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Partner keeps re-arranging furniture and rooms every other month
Bit of a random thread. As the title says, my partner constantly changes furniture and rooms around. Swapping units from the bedrooms and living rooms around often.
She has also removed pretty much all the picture frames and paintings from the walls so we are left with basically plain rooms.
I know this is a bit petty of me, but it's causing me quite a bit of stress. I like having a homely house, and for some reason she's turning into a sterile environment - ruining rooms.
She says she's 'fed up of clutter' yet she's gone and bought a huge guinea pig cage which has completely taken over and spoilt our living room - I don't even want to sit in there anymore.
It's no longer feeling like my home because she's deconstructed everything - even removed rugs from the bedrooms! We now have a cupboard in the spare bedroom full of rugs and picture frames. It's just all a bit bizarre.
She emptied my clothes from drawers we had in the bedroom and shoved them into the built in cupboards because she wants a minimal bedroom.
I've tried to tell her that I liked the house the way it was, but she just tells me to stop controlling her life and that she's only doing this because I 'complain about the mess all the time'.
She's wasted a small fortune on constantly buying different storage boxes and containers to chop and change how the kids toys and stuff gets stored. The attic now has a nice stack of unused boxes because she keeps changing them.
Sorry, this is just a venting thread, but I'm at my wits end.
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I can't really comment on the guinea pig cage because I have 2 hutches in what used to be the dining room!
Maybe she's trying to 'limit the amount of cleaning and dusting she has to do by putting stuff in cupboards and boxes? I know I do. If I can't see the stuff I feel better.
Do you do much to help her with daily chores, Mr L?
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pulisa
I can't really comment on the guinea pig cage because I have 2 hutches in what used to be the dining room!
Maybe she's trying to 'limit the amount of cleaning and dusting she has to do by putting stuff in cupboards and boxes? I know I do. If I can't see the stuff I feel better.
Do you do much to help her with daily chores, Mr L?
I don't mind the older cage, but this one is massive and we've had to remove one chair which is now in the kitchen looking out of place.
Yes, I do a lot of chores! I do 95% of the hoovering, as well as doing the washing up (dishwasher has broken). I'm the one that always hoovers and washes the cars. I put clothes in the wash, put them away etc. Dinner and packed lunches shared. Her main chores are usually cleaning the guinea pigs and chickens out.
Regarding cleaning and dusting, she mentioned that as a reason, but she hasn't dusted for years!
She has been talking about moving house the past few months, so I suspect that's the reason behind all this pal-lava - she's now unsettled here and trying to make things suit.
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Could this be a stress response? Does she have any past issues with OCD or Perfectionism?
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MyNameIsTerry
Could this be a stress response? Does she have any past issues with OCD or Perfectionism?
Not sure about stress, she has just started her own business and found that quite stressful, so maybe.
Regarding OCD and perfectionism, most certainly.
I used to think she had a shopping addiction, but a therapist I saw a few years ago said she sounds like a 'trophy shopper', which is basically someone who shops around for ages and spends an OTT amount of money on a 'perfect item'. I've encountered this issue with trying to buy a new dishwasher recently. We had a budget of about £350, yet she spent days researching and looking online at the 'perfect' dishwasher, and in the end started looking at models around £600-£800. Absurd amount of money for something that cleans dishes. However I would also say she has a shopping addiction to some degree, whenever something stressful happens, she buys. She had a tax payout last week, and there's been packages after packages arriving at the house.
I won't even say how much she spent on the new 'luxury' guinea pig cage - the same week that I've had to fork out £200 on car repair bills.
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Why buy a dishwasher when you can do it yourself?:D
Oh dear...She sounds very high maintenance? Are you ok about a house move? I take it she will want to upgrade to a more spacious family house to include a separate room for the guinea pigs with an adjoining en suite?:)
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pulisa
Why buy a dishwasher when you can do it yourself?:D
Oh dear...She sounds very high maintenance? Are you ok about a house move? I take it she will want to upgrade to a more spacious family house to include a separate room for the guinea pigs with an adjoining en suite?:)
Shh, MrLurcher is probably hoping not to be doing it everyday :biggrin:
I wonder if this has increased recently whether it is a manifestation of the stress she is feeling since she has a history of this? If so, would reducing that stress reduce the compulsion she is feeling? That would normally be the case if it's OCD related.
If it's more another compulsive disorder feeding a need is it papering over something she is struggling with?
The levels of research are familiar to me as I'm like that. Coming from an analytical work background I have to be careful with this. I still do it more than someone more laid back but I'm conscious of saving money in my case. I think this is where she needs to define the brief better so she has the parameters that allow for what is enough without the creeping that can easily occur. Then she needs to accept what is found is enough and that perfect is unrealistic. It's easy to think "but if I check xyz maybe something better will be found" but it can be obsessive and she may not always realise it at first.
If stress has increased this the opposite with be true in that reducing overall levels of stress will reduce it's intensity and make her feel she has more control of it.
I wouldn't be surprised if she also feels themes like Symmetrical Thinking. That need to rearrange sounds, to me, like part of a cycle of behaviour.
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Terry, I was thinking that too, it sounds as though it must be frustrating for both Mr L and partner.
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pulisa
Why buy a dishwasher when you can do it yourself?:D
Oh dear...She sounds very high maintenance? Are you ok about a house move? I take it she will want to upgrade to a more spacious family house to include a separate room for the guinea pigs with an adjoining en suite?:)
No, we've had many arguments about it recently - we only moved 3 years ago because she didn;t like the previous house. She has two horses at her friends' farm where she pays to keep them there (which she can't really afford tbh). She wants to move house to a small 2 bed cottage with land so she can have the horses with her. So yeah, forfeiting a 4 bed spacious house for a tiny 2 bed cottage just to accommodate two horses.
Regarding her stress as well, she blames some of it on me because of the way I am with health anxiety and the fact I'm a grumpy character in general. I can appreciate that because I can be difficult with the worrying, but this spending has been rooted for a long time now. Her mother was quite well off, and she grew up in the mindset that money wasn't an issue. However she doesn't earn a 1/10th of what her mother used to earn, yet she spends like she does.
Whenever she asks me to pay for something, like fill her car up, I do it thinking she hasn't got much money in her account, then packages start arriving at the house. She's constantly in her overdraft.
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MyNameIsTerry
Shh, MrLurcher is probably hoping not to be doing it everyday :biggrin:
I wonder if this has increased recently whether it is a manifestation of the stress she is feeling since she has a history of this? If so, would reducing that stress reduce the compulsion she is feeling? That would normally be the case if it's OCD related.
If it's more another compulsive disorder feeding a need is it papering over something she is struggling with?
The levels of research are familiar to me as I'm like that. Coming from an analytical work background I have to be careful with this. I still do it more than someone more laid back but I'm conscious of saving money in my case. I think this is where she needs to define the brief better so she has the parameters that allow for what is enough without the creeping that can easily occur. Then she needs to accept what is found is enough and that perfect is unrealistic. It's easy to think "but if I check xyz maybe something better will be found" but it can be obsessive and she may not always realise it at first.
If stress has increased this the opposite with be true in that reducing overall levels of stress will reduce it's intensity and make her feel she has more control of it.
I wouldn't be surprised if she also feels themes like Symmetrical Thinking. That need to rearrange sounds, to me, like part of a cycle of behaviour.
She does have a history of it. She was unhappy in the last house and constantly moved things around, including the garden. I pretty much half re-landscaped the garden in the previous house, only to sell it 3 months later. I spent probably the best part of £1000's between all the projects she wanted to do.
Not sure what Symmetrical Thinking means?
One of our guinea pigs died last week. We didn't discuss the future. In my mind, I would have just kept the one that was left. We rescued them for the children two years ago, but they have very little interest, so I didn't see much point in keeping them while not getting the attention they need. I kept guinea pigs, rabbits and other rodents as a teen/child so I know how to look after them and how much attention they should get. However when I brought up the idea of just keeping the one, she said she'd just bought a new bigger cage and will be rescuing another one! I didn't mind too much, but the cage has cost a small fortune, including new plush bedding and houses - it's madness!! We never spent such silly money when we had pets growing up - they had a run, some toys, fed well, and were happy animals.
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To be fair, keeping single guinea pigs is cruel - it's actually illegal in certain countries, I think?
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Sorry to hear about the loss of your guinea pig. I hope he/she passed peacefully and it's obvious from what you say that they had a loving home.
Symmetrical Thinking is tied closely to Perfectionism. It's a theme in OCD where the person feels a strong pull to arrange things neatly, in symmetrical ways and needs to feel it's "just right" or the cycle can keep going.
In your HA where you absolutely need that 101% answer to something, the person feels it must be absolutely perfect within the theme they are suffering. It might not be every item either and be focussed on certain things which take more of an importance to the person or have bothered them more in the past (just as a HAer can focus on one cancer but not another condition).
With spending there are at least practical steps that can be taken but they will force her to confront her feelings if she can't complete a cycle underpinning this.
My GF's dad hoards auction items. He would spend until they were in debt, and did at one point, so found his wife taking over financial affairs. It doesn't solve it though.
I guess the first thing is does she know she's doing It? Even if she hides that understanding? You will understand that denial well, know how hard it is and how you've got to be honest with yourself before recovery can work.
There is also the possibility of this being driven by impulse. There are other disorders which cover that although I think we can all experience it to some degree just as we can anxiety without it being a separate diagnosis.
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I haven't got a lot of experience in this area. But I always remember when I lived at home that my mum would continually be moving furniture around and rearranging things. It was always when she was stressed/anxious, I think it was the need to feel that she was in control of something. Same with moving, she once moved 4 times in 2 years - fortunately it was just her and my stepdad at home by then.
She's obviously struggling with something.
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BlueIris
To be fair, keeping single guinea pigs is cruel - it's actually illegal in certain countries, I think?
In Sweden, I think?
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Catkins
I haven't got a lot of experience in this area. But I always remember when I lived at home that my mum would continually be moving furniture around and rearranging things. It was always when she was stressed/anxious, I think it was the need to feel that she was in control of something. Same with moving, she once moved 4 times in 2 years - fortunately it was just her and my stepdad at home by then.
She's obviously struggling with something.
Could she be keeping busy to keep her mind off other worries? Spending to make herself feel better temporarily?
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MrLurcher
She does have a history of it. She was unhappy in the last house and constantly moved things around, including the garden. I pretty much half re-landscaped the garden in the previous house, only to sell it 3 months later. I spent probably the best part of £1000's between all the projects she wanted to do.
Not sure what Symmetrical Thinking means?
One of our guinea pigs died last week. We didn't discuss the future. In my mind, I would have just kept the one that was left. We rescued them for the children two years ago, but they have very little interest, so I didn't see much point in keeping them while not getting the attention they need. I kept guinea pigs, rabbits and other rodents as a teen/child so I know how to look after them and how much attention they should get. However when I brought up the idea of just keeping the one, she said she'd just bought a new bigger cage and will be rescuing another one! I didn't mind too much, but the cage has cost a small fortune, including new plush bedding and houses - it's madness!! We never spent such silly money when we had pets growing up - they had a run, some toys, fed well, and were happy animals.
It's ridiculous, isn't it? Guinea pigs don't need all this fancy stuff. Pet companies are cashing in on the "designer" market. Mine are quite happy living indoors with plenty of room, warm bedding and regular food and fresh water. I don't give them these awful sugary "treats" or buy them small animal "toys". Yes they can tell the time and won't wait for food but that's another story of owner submission!:) My pigs have got me under their (cavy) thumbs...
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MrLurcher
I know this is a bit petty of me, but it's causing me quite a bit of stress. I like having a homely house, and for some reason she's turning into a sterile environment - ruining rooms.
It's not petty. You are sharing a house and compromises need to be made. You both have to be happy. I struggle massively with this, as it happens because I'm autistic and things have to be visually 'right' for my brain - or I get super-stressed. Luckily for me, Hubs doesn't care what our home looks like and lets me get on with it, but me 'getting on with it' also means that I make sure there are elements of 'him' in every room or I'd feel like a complete control freak!
When you say 'homely'? Do you mean unsophisticated and unpretentious or cluttered up to shit?
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She says she's 'fed up of clutter' yet she's gone and bought a huge guinea pig cage which has completely taken over and spoilt our living room - I don't even want to sit in there anymore.
The constant whiff of guinea pig shit while you're watching telly? What's your Mrs thinking? :huh:
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It's no longer feeling like my home because she's deconstructed everything - even removed rugs from the bedrooms! We now have a cupboard in the spare bedroom full of rugs and picture frames. It's just all a bit bizarre.
Check to see if she's recently bought any Marie Kondo or Feng Shui books - though I doubt any such book would advise placing an animal cage in the living room!
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She emptied my clothes from drawers we had in the bedroom and shoved them into the built in cupboards because she wants a minimal bedroom.
This sounds very Marie Kondo...:unsure:
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I've tried to tell her that I liked the house the way it was, but she just tells me to stop controlling her life and that she's only doing this because I 'complain about the mess all the time'.
Hard to make a judgement call on one side of the story Mr Lurcher. You could be Britain's biggest slob for all we know and your Mrs has just reached the end of her patience with your incessant hording of crap. No wait, that was my husband's flat when I met him. 8 trips to the tip? I ask you! :lac:
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She's wasted a small fortune on constantly buying different storage boxes and containers to chop and change how the kids toys and stuff gets stored. The attic now has a nice stack of unused boxes because she keeps changing them.
There's defo a Marie Kondo book around your gaff somewhere...
Also, check for Mrs Hinch. The woman's a fox but she has no time for clutter and filth!
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Sorry, this is just a venting thread, but I'm at my wits end.
As I said, I struggle with stuff like this. I should really live alone somewhere remote (but with Tesco delivery service) but I know I can't have everything my own way and share my life with somebody. If I want to change anything I run it past my husband and I make sure he has absolute say over the TV and computers - because they are his passions. I know he lets me do pretty much what I want (I have style innit) but it doesn't feel right for me to simply do it without speaking to him - which is what your Mrs is currently doing..
I tend to have a clear out when I'm stressed. Is your wife stressed? You say you're at your wits end, but how is she doing mentally? My OCD changed up a few gears when my ex husband had a breakdown. My house reeked of bleach and Flash! This could be a simple case of the Marie Kondo's or it could be masking something a lot bigger, you know?
Maybe she's at her wits end with something and this is her way of trying to get some control back into her life? If so, I get that vibe..
A guinea pig in the living room though? I love animals, but that hutch would be relocated pronto tonto if that was me! The lurcher's farts are bad enough - an insidious smell which burns the nostrils - but at least we get respite when she buggers off into her bed in the other room...:whistles:
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Sounds like Mr Lurcher's partner has issues with impulsivity.
Kind of sums up my own mother back in the early 90s.
I recall her suddenly wanting us to move house willy-nilly and I recall her plucking a seemingly random property out of our local paper and booked a viewing with the local estate agent, which she and my dad went to view one Saturday morning. Said house wasn't any better than the one we already live in, in fact my dad thought it was a bit ropey in general, it only had just one toilet, plus it was in close proximity to one of the worst estates in our borough (which was recently demolished and regenerated), so had my parents opted to go ahead with the move to said property back then nothing would had been gained from it.
I also recall back in the summer of 1991 whilst we were away on holiday in Cornwall, my mom said she felt rather tempted to start smoking again after having quit 10 years earlier, as she was going through quite a bit of stress at that time due to her work premises changing sites amid major reorganisation, but she relented after I told her I would never speak to her again if she returned to the fags after 10 years of not smoking.
I also recall her saying she fancied getting a tattoo around that same era, in which I also threatened to disown her if she did, especially as back then (IIRC) tattoos on females were still relatively uncommon, unlike today where they're pretty much ubiquitous (on both sexes), plus I'm generally more tolerant and far less prejudiced against such things now than I was back then, even though I personally still wouldn't want to be seen dead with any 'graffiti' on my own body, which is my own choice, of course.
My mom didn't get tattooed in the end, plus she doesn't like tattoos herself now, and more anti-smoking now than ever before!
Sounds like there were elements of 'keeping up with the Jones's' with my mom back then, particularly with the smoking thing, of which road she luckily didn't go back down.
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Lencoboy
I also recall her saying she fancied getting a tattoo around that same era, in which I also threatened to disown her if she did
I wanted a tattoo 20 years ago but my ex told me that I would look 'common' and who would want me with tattoo? He told me to wait another year and if I still wanted one he would 'allow' me the money. So I waited the year, then I showed the controlling SOB the beautiful tattoo I'd had done, and which I still love today.
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NoraB
I wanted a tattoo 20 years ago but my ex told me that I would look 'common' and who would want me with tattoo? He told me to wait another year and if I still wanted one he would 'allow' me the money. So I waited the year, then I showed the controlling SOB the beautiful tattoo I'd had done, and which I still love today.
Rest assured Nora, I have no beef with you, or any other person with tattoos on their bodies.
For me, it's what they're like inside that's most important, plus a sizeable proportion of the staff at my day centre are tattooed, and they're amongst some of the nicest people I've ever known.
I still can't understand those who still suddenly decide to take up smoking willy-nilly in this day and age who previously were lifelong non-smokers, especially in pursuit of 'keeping up with the Jones's'.
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Lencoboy
Rest assured Nora, I have no beef with you, or any other person with tattoos on their bodies.
Mine's classy. As am I. :emot-prettywink:
I'm getting my nose pierced soon too - my son had one done and he keeps playing with it - looks well stimmy. He won't let me twizzle his, so I'll have to get my own done! :dribble:
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I still can't understand those who still suddenly decide to take up smoking willy-nilly in this day and age who previously were lifelong non-smokers, especially in pursuit of 'keeping up with the Jones's'.
All I can say is that those who start smoking now must have a lot of money. Last time I checked it was almost a tenner for a pack of 20? Stuff that for a game of conkers!! A fiver in the 80s used to get you a pack of ciggies, a few drinks, admission to the disco (do we still say that?) bus fare, a bag of chips and have some change! Or I used to filch a few cigs off my mum. (shh don't tell her!) Quick shake of the packet and she never knew. :whistles: Though I do recall her peering into the packet with a confused look on her face periodically. Am bad girl, no?
Actually, just checked the price of 20 cigs in Tesco and they are almost £14!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :ohmy::ohmy::ohmy:
Glad I gave up. :yesyes:
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Unfortunately I'm still smoker. Never quite managed to stop and over the last couple of months have been a bit of a continual chimney. Now I have a new vape, I'm trying to switch over.
But I remember buying a pack of 10, a single and a bag of chips for about £2. That was way back in the 80's.
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Oh I roll my own now - cheaper but still not cheap (around £16 for 30g).
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BlueIris
To be fair, keeping single guinea pigs is cruel - it's actually illegal in certain countries, I think?
They're food in many S American countries.
FMP
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Also true. Heck, rabbits are good eating, too.
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It’s hard when you can’t communicate properly about these things. Living with someone should always be a compromise on both sides and it sounds like it’s mostly you doing the compromising right now which isn’t fair. So you aren’t being petty.
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BlueIris
Also true. Heck, rabbits are good eating, too.
My wife is from Ecuador. She ate them there. It's a common street food where they grill or deep fry them. She said it tastes like a combination of rabbit and duck. I had them as pets and I can't imagine eating one :scared15:
FMP
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I have had 3 house rabbits and can't imagine eating conejo....or guinea pigs.
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pulisa
I have had 3 house rabbits and can't imagine eating conejo....or guinea pigs.
I had two French Lops that were house bunnies many years ago. Litter trained and all. Lovely sweet fur babies... much like a cat TBH.
FMP
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Catkins
Unfortunately I'm still smoker. Never quite managed to stop and over the last couple of months have been a bit of a continual chimney. Now I have a new vape, I'm trying to switch over.
But I remember buying a pack of 10, a single and a bag of chips for about £2. That was way back in the 80's.
Where you say 'single', I take it you must be referring to a 7'' vinyl music single.
I guess back in the 80s most shops were far more lenient in selling cigs (and probably booze) to under-agers, or simply didn't care.
My brother and his mates used to sneak into pubs in our town centre back in 1995 at the age of 15 and still get served booze with relative impunity, and no one seemed to bat an eyelid back then.
Also, they even managed to sneak into the two main nightclubs in our town at the age of 15 back then, and again, no one even seemed to give a monkeys!
Luckily, they never came to any harm though, nor were ever involved in any kind of aggro AFAIK.
I vividly recall hearing all kinds of tales from him about the shenanigans of other revellers that he witnessed back then.
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Lencoboy
My brother and his mates used to sneak into pubs in our town centre back in 1995 at the age of 15 and still get served booze with relative impunity, and no one seemed to bat an eyelid back then.
My 'ID' was a pair of 6" high heels (which I totally couldn't walk in) a highly lacquered/gelled and moussed mullet that could withstand a hurricane, and a face full of Rimmel. I literally trowelled the foundation on! I probably looked about 45? :ohmy: The bouncers didn't give a shite. They were more bothered about keeping drunken louts out than underage girlies going in...
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Lencoboy
Where you say 'single', I take it you must be referring to a 7'' vinyl music single.
I guess back in the 80s most shops were far more lenient in selling cigs (and probably booze) to under-agers, or simply didn't care.
My brother and his mates used to sneak into pubs in our town centre back in 1995 at the age of 15 and still get served booze with relative impunity, and no one seemed to bat an eyelid back then.
Also, they even managed to sneak into the two main nightclubs in our town at the age of 15 back then, and again, no one even seemed to give a monkeys!
Luckily, they never came to any harm though, nor were ever involved in any kind of aggro AFAIK.
I vividly recall hearing all kinds of tales from him about the shenanigans of other revellers that he witnessed back then.
Yes a 7 inch.
I was in my school uniform buying cigarettes. I guess because the shop was right beside a school they didn't care and were just there to make money.
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Catkins
Yes a 7 inch.
I was in my school uniform buying cigarettes. I guess because the shop was right beside a school they didn't care and were just there to make money.
I doubt said shop would be able to get away with that nowadays, unless they simply wanted to 'keep the peace' and to avoid any potential aggro from the school kids in their shop.
I seem to recall back in the 90s (and probably before) many school staff seemingly having a far more lenient attitude to pupils smoking, and sometimes even cadging ciggies off each other.
I bet that probably be considered extremely unethical nowadays as well (from both sides).
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Lencoboy
I doubt said shop would be able to get away with that nowadays, unless they simply wanted to 'keep the peace' and to avoid any potential aggro from the school kids in their shop.
I seem to recall back in the 90s (and probably before) many school staff seemingly having a far more lenient attitude to pupils smoking, and sometimes even cadging ciggies off each other.
I bet that probably be considered extremely unethical nowadays as well (from both sides).
Back when I was at school most of the teachers seemed to smoke too - if you went to the staff room and knocked on the door, when it opened you were met with plumes of billowing spoke. Definitely wouldn't be allowed now.
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Catkins
Back when I was at school most of the teachers seemed to smoke too - if you went to the staff room and knocked on the door, when it opened you were met with plumes of billowing spoke. Definitely wouldn't be allowed now.
Makes me want to gag just thinking about it!
Nothing personal against you though, as you have admitted that you smoke yourself.
