Re: Fiance walked out - anxiety spiralled
I suspect you are stronger than you realise, you've been through bereavement and moving house, two of the most stressful things anyone can experience and yet you're still standing, it's only natural to fear slipping back to the way you were during your breakdown.
I'm glad he finally got in touch so at least you know what happened, hopefully it will give you some level of closure. You deserve so much more than someone who just ups & leaves, especially after the hard time you've been through.
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PoppyC
I get agoraphobic at times and no one except other sufferers will understand how difficult it is. I have lost count of the times I have been told 'just get out there - it will get easier' Its not as simple as that is it? Its such a complex thing to overcome.
I honestly had one person tell me the reason why I was agoraphobic was because I didn't go out & mix with people :ohmy:
Re: Fiance walked out - anxiety spiralled
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PoppyC
Awww, thank you everyone for your lovely, kind and supportive words.:D It really has made a difference. I finally was contacted by ex. We chatted. I think I am going to remain single. I know my anxiety/moodiness/agorophobia at times. has put a huge strain on the relationship. He was very supportive but I suppose there is a limit to what other people will put up with obviously.
Sorry to hear about this Poppy, unfortunately it seems to be something thats quite common amongst people who suffer with what we do :( Unless someones been through it themselves it appears to be really hard for them to have any kind of idea of what you are going through which often makes me think someone should set up a dating site for people with anxiety loool.
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I am a lot calmer on Citalopram but I dont honestly think I will ever be the easiest person to be in a r'ship with!
The Citalopram will help you get things under control but it's going to take a while before you proper settle down. Maybe some pressure will be lifted off of you by not being in a relationship though so it could turn out to be a good thing. When you are trying to regain some kind of confidence and self control after suffering with anxiety for so long it helps to do it in baby steps and like you said sometimes people only have so much patience :(
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I get agoraphobic at times and no one except other sufferers will understand how difficult it is. I have lost count of the times I have been told 'just get out there - it will get easier'
Doesn't that just drive you nuts? :roflmao:
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I often end up feeling guilty too about the effects I am having on others.
This also seems to be common but it's not necessary, a combination of things in your life may have contributed to you being the way that you are but it wasn't intentional I'm sure. If anything it can make you feel worse if you feel like you are a burden to others but try to keep thinking otherwise.
It does get hard but with a forum like this it's good to be able to log on, have a read and feel at ease because you know people there understand you and are only going to tell you the truth and reassurance can be a great comfort when you don't have it around you at home.
Good luck with everything Poppy things will get better you just need some time to get your head around what has just happened.
Take care :)
Re: Fiance walked out - anxiety spiralled
Sorry but I've only recently felt up to reading posts again and I came across this one, and felt I really needed to say something...
I've cared for my wife with her mental illness for 18 years and in all honesty her illness just isn't the same as anxiety. I can't say I've stayed out of love though but I do care but I also wouldn't want to be alone. However, I've never had the things you would normally expect from a partner in a normal relationship.
I Really don't understand what's wrong with some people! Don't they realise what they have when they decide to walk out on such a loving caring person??? Sorry but it just gets to me! It's like having a beautiful rose in your garden and deciding to cut it and throw it in the bin in the hope that something better exists! I would much rather have the special bloom in my house with me than force it to come out with me.
All I can say is if someone doesn't have the time and patience to help, support and care for something so beautiful in the first place then the rose would have only ended up being ruined later.
A beautiful caring rose will Always attract Lots of admiring honey bees!:hugs: