Re: "snap out of it", "pull yourself together" ...
actually someone from this site told me in the chat room that it was all in my head!!! lol
It may well be but what a stupid thing to say!
Re: "snap out of it", "pull yourself together" ...
I have had this from every single person in my life, and still do. my partner being the worse for it. i understand how difficult and fraustrating this illness is for our loved ones and family member to have to live with someone going throught this. is is so disruptive and invasive into evryones lives. but recently, after 2 years old being told to "pull myself together, snap out of it, stop being lazy and using this as n excuse", i told my boyfriend that i was never going to get better while i was with him and he either tried to understand it and help or we were over. simple as that. lo and behold, he has agreed to come to CBT with me and at least give it a try.
i knew that everytime he said something derisive or negative about my illness, it was only making it worse and realised that i had to do something about it. never the less, this time he has actually listened, i also read out some passages from claire weekes books, to try to impress upon him that its not just me and something ive made up. that this is real.
anyway, good luck and try to get as much information as you can and try to get across, as subtley as you can, the impact that this has on your life, and not only theirs
take care and good luck hun xxxxxxxxxx
Re: "snap out of it", "pull yourself together" ...
I'm very lucky that my GP is a sufferer and understands perfectly.
Phill :shades:
Re: "snap out of it", "pull yourself together" ...
I think this 'snap out of it, pull yourself together' thing is something relatives and friends say when they mean well but just don't understand. Unfortunately all invisible illnesses get this reaction from time to time.
My girlfriend's mum has a friend who lost an arm, and my girlfriend gets comments like 'pull yourself together, my one armed friend goes out more than you' etc! Whilst I think these kind of comments from people we know can be hurtful, we tend to see the funny side now and it's become an in joke, so when there's something one of us finds difficult like going to the supermarket we put on silly voices and say things to each other like 'my one armed friend could go to Sainsbury's'. I know it's silly but you can either feel hurt and resentful when people say things like 'pull yourself together', or you can have a giggle about the way relatives just have no idea!
Ben