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A message from the admins. please read
As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.
No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails
We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.
There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.
Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.
The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.
We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.
OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.
If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.
Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.
If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post
All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.
99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness
Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.
Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be
NMP Admin team
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Great post. Thank you. x:hugs:
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Good thread, and no doubt a timely one.
I have noticed one problem which may be worth mentioning though; some people seem to have a problem if I or perhaps others use dramatic or graphic means of describing our experiences of anxiety attacks, as if by doing so we're saying we're the only people who have had this experience (I actually had this said to me on one thread).
For me, part of trying to recover from what I've had to deal with seems to be to describe it as honestly as possible, and there is certainly no implication on my part that no one else has had the same experience.
There is, however, a world of difference between an anxiety attack where the anxiety level peaks rapidly and dies away equally rapidly, and an attack where it doesn't and one seems to be stuck in the very high anxiety state for what may be minutes (where a minute can seem a lot longer than that!), and I don't see how it serves anyone's interests to say or maintain that this doesn't happen. Not least because other people may have the same thing happen to them and want to know how to deal with it when it happens.
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Originally Posted by
nmpadmin
If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.
There is also an "ignore" function that can be found on a members profile in the drop down menu under "user lists". This effectively hides posts from that specific member. While you can still read them if you're not logged in and can choose to read them while logged in, it's still an effective way to avoid frustrating posts or members.
Positive thoughts
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Personal abuse on this forum is sadly getting common.
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So True Terry and another way to combat it is if the OP isn't happy on a thread they have started they can moderate their thread and even delete the whole thread with out any intervention from the moderators so every one has control over their own threads so I find this very useful thank you :) Cheers
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I would like to thank everyone I have communicated with, on posts, in chat or pm. I have made some friends that have helped me on my journey of healing. This forum has led me to these people and I will be forever grateful.
Thank you,
Terri
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Another point I will add on another forum (totally different type of forum0 they did have a useful tool on every post directly below the username in the form of red triangle you simply click on it and it reports the content of the post and the poster and it save arguments and is down to the mods to decide the best course of action to take. Would a feature like that work on this forum? Just a thought. As said before if I was a newbie and thread of mine had argumentative comments in it may push me away from the forum all together, how ever I have got used to these arguments even on threads I have started and wont tolerate it and will delete any threads I have started, but not every one is the same. Cheers
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Bigboyuk
Another point I will add on another forum (totally different type of forum0 they did have a useful tool on every post directly below the username in the form of red triangle you simply click on it and it reports the content of the post and the poster and it save arguments and is down to the mods to decide the best course of action to take. Would a feature like that work on this forum? Just a thought. As said before if I was a newbie and thread of mine had argumentative comments in it may push me away from the forum all together, how ever I have got used to these arguments even on threads I have started and wont tolerate it and will delete any threads I have started, but not every one is the same. Cheers
Dave,
I think you are a total, utter & complete...nice bloke!!! :yesyes:
We've got a triangle too, it's at the top right of the post by the post number. That opens a new page with a free form text box to report your reasons with it.
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snowghost57
I would like to thank everyone I have communicated with, on posts, in chat or pm. I have made some friends that have helped me on my journey of healing. This forum has led me to these people and I will be forever grateful.
Thank you,
Terri
A great positive message and a good reminder the good always by far outweighs the bad. It's the people that have kept me here when things have got hard and I am to have met them. :flowers:
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MyNameIsTerry
Dave,
I think you are a total, utter & complete...nice bloke!!! :yesyes:
We've got a triangle too, it's at the top right of the post by the post number. That opens a new page with a free form text box to report your reasons with it.
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A great positive message and a good reminder the good always by far outweighs the bad. It's the people that have kept me here when things have got hard and I am to have met them. :flowers:
Ahh thanks Terry that means a lot but I aint sending you any flowers ha ha and yes see the triangle now perhaps in the wrong place and bit small but it's there :) How I missed that I will never know. And yes the good over rules the bad it has to :yesyes: Yes its helped me too in my darkest days :) CHeers
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Yes, I have noticed a lot of aggression / abuse on here in recent years; both overt and passive-aggressive. The atmosphere does seem different to when I first joined 8 years ago. I still read, but don't post much as I just don't want to get caught up in arguments.
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I quite agree Darwin, ive been here some years now too, and before 2014 there wasn't much conflict on the forum. I took a break in 2014 along with some other members because it became too much.
There will always be some conflict with different personalities and different advice styles...what is seen as offensive to one, might just be seen as being honest by another. Take emojis for example, some members like to use borderline porno emojis because they think theyre funny, but others might be offended by them or think them inappropriate for a forum with minimum age 13...so you see, It depends how you look at it.
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Some of the subject topics on here aren't even suitable for children, in my opinion. The sex ones are potentially too graphic and every parent will understandably have different opinions on that.
I think that's worse than a cartoon graphic, which I've been guilty of. And to point out, there is swearing emoji on the standard forum list. Actually there are several. "Finger", "WTF". I've removed them if a member raises a concern and I understand why, I tend to post comical ones most of the time.
Swearing at members too. That's not language I would use in front of a child. That needs to be kept in mind. We do get cheeky on the games threads but it's not used against other members. I'm not sure about Admin's opinion there but it's the intent I've looked at more but realise I'm guilty of it in the lighthearted threads.
I've found the abuse I've had has been off members with join dates that go back many years, not just more recent. I remember when I joined there were already arguments going on.
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This is indeed a very good post. Learned a lot from it. Thank you very much and keep up your good work admins.
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Bump
For all the good it will do :wall: even at Christmas...
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And a reminder that if Admin think people are posting just to have a go at others, their posts will be deleted and they will be barred from that particular thread.
Blunt is acceptable under the correct circumstances, but ridiculing is not.
It affects more people than the OP and will not be tolerated.
Elen
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Yes this is all good, but what I want to ask is on certain posts (no names mentioned) and a poster keeps asking for reassurance should we all take notice of this harmful destructive cycle and not keep giving reassurance? I certainly think we should and I have made this very clear in my replies. As for arguments well think NMP had less of this many years ago based on lots of very old posts I have read. Lets all hope we can all be helpful and kind to every one in 2018 :) ATB
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Me too. thankyou for everyone's support
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Elen
And a reminder that if Admin think people are posting just to have a go at others, their posts will be deleted and they will be barred from that particular thread.
Blunt is acceptable under the correct circumstances, but ridiculing is not.
It affects more people than the OP and will not be tolerated.
Elen
Bump
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Just a thank you from me to our Admin's for continuing to steer the forum and take notice of people's concerns. Thank you. :hugs:
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Shit started to post but stopped cause it would just cause ructions
there are times it would be nice to be a normal member and be able to speak your mind at times. lol
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Sometimes it's best not to. Differing opinions will just mean it becomes a discussion and emotive issues often spiral into unpleasantness.
As a member, I don't feel I can say what I truly think on these subjects as it's not going to go down well but those who disagree or dislike my opinions or how I come across are entitled to have their say too and it will just run on. Hence I bump this in the hope things just move on.
It reminds me of my management days. You appeal for everyone to get on but if they can't, you wheel out the disciplinary procedures because at the end of the day you have to get along. If you can't you keep it to yourself or find another job.
To be honest, this is a very lenient forum. There are advantages & disadvantages to that.
I hope that's a balanced comment, it's not meant to point to anyone.
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lol Terry you made me laugh anyway
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Laughing is essential therapy! :yesyes:
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Bump.
Even when Admin ask people to stay out of a thread so they can try to deal with it certain members still demand their say. :wall:
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I consider my wrists slapped :blush:
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Phuzella
I consider my wrists slapped :blush:
It happens to us all from time to time.
It is done and dusted and no harm done:yesyes:
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Phuzella
I consider my wrists slapped :blush:
Sorry Phuzella, I was thinking about those that have been told across multiple threads in the last week. Some people may not realise with not being on as regular.
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Yes me guilty too going to make a huge effort and leave certain threads alone talk about flogging a dead horse ahh ATB
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NPAA (not posting as admin)
This was posted over 9 months ago, I am glad that people are now getting the idea :)
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Bigboyuk
Yes me guilty too going to make a huge effort and leave certain threads alone talk about flogging a dead horse ahh ATB
Imagine how Admin feel. Some just won't leave alone and Admin have to babysit threads despite being sufferers themselves.
Please look after your own health, Venus. You don't need extras on top of your own struggles right now. :hugs:
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Fishmanpa
There is also an "ignore" function that can be found on a members profile in the drop down menu under "user lists". This effectively hides posts from that specific member. While you can still read them if you're not logged in and can choose to read them while logged in, it's still an effective way to avoid frustrating posts or members.
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I feel for you VBJ try and take a complete break from the forum for a few days :hugs:ATB