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I found no help in this website
Yes the topics help and you can locate what your problems might be but I have had no feedback from posts from other sufferers. I was really quite hopeful to talk to other people like me that the system fails to help and get some advice but unfortunately have found nothing, another brick wall
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sam66
Yes the topics help and you can locate what your problems might be but I have had no feedback from posts from other sufferers. I was really quite hopeful to talk to other people like me that the system fails to help and get some advice but unfortunately have found nothing, another brick wall
why dont you try the chat room then
god bless
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This is only your second post though, so you've only made one before ? What was it about maybe you could post it again ? Don't take it personally as sometimes things move fast on the active topics page and some times things get missed by people.
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Sam you have made 1 other post, that being in the introduce me section too. If you wanted advice you may have been better posting in the relevant section on the forum as people tend to go there rather than the introduction section, as this is just here to introduce yourself and say hello rather than for advice, that is what the other sections are for.
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You need to make things clear Sam. What do you need help with? Everyone tries their best here. You wont find a miracle cure. I understand how frustrating things can be but bear in mind that we all suffer here. :hugs:
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alright sam u can send me a msg ill help u as best as i can :) .
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Sam give it a chance. Don't give up at the first hurdle everyone is trying their best and you are not alone with the way you feel.:hugs:
Just keep posting
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Sam, it is better to post a specific question in the relevant section on the forum, for example under general anxiety, as this will get viewed a lot more than one in the introduce yourself forum, which not many people read.
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Hi Sam, I see that you take Citalopram, this page http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/forumdisplay.php?f=49
is a good place to start:welcome:
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Thankyou for the support, really appreiated. I stopped taking citopram after a week as it made my anxiety alot worse, the propranolol helps with panic if I have to leave the house as this is difficult at this time, perhaps I should just pull myself together, there are people starving, wars I have no right to feel like this
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Hi Sam.
Lots of people stop taking Citalopram after a few days. It enhances the anxiety something terrible, but if you stick with it for a few weeks you might find that it gradually makes you feel much better.
We all try to pull ourselves together, but for the most part we fall apart again after a wee while. Best not to think too much about the starving millions until you're better:hugs:
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sam66
Thankyou for the support, really appreiated. I stopped taking citopram after a week as it made my anxiety alot worse, the propranolol helps with panic if I have to leave the house as this is difficult at this time, perhaps I should just pull myself together, there are people starving, wars I have no right to feel like this
Hi Sam citalopram is renowned for increasing anxiety at the beginning but it does pass after 2-3 weeks or so, unfortunatly most AD's make us feel 100 times worse before we get any better xx
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Heres a thought, I have been a Mum since 17 now 45, I saw what parents distuction can do and believe me my kids needs have always come far above mine, but what if now they are grown and I have done my job as a parent that Im might actually harm them more by staying alive, I watched my Father slowly distroy my family, am I not doing the same?
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my job as a Mum is done and perhaps instead of feeling guilty, that hey I raised my kids alone, had a heroin brother to pick up, losing my Mum, relationship breakdown, sons abuse,problems at work, that actually its time to put me first and if I dont want to be here anymore, that should be my right
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In what way would you harm them,just by staying alive? how are you destroying your family? by being ill and depressed? no way....Im sure they love you and want to see you well.....is there anyone in your family you can confide in? It really does help to talk.
Im not saying I know the answers,I dont know your past,but I have had a painful childhood and all I can say is.......why let the past win?? ! You,ve put your childrens needs far above yours....is that not being a good Mum? I bet you,re a fantastic Mum....
but now they are grown and you,re not feeling yourself,why not take steps to help yourself get better? and build up some self esteem.
I too have had self doubt,though deep down,I know I do my best for my kids.....I just need to remind myself sometimes,but its so hard when you,re so full of bad memories and constant worries that take over.....mind in turmoil
I tried self help,books,CD's etc but they only helped a little and have now been on fluoxetine for nearly 5 weeks and Im slowly getting better.Its not easy,but you need to help yourself too.The first 2 weeks on fluoxetine were hell AND made my anxiety alot worse,but I got alot of encouragement on here.
Feeling guilty about starving people....yes,I did that too....yet another worry that doesnt get you anywhere.You shouldnt feel guilty.......would you not give the CIT another try? Im sure it would work,give it another chance or maybe try a different AD?
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I need to be strong, get back to work, or maybe just say sod it you aint going to beat it and stop this endless pain, I have raised two fine sons I had my brother blame me for my Mum dying a Father that wished me dead at 14 'just die'. yepits fine I can do this
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I now how you feel sickandtired, its a long battle that never seems to end, I wish you well xx
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Hi Sam. I have a good life and there is no reason for me to be depressed and anxious. But I am and I can't help it. It's an illness and we don't need to feel guilty about being ill.
I'm quite young and I would hate to lose my parents and so would your children. I know a girl who killed herself and it has affected so many people including myself. Infact it has made my struggle with depression that much harder knowing how it can end.
You will get better but I think you maybe need more help. I am on citalopram too and yes it is hard at first. I actually took it for a week and then stopped like yourself. I then started again 2 weeks later and the side effects weren't as bad.
Please just go and see your GP again and get some proper help and support xx
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yes you can get better!
i saw my mum get beaten off my step dad for years,jumped on his back many a time,only to be thrown in the corner of the room and told to 'f*** off upstairs,he threatened to tie my mum up and kill me and my brothers in front of her,then kill himself and leave her to live with it all.My Mum had to send me 200 miles away to my Aunts because he threatened to get me after school in his work van...him and his friends.....well you can guess the rest..
we had years of hell with this *******.he smashed my grandparents windows,set fire to their house,smashed our windows,broke in whilst we were asleep (after my mum divorced him) he smashed my grandfathers gravestone,sent letters and Xmas cars to extended family containing shit and condoms...he truly was a mental case and made our lives a living hell.He died several years ago,but still haunts my dreams......
But,I,LL BE DAMNED IF I,LL LET HIM WIN!!!! HE WILL NOT DESTROY ME AND MY FAMILY!! WE ARE STRONG AND WE WENT THROUGH ALOT.....WE CAN GET THROUGH ANYTHING!!!!! AND I,LL GET THROUGH THIS!!! AND YOU,LL WILL TOO!! YOU CAN DO THIS!
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Do not use the chat room on this site, people are rude, not understanding and frankly insullting
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you come in pick on people call them names you are one insultin woman
tell people thay can buy shoes who are you to say that ?
be nice your get nice
god bless
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sam66
Yes the topics help and you can locate what your problems might be but I have had no feedback from posts from other sufferers. I was really quite hopeful to talk to other people like me that the system fails to help and get some advice but unfortunately have found nothing, another brick wall
With all due respect, you have done 11 posts in total. That's not really giving the site or other sufferers a chance. Also, the site is not just about take, you could give a little too which would start up conversations on the topic/s you are interested in.
Lisa
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read the logs back when I have insulted anyone? perhaps shoes dont matter, watching your brother die does, dont insult me london
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sam66
Do not use the chat room on this site, people are rude, not understanding and frankly insullting
That's very rude and untrue. The chat room has been a massive help to many people, myself included.
Please don't insult fellow members by making judgements.
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sam66
read the logs back when I have insulted anyone? perhaps shoes dont matter, watching your brother die does, dont insult me london
what brother i never did it
god bless
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oh a new bombshell wants to have a go
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Excuse me? Do you mean me?
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oh trust me I will I dont need your rejection and your members being hostile, im fine thankyou
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nice site :/
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Your attitude is rather hostile. Maybe you should take some time out to calm down.
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The chat room is a great place. They have always helped me. I know you are suffering and it's easy to lash out but give it a good chance. The chats can be very busy sometimes and people can have multiple chats at once. Maybe there was a misunderstanding somewhere?
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Yes the topics help and you can locate what your problems might be but I have had no feedback from posts from other sufferers. I was really quite hopeful to talk to other people like me that the system fails to help and get some advice but unfortunately have found nothing, another brick wall
You had a reply to your one post, sometimes people don’t feel able to respond this is a site for sufferers run by other sufferers. This is not a system.
After this post you have had many responses offering you help and support.
Thankyou for the support, really appreiated. I stopped taking citopram after a week as it made my anxiety alot worse, the propranolol helps with panic if I have to leave the house as this is difficult at this time, perhaps I should just pull myself together, there are people starving, wars I have no right to feel like this.[/B]
Citalopram usually takes a minimum of 6 weeks to work and you often feel worse before you feel better your Doctor should have advised you of this? Abandoning it after 1 week is unwise without GP consultation.
Here’s a thought, I have been a Mum since 17 now 45, I saw what parents destruction can do and believe me my kids needs have always come far above mine, but what if now they are grown and I have done my job as a parent that I’m might actually harm them more by staying alive, I watched my Father slowly destroy my family, am I not doing the same?
[]I watched my parents destroy my childhood and themselves, my mother committed suicide when I was 9 yrs old. My kids needs have always come before mine. Where did you think your job was done as they are grown? By being there you are ensuring that you family will be ok, as you have always done. Do you think because they are grown they will not be devastated by your loss?[/
I need to be strong, get back to work, or maybe just say sod it you aint going to beat it and stop this endless pain, I have raised two fine sons I had my brother blame me for my Mum dying a Father that wished me dead at 14 'just die'. yepits fine I can do this
Yes you can do this because deep down you know you are not responsible for someone else’s demise, they just needed someone to blame at the time.
Do not use the chat room on this site, people are rude, not understanding and frankly insulting
Frankly Sam66 I was in the chat room while you were there, you chose to be insulting to the members in there; they asked you several times if you were ok and did you want to talk? Much more than you would received in the 3D world especially considering how hostile you were to them. There are so many members here that could provide you with help and support but you need to open up and trust them first? No one is going to come and beat down a closed door to help you, you have to be willing to open the door to receive the help and support you so obviously need.
I watched my brother die, shoes still matter
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and for those of you reading with no experience of the chat room, I doubt I would have made it without the help and support of the members here
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Lynnann
I do not post on the forum very often - but i wanted to say what a lovely, helpful and considered post that was.
ANY
PS shoes are always important ;0)
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Thank you ANY,
I don't post often these days, to be honest don't come here often these days. But I will thank Nic forever for setting up this site. It was my salvation through many dark days and is still here. Granted I had a lot of work and effort to do myself but I can honestly say I am nearly there :) and that is so much more than I thought possible a few years ago.
Lynnann:flowers:
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I'm off to buy some new shoes today.
Any tips?
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:)
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Yeah, spend as much as you can, enjoy the whole retail experience, make them slightly impractical if possible...but so lovely that you want to stick them on a table and stroke them when you are passing LOL
HTH
BTW not sure how the shoes discussion has got here, must be missing the point....anyway...happy to help. :roflmao:
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Well, I don't know how shoes came up but it seemed to be an issue in the chat room (which I have never been in - I've stood outside the door but always too afraid to enter :unsure:).
Stroking shoes sounds mildly perverted but i do that with certain items of clothing:blush:...however I was once told never to put shoes on a table - it's bad luck.
There's something else to worry about:D
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robinbrum
Well, I don't know how shoes came up but it seemed to be an issue in the chat room (which I have never been in - I've stood outside the door but always too afraid to enter :unsure:).
be afraid be very afraid :)....................... nah no need to be afraid at all come on in it is a good place to distract your self from things going on around you and you can just sit and watch for a while if you want to............everyone is very friendly we are definitely not 'rude, not understanding and frankly insullting' well most of us anyway
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You aren't rude and insulting??....see that would have drawn me in.....now I know you are all too nice I won't bother coming. :roflmao:
Ah new shoes on tables, opening umbrellas inside the house, going under ladders (mind that one is quite sensible); I laugh in the face of old wives tales I'm afraid. I used to be paranoid about them, but a number of years ago I decided to flout all those myths and do all of them all the time. Infact there are often new shoes on my tables (not old dirty ones you understand)....try it robinbrum....it is quite liberating !! :roflmao:
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You aren't rude and insulting??....see that would have drawn me in.....now I know you are all too nice I won't bother coming. :roflmao:
Ah new shoes on tables, opening umbrellas inside the house, going under ladders (mind that one is quite sensible); I laugh in the face of old wives tales I'm afraid. I used to be paranoid about them, but a number of years ago I decided to flout all those myths and do all of them all the time. Infact there are often new shoes on my tables (not old dirty ones you understand)....try it robinbrum....it is quite liberating !! :roflmao:
we could try to be rude and insulting in there if it would be helpful to anyone:roflmao:
The shoes bit I am totally lost with that convesation haha i think the phrase 'you had to be there' comes to mind haha
Carys you stay away from the tv you may get square eyes, eat up those carrots you will be able to see in the dark and most definitely get those shoes off the table :roflmao::roflmao::roflmao: