Love,
Diana xxx
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Hi Diana
Thats what we are all here for, to listen to our friends and offer either just a friendly ear or some advice.
I havent had any kids yet so I dont really know exactly how you are feeling but I do know how much anxiety and stress can make even the smallest of things seem enormous. Try and stay calm and relaxed as getting yourself all worked up will just make matters worse when your daughter does come home.
That being said, i do think your daughter should have at least gave you a call just to let you know where she is..just to stop you worrying unnecessarily. Have you both have a fallen out last night?
sadie
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Hiya Sadie,
Thanks for the response. Actually no we have`nt had a falling out, she works after school and got off about 5:00 pm, and never called or anything. Although I know she is talking to a young man that I really do not approve of, and I found out today she was at his house for like 7 hours after work and then had someone pick her up from there. Now no one seems to know where she has gone :(. I too think she should of at least called, as we have had this discussion before, about just calling to let me know where she is. I guess all I can do is sit back and wait it out. Hopefully she will come home soon. tTanks again for listening.
Love,
Diana xxx
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hi diana,
try not to feel too down,as they can be very selfish at this age,once they go out of the door,they dont seem to give a toss about anyone,or anything!
my youngest is studying boys,at durham,she comes home most weekends,brings her dirty washing,eats everything,is out friday nite,and saterdays,with her friends,she always says dad,i could only afoord a single ticket,so i give her the rest,she then leaves with a big bag of freezer food...its the joys of having a teenager,mmmm..bryan.
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Hiya Diana
I can remember when I turned 18 my mum yelling at me '18 IS NOT THE MAJIC NUMBER!!!!!!' I was a bit of a goodie goodie before then but met my boyfriend (now husband) and got myself a life..lol
She scared me to death yelling that at me but it did the trick. I always told her where i was and still had a curfew till i was 21!!!
love Sarah
xx
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Thanks for the replies guys,
I remember when i was a teenager-turning back my watch a couple of hours and looking all innocent when I was really 2 hours late!!!
Oh well i suppose i'll get my comeuppance with my boys!!(though secretly hoping they'll give their dad all the abuse - mummys boys at all that!!)
Seriously though teenagers will grow out of there spells and hope your don't have to long to wait. We've all been there
love
lucky
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I remember having such a good time, that I simply forgot what the time was! Then it was too late to call! I was reminded about this for the next four weeks though - as my dad used to ground me for doing it!!!!
Last weekend, I didn't come home on Friday night. I have been stopping out a lot during the summer, and my mum has never bothered, but this weekend Fred the ex Dentist was not there. So she phoned, and left an answer phone message that she hoped I wasn't dead in a ditch, or had I been home, and then got up and left the house early?
I felt quite guilty, and we had a "discussion" about it when I got home. (I am 33, so feel that I have the right to stop out, although I now I should be considerate towards my mum)
Basically, I had a few drinks with my friend Jan, then we went upstairs and had some tea and toast. Her son had stopped in and was watching a film, so we joined him, because it was only about midnight.
We all fell asleep on the sofa, and woke up at 4am. It was cold and icy outside, and I was only half awake, so I accepted Jans offer of a duvet and got my head back down.
I pointed out to my mum that she really wouldn't have appreciated a call at 4am, and if she could only learn to use her mobile, we would be sorted. I could have sent her a text when I woke up at 4am, and she could have checked her messages in the morning and known exactly where I was, and who I was with! Simple. Apart from the fact she can't turn her phone on, and doesn't know how to read her text (and yes, I have shown her, and written it down three million times. She is just not sufficiently interested to learn how!)
I didn't realise how worrying the whole issue of time is until the first time my mum and dad went away and left me in charge. My little sis went out, didn't leave a note (pre mobile days) and didn't come back till the next day. I remember giving her a bit of a kicking, cos I had had a very flitful nights sleep worrying about her!!!
In the end its all down to respect, and stopping in the middle of having a good time to take time out to make that call! Unfortunately, teenagers are really selfish, and usually don't think!
Just be ready to gloat in a few years time, when she is phoning you to moan HER daughter didn't come home or bother phoning!
Love
Charlie
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Hi All,
Thanks soooo much for the posts. They really do make me feel better. I know that this is the time in life for this because I was a bit of a runner myself at that age. I just don`t understand totally, because I do talk with her, and tell her to just please give me a call to let me know where he is and who she is with. Yet still she disobeys. It has been 3 days and no show of her, just (2) very brief, short phone calls. Logically I know this is something she probably needs to do to get out of her system, but emotionally it is very hard to deal with. I really appreciate all of you posting on this topic, as it makes me feel like I have this great big supportive family, that will help me through this. I know what you all mean about them being selfish, she is sooo very selfish right now. It hurts to feel that she cares for no one else but herself. I know I just need to accept this, but it is sooo very hard when you are on the receiving end. I guess now I know what my dad went through raising me. Boy do I have a new found respect for my dad now. I find myself feeling so guilty for the things I had done back in my adolescent years. She(my daughter) has called (2) times like I said literally just to say hi, but will not tell me where she is. Oh how I do miss her, but I guess all parents do when the babes grow wings and leave the nest. I suppose we are never really prepared for the overwhelming emotions that go along with the children leaving home. I just wish it had been on better terms. Thank all of you again for posting and listening, as I know I have just been dragging on with this subject, but it is what is making me feel anxious right now. Oh by the way Charlie thank you sooo much for the tape, I just received it today, and will try it this evening as I really need to "CHILL" right now.
Take care all,
Diana xoxoxo