Looking for a girl for a date must have same hobbys as me anxiety :)

well im 55 and I can honestly say I wish I could meet a man with similar anxieties to me,then I wouldn't feel so stupid, when ive been on dating sites ive spoken to many,met a few...(in my home) as I cant go out on my own ,they have liked me and asked me out on dates but they want to go for meals or skydiving anything but stay in type relationships or go out and take it steady see how you can cope so ive been single for 15 years now because of this.i really do think meeting likeminded people could be very good.ive searched and searched for a dating site exclusively with men and woman who are like me and found nothing at all so if anyone knows of one please let me know.its no different to dating for people who are not plagued with anxiety,youmet ifyou likeeach other see where it goes,i wouldn't just meet one person and think oh he will do,there still has to be attraction and similar interest etc but it sure would put me at ease meeting people to try to find my mr right hugs to everyone linda x

well at least your having a go at it keep it up you might meet some one like US LOT one day :)

No more panic should have a dating page!
I totally agree with what Scrog is saying,
its so difficult to form relationships if you have had bad anxiety from a young age,i have missed out on so much in life,it would be great to be with someone who feels to same to help each other.

set up a dating site No More Panic!

Good thread, Scrog. Good luck. I agree with the last post by Mike.

Maybe try www.nolongerlonely.com

Whilst I agree that it's ideally better to have a "normal" relationship as two anxious people could make things worse.... I would also agree that to be with someone who understands and doesn't judge is helpful. You could save each other! I say, good luck to you, man :)

In the nicest possible way, although, yes 'we look for people with similar lives' may be true, and may work, looking for someone who shares anxiety, on purpose, may be a bad idea..

Whilst it is hard to find people to understand sometimes, seeking out a partner based on your mutual - as you put it - 'love affair' with anxiety, is probably a bad idea..

My other half is a relaxed, totally free from anxiety person and i find this very helpful. After all, we all become similar to our friends and our family members and our partners, i don't think having a partner who also has an anxiety disorder would be a good idea - how are you supposed to imagine and work towards a life without anxiety when it's what your relationship revolves around? Unless maybe you could make sure the person you meet is focused on improving things etc, being positive, and is not likely to stop you from moving forward.. Because if you take the right steps your life doesn't have to be ruled by anxiety.

Sorry if that came across harsh! :-) Wish you the best of luck x x

Hi hun....
I just read this and i would love to get to know someone who could understand the things i go through and the way i feel ;) It would be amazing to have someone special in your life who understood and who could support you and you them xx

Scrog . Your post was VERY humorous. I am in my 50s. And married.
But did the dating thing whilst panicking all the way though.
So I REALLY appreciate/agree with everything you highlighted.
It's ALL true.
You absolutely need to be a panicker to REALLY know what it's like.
And how it affects your life.
I have a panic/agarophobic/depressed brother and I can honestly say
We DO NOT bring each other down when we are in a state.
In fact IT is comforting to know someone who really does know what it's like!!
Well done you! for feeling the fear and still getting on with your life.
I have backed down on many occasions and ended up agoraphobic.

I also agree this site SHOULD have a dating page....it has a pen pal page!!!
Having a partner is so important to most people.

Comparing anxiety to cancer is not helpful. This post said it like it is...through humour.
Just wish I was 30 years younger!! Lol xx