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I think I have a simple solution to the closing or locking of contentious threads. Anyone who feels the thread is causing more harm than good should use the "report post" feature to make their views known. Admin could set a reasonable number of "complaints" (eg 10) before the thread is locked or closed to further posts. Each member would have one "vote".
Just an idea anyway :shades:
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Um.... what is a “Headworker”?
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Fishmanpa
I find it interesting that when challenged, they suddenly write coherently, get defensive, delete the thread etc. There are several "head workers" on the boards and the patterns are strikingly similar. Some have been here for years. Due to that similarity, I wonder if it's actually a component of their illness?
Anyway... glad it's not just me that sees it.
Positive thoughts
Or if you agree with them that what they are describing does sound like a matter for the doctor they go into denial and tell you why it can’t be anything serious. lol
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BikerMatt
If i'm thinking of the correct thread/threads/member/person ( i know i am). We had a member go missing recently, this missing member had spent so much time replying and trying to help this member/person.
A thread was started about the missing member and not even a post/reply of concern or anything from the member/person who i think this thread is about.
I don't think this person ever strays away from their own thread/threads and to be blunt it pi##es me off!
I bet many people end up with MH problems because they think/help/care/have manners and generally put others 1st. Sadly not certain people here, it's fine with me if the person or these people acknowledge the replies/help of others, but sometimes NOTHING! NOTHING AT ALL!
I actually understood all that. :roflmao:
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The reality is, serial posters, and there are several on the boards, will continue to be serial posters. No amount of reassurance or advice will change that. You can continue to try and while it's noble, all you're doing is feeding the dragon. It doesn't matter if it's a slap upside the head or tea and sympathy. It's just not going to change nor help the OP.
For whatever reason, they are unwilling or unable to help themselves and this forum is essentially being used as a sounding board and public blog of their illness. Sadly, some will be this way they're entire lives. Even with professional help, some will never recover.
Also, even when those that have been around for a while see the patterns and refrain from posting, there will always be a fresh supply of members who aren't familiar with the OP's history that will feed their dragon. Perhaps that's part of the appeal to them on the forum. There is an inherent attention seeking aspect as well whether it's intentional or not and a constant supply of food and attention. The stray cat analogy applies.
The best advice (should you feel compelled to reply) should be to seek professional help and/or to guide them towards the ample resources on the site.
Positive thoughts
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Originally Posted by
KK77
I think I have a simple solution to the closing or locking of contentious threads. Anyone who feels the thread is causing more harm than good should use the "report post" feature to make their views known. Admin could set a reasonable number of "complaints" (eg 10) before the thread is locked or closed to further posts. Each member would have one "vote".
Just an idea anyway :shades:
When threads are closed then the member will just start another thread about the same thing unfortunately
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venusbluejeans
When threads are closed then the member will just start another thread about the same thing unfortunately
Agreed... Some members will start another thread on same topic, and same rules could apply, resulting in new thread being closed too if members "report" it. "Punishing" people is not the objective here but it might help these members understand that it's unacceptable to constantly use this forum as their own personal symptoms blog or sounding board without giving anything back to the forum.
I feel that the balance between the "givers" and "takers" has grown massively over last few years and something should be done to address it. And let's be honest - these epic threads are not helping these individuals get the help they need. It keeps them in an isolated state in their own heads. Perhaps closing their threads will motivate them to interact and post on other threads, offering their support/advice (for a change) :lac:
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Difficult situation :shrug:
I think the main thing here is 'courtesy', a dying art. :unsure:
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Originally Posted by
Fishmanpa
The reality is, serial posters, and there are several on the boards, will continue to be serial posters. No amount of reassurance or advice will change that. You can continue to try and while it's noble, all you're doing is feeding the dragon. It doesn't matter if it's a slap upside the head or tea and sympathy. It's just not going to change nor help the OP.
For whatever reason, they are unwilling or unable to help themselves and this forum is essentially being used as a sounding board and public blog of their illness. Sadly, some will be this way they're entire lives. Even with professional help, some will never recover.
Also, even when those that have been around for a while see the patterns and refrain from posting, there will always be a fresh supply of members who aren't familiar with the OP's history that will feed their dragon. Perhaps that's part of the appeal to them on the forum. There is an inherent attention seeking aspect as well whether it's intentional or not and a constant supply of food and attention. The stray cat analogy applies.
The best advice
(should you feel compelled to reply) should be to seek professional help and/or to guide them towards the
ample resources on the site.
Positive thoughts
Can I just say in defence of serial posters, as a serial poster myself, that it can be very therapeutic to just write fears down. And then, in the future, it can be good to have a log of the “faulty thought patterns”. I refer back to mine all the time. Even my therapist agreed with this!
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I agree jojo, I do the same. But the main issue in discussion is the deleting of such threads and your comments have giving the absolute reason for not deleting a thread. :)
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And then, in the future, it can be good to have a log of the “faulty thought patterns”. I refer back to mine all the time. Even my therapist agreed with this!
Agreed, hence why I thought the long thread should not be deleted. :D