Re: This is eating me up.
Also despite taking everything, they asked my Partners Dad for money for car repairs etc!!! He payed everytime they went out!! Talk about take advantage of an old confused man!!!
Re: This is eating me up.
I believe every word of it.
I've seen this kind of thing before, and been through a complicated financial legal battle myself.
You won't want to hear this, but unless you have a rock solid money trail on paper, let it go and walk away. Legal bills will consume all of that money in a matter of months.
Please, don't get caught up in a mental and/or battle for this, it's not worth it.
Re: This is eating me up.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
ankietyjoe
I believe every word of it.
I've seen this kind of thing before, and been through a complicated financial legal battle myself.
You won't want to hear this, but unless you have a rock solid money trail on paper, let it go and walk away. Legal bills will consume all of that money in a matter of months.
Please, don't get caught up in a mental and/or battle for this, it's not worth it.
I have absolutely everything in black and white. It's hook line and sinker, completely concrete.
We aren't taking anything further as my Partners dad is 85 and very mentally fragile.
I've been dealing with this for twenty one months, whilst everything has unravelled in stages.
The denial and petulance my Partners brother in law and sister have shown and are still showing is out of this world.
It has torn my Partners side of the family apart.
Re: This is eating me up.
Sorry, I read one of the last paragraphs wrong as you NOT having everything in black and white.
Even with a paper trail, there's no quick solution to this. The most likely outcome (I feel) is a legal battle for 12-18 months, and then another one to recover your costs if you win.
I think you're in a situation where you have to figure you (with your partner) if the money is worth the fight.
My experience of lawyers is that their main role is to extend the period of conflict, and to increase fee potential as much as possible. That's not a cynical viewpoint, it's just based on my experience with them.
Their denial is the thing that has the potential to make things very expensive, their lawyer with work with that.
Obviously you have to make that judgement call based on how much that amount of money is worth to you and your family. It's not an easy decision.
Re: This is eating me up.
This happens soooo much within families and you can never retrieve it back.
Could your partner act as Power of Attorney for her dad then everything in future would have to be passed by her. And she can look after the accounts?
Re: This is eating me up.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
Carnation
This happens soooo much within families and you can never retrieve it back.
Could your partner act as Power of Attorney for her dad then everything in future would have to be passed by her. And she can look after the accounts?
Yeah, you'd have to have your SO get power of attorney or be executor of the estate...as least that's how it would work here.
Re: This is eating me up.
Carnation and Joe, Thanks for the replies.
We wouldn't go down the legal route. We are going to try and sort out power of attorney, but we have had to tread very carefully as not to alert my Partners Dad to much to the situation as he really is struggling and the tiniest little thing freaks him out, so we all need to get our heads together as not to spook him.
I really don't understand how they can do what they did, they milked everything from a vulnerable old man.
This has taken up twenty one months of my life, at every stage that this all unravelled they were given the chance to explain, yet they deny and act like the wounded party, even though I have absolutely everything in black and white.
I really thought it was all over, for them to be saying I've told a load of lies to people, has made think about slander/libel action against them.
If my Partner had her share of what they've had, it would make a massive difference to our lives!
Re: This is eating me up.
Quote:
Originally Posted by
AntsyVee
Yeah, you'd have to have your SO get power of attorney or be executor of the estate...as least that's how it would work here.
This is why we think the brother in law and sister thought they could get away with taking everything. The brother in law was executor to her dad's estate, so when he passed they could of told us anything.
When this was first unravelling it was changed to my Partners brother.
Re: This is eating me up.
Yeah, unfortunately, this is all too common among many families... I watched this happen in my ex's family twice. I don't really know what advice to give you, but I wish you good luck :hugs: