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The 'joy', the 'pain' of having pets.
Despite my cat waking me several times in the night, I no regrets. Animals adopt habits like humans and can sometimes mimic our behaviour. All those times I would wake up through anxiety issues, my cat was there with me and probably sees as the norm now. How can you convince an animal that nighttime is for sleeping when I myself have been wandering around in the wee small hours cursing yet another disturbance in my sleep.
They also have the advantage of sleeping for several hours in the day when us humans have to get on with the daily routine.
So I found the answer is to basically grab some shut eye during the day. I call it my siesta. As little as 20 minutes can recharge my batteries so I can manage staying awake watching evening TV.
It's not the dog or cat's fault and I know it can be frustrating, but it's something I put up with because my cat outweighs any human affection I am likely or unlikely to receive.
My partner suffers from restless leg syndrome and is at its highest form in the evening and nighttime. So if its not the cat diving for my feet, it's being clobbered by my partner's legs, lol. You have to laugh otherwise you'd cry.
Find away around the situation Buster.
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Buster, I read an article about naps at the weekend. Apparently it should be 20 minutes and ideally after lunch. It might be worth revisiting to make the day a little easier?
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Hi all , sorry to hear things get that bad for you Nora , being in bed in the day would drive me nuts I can’t lay there and let my overactive mind wonder or it will take me to places I really don’t want to go , funny thing with my partner no matter how poorly or in pain she is she will take some painkiller and crack on , Ive known her have heart surgery in the morning, discharge herself and by the afternoon hanging washing out while I turn my back for five minutes, and I do admire that , her consultant once said you should be dead so what ever you are doing just keep doing it , she’s out now having her nails done , she was nervous going because it’s somewhere she hasn’t been , at home she always uses the same place for hair and nails and even then gets nervous going .
With the dog she can get us up five times a night three of which are just to look at us and go back to sleep but the others are to go out so we can’t ignore any or you end up treading in shite on the carpet , she’s happy enough , eats , drinks , walks and wags her tail so she’s not poorly but I think with age her stomach and bowel are a bit delicate.
I think one of my biggest fears is being alone , I work alone but know there is someone to come home to ,I hate the silence , I’ve probably only been away from my partner for no longer than 24 hours at a time in the last ten years , when things are good we only want it to be us , we agree other people are okay in small measures but after a while we’d be looking up hit men , one minute I’m okay thinking this will work out okay then a small dark thought pops in and snowballs into an avalanche that has to run out before I can stop it .
Anyway got to go pick her up soon so I’ll catch up later .
Cheers ma dears .
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Back home tomorrow to see if the dreaded letter has come , I guess three options , it hasn’t come yet, it’s come and good news or is come and not good news which would mean more tests and more waiting .
We haven’t had one nights sleep while away , last night was a nightmare the old dog just kept getting us up even though she hasn’t really got Diarrhea now just the usual soft stools not jetting out for Britain , I’m okay while busy but the mornings after not sleeping are horrible , being at the coast now is very quiet so I’ve not really had a conversation with anyone other than my partner and that always ends up on the same topic which we don’t see to be able to avoid , it’s on the news , any programme and in the papers , even the woman in the next flat had a mastectomy, being positive while tired and constantly reminded how bad things can be is hard .
I really really need to be strong and keep my shit together tomorrow for her , she’s expecting me to let her down , it would be good if just for once I didn’t .
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I feel physically sick today at the thought of arriving home partner doesn’t want to go and I not surprised.
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The sooner you get it over with the better Buster.
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Back home but no letter , in the door ten mins and two letters turn up , neither being from the hospital and now a phone call from my older daughter saying she’s tested positive for covid so I guess the grandkids either have it or gave it her , non of them had the jabs even though her and her partner are over thirty .
life just feels like torture, being home doesn’t feel like home anymore and being away we take all our problems with us .
Its a wonderful life .
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It's a week since her mammogram. No news is good news at this stage, I'd say.
Sorry to hear about your daughter. Perhaps she'll change her mind about having her jab once she's recovered from Covid?
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Being home has been horrible , had to deal with a few buyers who I’d let done by being away but a polite apology goes a long way , also had to take a washing machine to our alcoholic neighbor which we agreed to buy for her while she was on the wagon , she’s since fallen off big style so dealing with her while absolutely smashed ( her not me ) was hard work, she’s 35 looks 60 and it’s obvious she’s not got long left , she was doing so well .
Spoke to my uncle who said he’s also waiting for results on a stomach growth and he said my cousin has kidney cancer , all so good news I feel like crawling under a rock , is there any good news after you reach 50 ?
The only positive I can possibly take is that if we hadn’t gone away for the week we’d probably have covid as we look after the kids , and my daughter said my granddaughter’s teacher rang to say how great she is doing , a far cry from the phone calls my mum got from school at her age .
Would life have been better if I’d not had any family to worry about ? Probably not , there have been good times laughter and fun it’s just a bit hard to see that right now .
My daughter was scared she’d have a reaction to the jab so kept putting it off , ironically she’d booked one for next week , she’s young fit and healthy so hopefully she’ll be okay .
I wish it could all stop for a while , you must know that feeling Pulisa ?
Thanks .
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Yes I do..but it doesn't, does it? I think you should concentrate on your partner at the moment though. If there's no letter tomorrow then you'll have a breathing space until Monday. Try not to think about other people? Keep tabs on your daughter but otherwise focus on supporting your partner You don't really need to take on the issues of your relatives at the moment.