Thanks Venus
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The trouble is in making the text big enough to read on mobile, using full view, it robs a lot more of the screen. If you put that button there and it doesn't snap back every time we refresh our browsers it will be fine.
Its like the ads, they cause a load of problems on smaller screens. But as long as we have a workaround, like an adblocker or disabling JavaScript, it doesn't cause any problems for those who don't need them.
Venusbluejeans, it sounded like you were pissed off and you highlighted my name. If it's not a direction at somebody, why highlight their name. Sorry, but it really got to me yesterday and I was upset for the whole day with members sending me messages of comfort.
I don't want to make a thing of this, but therapists have always said to me not bottle up any upset and in my opinion you came across curt and directive.
If the Site has changes, there will be feedback and if Alex doesn't answer, the members will discuss and remark as only natural. We know Alex has to work, we are reminded of that enough times and we also appreciate his time dedicated to NMP. BUT, it takes seconds to post and let us know that he has heard us and will look into something.
I'm always reminding everyone the nature of this Site and the delicacy of people's minds and chosen words and although you are very much appreciated and adored, you tend to be quite sharp with me, for whatever reason and although a longstanding member, I still feel like a complete stranger to you that is a bother and I don't know why, but it is hurtful. There, I've said my bit, it's off my chest and obviously you'll do as you please with it.
I quoted your name as it was your point I was answering about having to live with the side bar.... nothing more..... a reply to your point, but replying to eneryone on the site/thread.
Just because I was answering the thread and quoted your point, doesn't mean I was having a go at you at all, it just means I chose your point to reply to..... a valid point which was the best one to reply to at the time, about being stuck with the bar. I apologise if it came across like I was but I wasn't..... i will often pick out the post on a thread that is best for my reply so people know what I am answering to, even though a few may have said things.
Not sure how else I could have said it..... replied as an admin to let you know and other new members (who have no idea that Alex does the technical side and also has a full time job) that it will get looked at when he can.... which it will.
Now to head to work.
We all love you both, Carn and venus :bighug1:
Venusbluejeans, I appreciate your reply, but I'm afraid I don't agree with most of what you have said.
Anyone knows you highlight a name to reply to that person. If general, you state it is general.
I'm not too naive to know you were beefed when you posted that message. To me and some other members, it came across as curt, cold and aggressive.
You have apologised for upsetting me, but I can't feel the sincerity from you. Again, you come across cold towards me as if you are dismissing an irritating insect.
I will say again, you really upset me yesterday, I was in tears for most of the day, members were comforting me for most of it and so was my partner.
Please think how you might hurt members in the future considering your admin position and the state of people's mental health.
To be honest it's not the first time you have been curt with me, that's why I am bringing it to light now.
Members, if I disappear, the only reason will be because Venusbluejeans has barred me.
I am not changing the way I am, sorry.
it is the way I am to everyone, the way I admin.
now I really have to go to work so not continuing this point.
have a good day
I am speaking for myself here not as an admin. I do not feel that V was abrubt, she was simply stating facts. I know that times are hard for all of us just now and I know that I am taking things personally which were not meant.
You state about thinking about others who's mental health may be fragile but you have accussed V of being cold and dismissive towards you. She too is mentally fragile, as am I and the rest of the Admins.
If you said something like that about me I would be most upset, and yes members have had done that in the past.
As an admin, we have a process for barring members and your name has never come up.
Can you remember the last person that was barred and when? I cannot.
I understand that you were upset, and V has apologised for you feeling that way.
We should be able to move on from this now.
Am I allowed to say it's wonderful to see you drop in, Elen? :bighug1:
So you are angry with me too Elen?
Now it's been turned around that I am the hurtful one.
Sorry, but I still say venus was curt and in answer to me.
My partner thought so too. So did some other members.
Elen, I do feel like I am being ganged up here by admin and if you hadn't come on and voiced your personal opinion I would have put this to bed as just one of those unfortunate situations. I know I started another thread that I will sort out too. But honestly, I'm surprised at your message to me Elen. As a longstanding member who's helped hundreds of of people, smoothed over situational and sent big donations. What can I say?
Do not turn this back to me Carnation. I am not angry with you but some of what you have said is hurtful.
Why on earth would I gang up on you with anyone, I have never had a problem with you.
You do not have to say anything, as has been pointed out you by others that you have percieved an insult where I am sure none was intended, nonw you percieve that I am angry with you, when that is simply not the case.
You are not being ganged up on or picked on, sadly that is how you are seeing at the present moment.
I was happy to let this go until you accussed me of being angry, and ganging up on you. That is a personal insult, and one that is totaly untrue, and yes it hurts me greatly.
This is a common thing where we project what we think others are thinking when it is not at all the case.
We are never all going to agree but we are all allowed our own opion
You are not happy to let this go? Please explain? What do you want to do?
In my eyes, the whole situation has now been twisted to make me look the bad person here.
Please state what you want to do to put this to bed as my mental health is suffering as a result.
I was not willing to let it go without stating that I am not angry or ganging up on you.
I have said that and all is good from my end.
The rest is up to you, and agree spats like these are not good for any of us.
Do you want me to leave Elen?
Of course I do not want you to leave
I was only defending myself. If more people keep coming on to have their two penny worth then it's going to go on forever!
putting some flowers in the thread for Carn :flowers:
and some flowers for Elen and venus as well :flowers::flowers:
and some for the other staffs :flowers::flowers::flowers::flowers:
and some for other members as well :flowers::flowers::flowers::flowers:
The situation has now been sorted on the other thread 'mental health forums 'and Alex can hopefully reclaim his thread back. Or start another one.
Thanking everyone who supported me xx
Sorry all been a little hectic this week.
I will look at this over the weekend
Alex
omg l can't get use to it l written a post l deleted it by accident, its took me days trying to get back on here l really don't like it l preferred the way it was sorry if it offends people its my opinion l understand there's alot of work involved but what's with the change
best wishes
Carnation hope you're feeling okay xx hugs to you
I'm ok MRS S. Thank you for asking x
Adverts appearing on the right hand side now when you click to get rid more pop up which keeps the posts squashed up on the left hand side. Just for info not a complaint. I wouldn't dare after the last two days.
*makes a hot drink each for Alex and Nic and the rest of the staffs and brings them over*
for all your hard work :flowers:
Thanks Whisper :)
Thanks. And thanks for the site. It's a very important resource for a lot of people.
N.
I hope my comment didn't come across as criticism - it wasn't meant that way at all.
I was only giving my opinion on the side bar feature when using my mobile. It's just some feedback really, which I presumed Alex would want to hear.
I probably haven't said this before (sorry) but thank you Alex for the work you do on the site. It can't be easy when you have a full time job as well. And to all the Admins too. You truly are an incredible bunch of people!!
So many of us would be lost without it
Side bar or no side bar, I still love the site and am very grateful for it xx
no criticism taken Broken girl :) and thank you
I can't decide whether I like it being there or not, hopping between the two at the moment.
Think its just cause i'm not used to it being there yet and i keep expecting it to be a advert or something :blush:
Just made a small change.
The sidebar will now not display if you are using the desktop theme on a mobile device. There is the odd page that still displays it, such as the login which I am looking at but the main forum dosn't have it.
I have tested it on the major mobile browsers but if anyone has it still displayed on a mobile device when using the main theme please let me know
Thanks
Alex