No worries Nicola :)
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No worries Nicola :)
*blinking smilie* Paul = Full of sh1t IMQFHO!
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Ok - ummmm - what to say???? WOW- that felt kinda like a shot between the eyes to everyone on the site that isn't recovered and still coping with anxiety. Which in itself kinda makes me wonder how you could feel that way when you yourself knows how anxiety feels and what an enormous daily struggle it can be.
You say that you want the mods and senior members to post that they want to recover. Well, I personally want nothing more than to be free of anxiety.
And if you had taken the time to get to know me - you would know that I am (as are most on this site) working at it every day.
I believe that by posting our fears and getting responses from other members that it helps us to defeat those fears.
I have spent many nights searching thru this site, finding posts on my personal issues that I stuggle with for a few reasons. Number 1, it helps to know that I am not alone and that others have been where I am, feeling the way I do and - Number 2 - when I read that Nic, for example, was able to drive after having such a hard time with it ( which is one of my biggest fears) I had enough confidence to drive myself to work which I never thought I would be able to conquer.
I am a mod on this site. I am proud of that fact!! I am just as proud of the fact that I am making daily breakthoughs against anxiety. I am not recovered and don't know if or when that will ever happen. But I feel better about myself daily in the little triumphs against anxiety.
As far as the part of your post that involved 'sucking people in and keeping them there'. We have had several members that have gotten their anxiety under control and have moved on. I miss them but am so happy and thankful that they have moved on and don't need this site anymore. That may sound weird to you but it's true because we all want the best for each other here.
You say that if I can't beat my own fear then how can I reply to other's posts... Well if someone posts about a fear that I share than I can at least tell them that I have that same fear and maybe they won't feel so alone!!!
I believe that sites like these are important - not because we have all the answers or some miracle 'RECOVERY' method but because panic/anxiety, PTSD, health anxiety, and depression are isolating conditions. Some feel like they have no one they can talk to about these things in their lives and here there is a support system. People who TRUELY care. Who have been there and know how difficult it is.
Some have recovered - some are in the process, and some are just starting to realize what they can do to beat these things.
We all have something to contribute on this site. Whether it be personal experiences, therapies that have helped, or just brightening things up by posting something funny or silly. We give each other hugs when we are having a bad day and we give each other praise when we have overcome something that we never thought we could.
It's great that you have found a program or whatever that has worked for you and I am so glad that you have 'recovered'. But to tell you the truth, I would much rather you let us know how you overcame your fears than choosing to post a 'poo poo' post about how you think we should be.
I would like to also remind you of a reply that you posted recently ...
"My advice to other members is when one of our own is in pain rally to their support and don't go into the issues in other topics or the past."
Hmmmmm I wonder if that was you that said that or if someone had hijacked your computer to post that because you sounded so supportive in that reply and so condiscending and unsympathetic in this one!!!!
xxx
Sandy
No hope for me then after 20 odd years of panic [:O]
kate
"Everybody's changing and I don't feel the same"
I want to say something about Paul's post...... firstly it was upsetting to hear you say that people dont want to recover, and i want to make a very important point....
With the help, encouragement and support, empathy and ghoodwill I received from this site my panic attacks have all but gone and I have taken my place in the world again.
I had nowhere to turn and nobody understood my panic like the people here, and i posted all my little successes, and how great it was to have people understand how big those little things were!
Thanks to all who have helped me on here so much, I love the people on this site and the moderators do a fantastic job, well done all of you!
Like my mother used to say, "if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing". I like to be here to help people, but I certainly would never tell anyone they dont want to recover, of course they do!
love to all, sorry to rant
Mandy xxx
positive attitude brings positive results
Recovery IS hard and for me it started to happen when i felt the time was right.
During my housebound years i was having therapists come to my house every week to see me and try and get me out but at that time - i was NOT ready for that step, so i told them that i believed they were wasting their time on basically a person who was too phobic to change.
I guess in some ways its the same as someone with an addiction, to make a difference, you HAVE to want to, and thank God that finally happened to me. I did hit rock bottom and i knew from there, the only way was up.
Still only 1/3 of the way up, i WILL get there :)
SarahC
I am notgoing to attempt to defend this site as it is above such rambling that i can blather forth BUT I WILLTELL YOU THAT WITHOUT IT I WOULD BE A DRUNKEN SNIVVELING WRECK!I was desoerate when i came here..lonely ,terrified of everything!Now ..i go out ,i go to concerts, i can go shopping,i remember what i have done as i dont have to be drunk and full of drugs to do it!THIS SITE AND ALLTHE PEOPLE ON IT ARE WONDERFUL!You jouned a site that doea not deal in one upmanship or self righteous behavior.We ALL support each other..i dont say fully recovered as one NEVER knows what is round the corner,but i accept me for whoi am ans i am nolonger afraid of my fear!I AM STILL HER ,WILLALWAYS BE HERE FOR THOSE WHO NEED A HAND,AND TO REACH OUT FOR A HAND TO STEADY ME SHOULD I NEED IT,IN THE FULL KNOWLEDGE THAT THERE WILLALWAYS BE ONE THERE FOR ME.So whenn you ask why dont pwe come toyou for recovery ,not wishing to be rude ,but maybe we dont need to!!!???We're doing ok thank you very much!!Love mary rose.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
we are all in the same boat and can guide each other ashore
I have been directed to this topic, via another one i was looking at - thank you. I don't get huge amounts of time, and i'm not great with computers - finding things i write again the next day, so was totally unaware anyone had replied. Please could people p message me and explain where they'd like me to look in future.
I have read everyones comments and taken them on board. We all have bad days, when things are going on in our lives and we are less patient than usual. I've had a lot of people contact me asking for help and saying how great my posts were and how immediatly helpful. Some even went out at once and achieved things they hadn't for ages. Well done, please keep it up and keep in contact for support.
But and i know i was wrong, many asked for my advice then told me i was wrong, and in a negative mood instead of soaking this up as i normally would, i reacted.
Infact i'm always pleased to see such friendship and support between members of sites. It is very good that sufferers have somewhere safe to come and share and just feel a little better. The national phobics society site has been good for me over some years - hardly anyone posts these days though.
I hope if i ask for members forgiveness right here and now, i may regain some of your trust. There is no excuse, and i don't try to offer any, for being unhelpful to people who from past experience suffer as i did. In future i hope my posts are more constructive and loving. Sorry for any offence caused, Paul.
Love to all members
Many thanks for your reply Paul. I have to say, its a huge shame that it took so many comments from others for you to take the action of apologising.
However, that is what you have done, so I would like to congratulate you for that. I hope your future posts will be somewhat better thought out.
Kind Regards
Ross
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Apology accepted.
Piglet :)
"Supposing a tree fell down, Pooh, when we were underneath it?" said Piglet.
"Supposing it didn't," said Pooh after careful thought.