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Hi All,
I thought I would write this thread as Nic isn’t the type of person to write it.
As many of you know Nic runs this website and pays for it all with the help of Alex and the cost of it is anything but cheap, but they pay for it and try to keep it running so it is totally free for members.
Nic has many different health problems, the main being Crohns Disease and heart problems after a Heart attack in 2008. After that she has been unable to do much work due to her ill health which makes it even more amazing that she pays for the website just for our benefit when she hardly earns anything herself.
That is one of the reasons she wouldn’t write this thread because she sees it as her site, which it is so she should pay for it BUT to me that certainly isn’t true.
You may have noticed that during the past couple of months that Nic has mostly been absent from the website and that is because she has been going through A LOT of personal things.
Nic and Alex have been in the process of splitting which has been very traumatic for them both as they had been together for 18 years and have been through an awful lot together so there is a lot to deal with between them. (Obviously this will not be discussed in any detail on the forum as it is a very personal matter)
It is because of this that the future of NMP is not actually secure and we all know how important it is to our lives, in fact a lot of people have been saying to me that it has saved their lives, so quite honestly we NEED this site to continue.
If Nic ends up having to pay for the site alone then I am not sure how long it will last. Not being ‘mean’ to Nic, just being truthful and realistic. And none of us actually want that to happen do we???
NMP has a Donate button on the front page (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/donate) and I am sure most of you just pass it by each time you log in and probably not even notice it is there!! Thank you to all who do actually donate
I would like to urge you to have a think about what you would do without this site. If the answer is that it wouldn’t make any difference to you if the site was here or not then don’t do anything but if you like me really don’t know what you would have done without the site then if you can please click that donate link because at the minute it may end up as “use the donate button or lose the site”
I have run this thread past Nic before posting it, but to be honest it is something I have been meaning to post for a while as I didn’t really think it fair that Nic (and Alex) should pay all of this money for a site that is helping so many when she doesn’t actually have that much money to do so.
So use it or maybe face losing it folks the choice is down to you
Thanks
Emmz xxxx
PS. Sorry if this seems like a bit of a “GIVE US YOUR MONEY” thread
PPS. Actually I am not really sorry as it is something that needs to be said and it really IS a thread like that J
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Oh no I just read this. I hadn't noticed a donate button, how did I miss that? It's important that the site does keep going, people we need to act.
Nic, I am very sorry that you and Alex have had difficulties that have lead to you splitting up.
I need to go and find that button.
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Ok... I logged out and logged back in ....to see if I could find the donate button.
I think I didn't see it because 9 times out of 10, I don't use the home page to get into the site. Also I guess it wasn't really very apparent. I do remember when the new site went up and running that there was mention of donations. I must admit I expected it to be more obvious but perhaps also I just was so "into" whatever threads I was reading or commenting on, that each time donating slipped my mind. I'll put that right. :-) night all.
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I can't offer money I'm afraid as I don't have enough for myself.
But I can offer you help, time and anything else. Just give me a shout :)
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I donate when I can, I always get a "thank you" email from Nic.
Nic - I am so sorry to hear about you and Alex, that's a long time to be together, I'm sure things will work out for the best.
I will donate again when I can.
Love
Els
xxx
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I was only thinking about this the other day.
The problem I have is because of this 'Illness', I have not worked for over a year.
BUT, I am going through a claim with the 'Car Accident' incident and I was going to make a Donation when that came through anyway. God knows how long I have to wait for that, but hopefully it will not be too long.
After all, this has been my Therapy in recovering too.
I hope more people read this and make a Donation if they can afford to do so, as it would be a catastrophe if we lost this Site. :ohmy:
P.s. Best Wishes to Nicola and many, many thanks for what you do. :hugs:
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There should be more replies on this Thread. What is wrong with everyone???? :shrug:
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Carnation
There should be more replies on this Thread. What is wrong with everyone???? :shrug:
Yes, I agree Carnation. It is silly to ignore Venus's post and request, as what will folk do if the site is no longer here??
I donated in the early hours today. I would like to have given more, but my financial situation isn't the best, but even a small amount would help hugely, if given by the the many members here on NMP.
It is a very good cause indeed, as anyone who is a member relying on NMP for support and advice would surely agree. I personally am eternally grateful to Nicola and all of the mods for setting up and maintaining this excellent site. It has helped me on many occasions when I am in the height of anxiety and panic. x :flowers:
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I know there are people on here struggling financially, but just to ignore this Thread is just wrong. And you are right Debs, if every Member gave a small amount, it would become a big amount from all of us.
Emmz, if Members want to post a cheque, where do they send it?
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Yep, I totally get that people are short on funds. It is a daily occurence for me!....but a tiny amount from many would still add up to be a great help, as you say Carnie x
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I have donated, this site has been a lifeline for me. I know some people are struggling financially but every little helps...even if we can resist buying that bar of chocolate and send the cost of it to NMP instead :)
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Thank you All :)
Every donation is greatly appreciated no matter how small, Nic works hard to make sure this site is a free one but unfortunately she does that at tremendous personal cost.
I appreciate most of us do not have much at all and I am not trying to guilt trip anyone into making a donation or feeling guilty about not making a donation. It is just mainly to make people realise that it may be free for them but it is certainly not free to run the site!!
Thanks again to everyone who has donated and if you do want to donate by cheque Nic says I can give you her address,and that she will also post on this thread herself later. so if you would like to PM me (or Nic) I shall pass on the details
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I will donate tomorrow, I get paid tomorrow. I'll let you know when I've done it.
So sorry to hear about the split, keep you both in my prayers.
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This site has really been a life saver to me so I will donate! Don't know what I'd do without it really!!
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Hi all
Thank You all so much for the donations today and last night - it means a lot to me.
I need to be able to pay for NMP now on my own and I also need to upgrade it to VBulletin 4 so I can also start putting some adverts on to help fund it. The running costs are nearly £100 a month so it does need to start making some money to be honest.
Alex has been paying these costs for me recently but it is not fair to ask him to continue doing that now we have split up - though I know he will do so until I can start paying him back.
The split with Alex is very hard and we are now in the process of sorting out selling the home I have lived in for 16 years so things are very painful for me at the moment but I will get through it with the help of family and friends.
I am self-employed and have not had any work recently so have no income until I can find more work or a new career.
Anyway I just wanted to say:
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It means a lot to me
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Donation from me done:) It's not a lot but I will make a donation as and when I can. Thanks for the site and hard work!
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For Nicola :bighug1::bighug1::bighug1::bighug1::bighug1::bigh ug1::bighug1::bighug1::bighug1::bighug1::grouphug: :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:
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:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:for you Nicola x
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https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/i...VpLGbbAXSnFoZF
For everything you all do in providing such an amazing helpful supportive site.
Also big hugs for Nic. :hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:
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Hugs from me too Nicola....big ones...:hugs::bighug1::flowers::bighug1::hugs:xxx
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Hello Nic, shocked is not the word,
From a long lost friend.
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so sorry to hear ... i'll donate of course
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Just thinking about it, I know the exchange rate is high from USD to pounds, so I wish I could give more than I did. But if everybody who logged in gave 5 dollars or pounds or whatever per month, that would be more than enough to run this! So no shame to anybody who can just give a few dollars or what have you, it all makes a difference.
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Now I'm on a roll here lol sorry another addition ... Any of the admins - have you heard of Amazon Smile? Not sure how it works exactly but you can list a charity and when people select your charity, they shop on amazon for anything they typically would buy there and amazon donates a % to the charity. I wonder if it is doable for NMP?
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Me to this site has been a life line to me when I was at my lowest
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I love this site, it makes me feel normal when the real world seems far from it! I am in severe debt but will give a little. If everyone does the same, it will keep this important site going!! xx
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Wow Thank you everybody. Nic has just been telling me about all the donations and I am really Grateful for each and everyone, because it all goes to the running and the improvement of the site....
Thank you so much again it means a lot...
Swgrl09 - We us easy fundraising which uses online shopping to raise funds but I am not sure many people know about it. It sounds like the Amazon Smile is similar? http://www.easyfundraising.org.uk/
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I thought today was Monday, I've been a day ahead of myself. I will donate on Monday, that is when I get paid, sorry.
sending you hugs Nicola. :hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:
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I am overwhelmed by the kindness and donations today and thank you all so much.
I have emailed every individual that donated so please check spam/junk if you don't have an email from me thanking you.
I really do appreciate the donations so that we can keep NMP running and also get it upgraded to the newer VBulletin version.
Thank You all
xx
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Done :)
Will send more soon x
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Like a lot of other people I cannot log into the chatroom, there is a real problem with java, I very rarely post anything, sort out the problem with java and I and I expect others will consider donating, whats the point of donating to a site that by and large doesn't help me anymore. ALAN
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Have you thought Alan, that it is time and funds that has caused the problems in chat to not be solved quicker, what an ignorant and unnecessary comment.
Maybe your donation may help to find a new host (sorry if this is not the correct term, i'm not technically minded) for this site, then you can carry on joining in.
Everyone who helps run this site do a massive service every day and i am ever so thankful for what they do. I for one would be completely lost without NMP, thankfully i can still access chat, but even if i couldn't i would be happy in the thought that everything was being done that could be done to fix the problem. Being a negative nelly helps no one!
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There are a few reasons for the chat room problems...
1. we need to upgrade the chat room and this costs money to sort out and it is also taking time as we need a chat room with specific requirements. we have been looking for a suitable one for a long time now so we have not been sat doing nothing about the chat room.
2. Alex is our technical Guru on the site who is going through the split with Nic and is suffering as much as she is and at the minute really has other things to be doing rather than sorting and writing new chat rooms.
We are sorting the chat room but there is only so much we can do at the minute.... if you feel that the site is not helping you then we are not forcing you to donate at all.... we appreciate every single donation we do get but do not force anyone to donate, that bit is up to the member.
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I never use the chat room but this site has really helped me a lot over the years ... I honestly just forget that it does take money and time to run, so thank you to everybody who does it and who has pitched in to keep this going.
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I don't use the chatroom either, to be honest. I would get tongue tied and shy.:blush:
Quite frankly, if someone is that desperate to talk and can't through the chat room, what is the issue with posting??
Maybe then they would find the site does indeed 'HELP' them.
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Sorry to hear about your troubles Nic :bighug1::hugs::flowers:
Are you recognised by HMRC as a charity because you won't be pulling in enough to become a registered one with the Charity Commission unless you want CIO status.
If you did this you could access Gift Aid for UK donations to boost against your costs. That would drop your costs to £80 in UK donations. I think the only problem for some of us then is going to be the tax issue because we may not pay enough or any to qualify to give you Gift Aid. (how do we get around that?)
I only pay tax on savings in the current financial year so I doubt I would qualify.
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swgrl09
so sorry to hear ... i'll donate of course
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Just thinking about it, I know the exchange rate is high from USD to pounds, so I wish I could give more than I did. But if everybody who logged in gave 5 dollars or pounds or whatever per month, that would be more than enough to run this! So no shame to anybody who can just give a few dollars or what have you, it all makes a difference.
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Now I'm on a roll here lol sorry another addition ... Any of the admins - have you heard of Amazon Smile? Not sure how it works exactly but you can list a charity and when people select your charity, they shop on amazon for anything they typically would buy there and amazon donates a % to the charity. I wonder if it is doable for NMP?
Amazon Smile gives 0.5% but the one Emma mentioned gives 1.5% for Amazon purchases. I've never heard of it but at least it means we can get them more. To be honest, I didn't know about this and I could have been putting my Xmas pressie purchases through this for NMP! I used to get Nectar points of Amazon but now they have stopped again and I still need to use them as they are far cheaper than anywhere else for some of the stuff I seem to buy.
A local charity I used to attend offered membership with or without subscription and I think it was either whatever you wanted to pay or 50p or something like that. Every little bit does help afterall.
If NMP is a charity, can we not pursue grants? The National Lottery give money out and can we even chase celebrities for a donation given many of them have or still do suffer from mental health conditions?
It just strikes me that whilst its a lot of money to Nic, its not in the grand scheme of charities and if even a one off payment to give Nic some breathing space can be obtained, its better than nothing. She needs something ongoing, thats for sure, but like you say, its not that much if we spread it. I will make a donation, I'm just awaiting an answer on the Gift Aid question because I would prefer to add the extra 25p per pound if possible.
Also, I think we need to be mindful of how we donate because when I clicked Donate to see how it processes ot shows that Nic is using Paypal so there are some fees to consider if we are outside the UK or don't have a Paypal or Bank Account to donate from https://www.paypal.com/uk/webapps/mpp/paypal-fees (Am I right in thinking that if we Paypal you cash that we haven't first credited to our Paypal accounts, you will get hit with the Debit Card fee?)
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The issue with posting is you have to wait for a reply, some people are desperate to chat with someone there and then, the chatroom is very helpful to a lot of people. I will not stoop to critisising other members on this thread , I have sent a message to venus complaining about these put down comments towards me, I am entitled to my opinion and shouldn't have to suffer this these abusive comments.
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Done,
I thought of setting up a monthly payment, that way I'm donating monthly.
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Thats a nice idea Yvonne. I would be up for doing a sort of standing order to NMP, that way it's smaller donations, but spread out so we give more and secure it's future too.
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BUMPING!!.. this needs to be read by all:)