Unanswered threads.

I wasn't sure where to put this miscellaneous post, so chose here as it didn't seem to fit anywhere else.

If you look up on the menu bar at the top of the page, there you will see the 'unanswered threads' button, where you can choose the time scale of those you wish to view (e.g. since your last visit, in the last 7 days etc) It makes me really sad to see huge numbers of people who have had nothing at all said to them. There are 28 pages currently with unanswered posts, usually first posts by new members; if you say that each of the 28 pages has 21 threads, then that makes it 588 threads with no replies since last August. These are people who have come and poured their hearts out, who have reached out at low moments, and have had stacks of views with not one single reply. It must make them feel even more alone. Venus mentioned this on another thread recently, how many people never had replies to their threads, so I thought I would create a post about it and just raise awareness. If each person using the forum replied to one 'unanswered thread' each day, then it would I'm sure make so much difference to those people. Even if you literally know nothing about the issue they are talking about, just a few words of comfort or 'sorry you are feeling this way', can make a difference.

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Thanks Carys

What a excellent post Carys x I know when I first came here I used to feel lost and couldn't understand why no one wanted to reply to me and some people got loads of replys x. It made me feel very down, sometimes just offering a shoulder can be a great thing- I'm going to go and look at some post right now

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couldn't understand why no one wanted to reply to me and some people got loads of replys

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Thanks Sarah, :flowers:

You are a perfect example of what I was trying to draw attention to. A distressed and anxious mind can start to make you wonder all sorts of things when nobody replies and you are already feeling desperate, AND you see others getting page after page of assistance. You hung around, many I suspect don't and don't return feeling possibly worse than before.

This isn't aimed at you Sarah -

It would be even better if those who never reply to others, and stuck to their own threads moved off their thread and took a few minutes to reach out to someone else. Mind, I suspect they aren't reading this anyway....:roflmao:

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Originally Posted by Carys

Thanks Sarah, :flowers:

You are a perfect example of what I was trying to draw attention to. A distressed and anxious mind can start to make you wonder all sorts of things when nobody replies and you are already feeling desperate, AND you see others getting page after page of assistance. You hung around, many I suspect don't and don't return feeling possibly worse than before.

This isn't aimed at you Sarah -

It would be even better if those who never reply to others, and stuck to their own threads moved off their thread and took a few minutes to reach out to someone else. Mind, I suspect they aren't reading this anyway....:roflmao:

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I know I haven't always been the most aware of others on here. I was to pulled into my own worries and panics, I will admit that! It's about understand that we're all going through stuff- we're all in a boat but not necessarily the same boat (Strange point to make but I was trying to be a little more colorful!).

Thank you Carys :)

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I know I haven't always been the most aware of others on here. I was to pulled into my own worries and panics, I will admit that! It's about understand that we're all going through stuff- we're all in a boat but not necessarily the same boat (Strange point to make but I was trying to be a little more colorful!).

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NO no Sarah, it really WASN'T aimed at you AT ALL.....there is a certain type of poster who never ever offers anything to anyone, ever. Everyone understands that there is a point whereby people aren't in a position to give anything back, that they are stuck in their own world (or kayak lol) of problems. I just think that sometimes, for those people who never give anything back and just take, it would do them so good to help someone else and thinking outside their own kayak to the one being rowed (do you row kayaks?) next to them.

You started this boat analogy thing....:roflmao:

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Originally Posted by Carys

NO no Sarah, it really WASN'T aimed at you AT ALL.....there is a certain type of poster who never ever offers anything to anyone, ever. Everyone understands that there is a point whereby people aren't in a position to give anything back, that they are stuck in their own world (or kayak lol) of problems. I just think that sometimes, for those people who never give anything back and just take, it would do them so good to help someone else and thinking outside their own kayak to the one being rowed (do you row kayaks?) next to them.

You started this boat analogy thing....:roflmao:

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Oh no! I didn't explain myself right! I wasn't trying to take that as a personal dig at me. I was explaining how I know sometimes one can be so pulled into their own worries/panic you don't always see other people feel the same as you!

Well...it's nice our metaphors have a nice nautical-ish theme! :emot-highfive:

Oh good, didn't want you to think I was being critical.

Anchors away, and may the tide and wind be in your favour ......:hugs:

Excellent post Carys. I have noticed that you are first in line replying to unanswered posts. :yesyes:

It's something we ought to do. Today for instance there was a post about help with medication, I had no idea at all so I passed it by. Just to say I don't know much about meds but I'm not reading and running, may have made a difference.

Trust you to rock the boat with this timely reminder, Carys.

Batten down the hatches and may the storm be short-lived until you reach safely at Fraggle Rock :D

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Well yeah, but I prefer to think of it as the freecycle process - every 'wanted' needs one 'offer' made LOL Thats kind of less scary than 'silence of the lambs' , well MUCH less scary. :roflmao:

Thanks Darksky.....and KK.... Don't know what I expected, some miracle, but really HOPE that this thread at least gets read by those people who don't generally help anyone else.

Bumping up.

I have just answered a few and it is really good to see that there is now no unanswered threads today... every thread has an a reply to it so thank you.

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FAB !!!!!! Thats such great news......good work everyone. :yesyes: I'm sure there are lots of appreciative people - I know sometimes there are a few who never return, but at least those who do now have something.

What a lovely idea, I'm going to try and answer a few more- I can be guilt of skipping posts sometimes since sometimes I'm disappointed if I do a big write up on something and they never reply but I'm sure their's loads out there who would feel better at someone leading a kind word x

Oh that’s so sad. Thank you for this. I hate it when someone reaches out and no one answers - it must feel so lonely. I’m going to check this out. Xxxx

I think this is a great thread Carys. I know I'm guilty of reading posts but not always having the time (or state of mind) to give a decent reply. On a poetry site I once frequented, they had a rule whereby you commented on three poems by other members for every one of your own poems posted. It worked quite well?

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On a poetry site I once frequented, they had a rule whereby you commented on three poems by other members for every one of your own poems posted. It worked quite well?

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Thats a great idea, how did they implement it though ?

I seem to remember if anyone wasn't keeping to the rule they were reminded of their obligations via PM. Though perhaps writing a poem is more time consuming than simply posting support, depending of course upon the nature and depth of the post. I've just looked at the unanswered threads and feel pretty bad :-(

Gosh, that does sound quite laboursome 'policing it', but the philosophy would be useful here - you give and you take.

I'd be buggered unless I could away with a few limericks? :biggrin:If we that rule on here I can think of few people who would be swamping the boards with advice for others :winks:

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I'd be buggered unless I could away with a few limericks? :biggrin:If we that rule on here I can think of few people who would be swamping the boards with advice for others :winks:

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Ha ha, so true !

What about even a hiaku? a pun ?

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Originally Posted by Carys

Don't know what I expected, some miracle, but really HOPE that this thread at least gets read by those people who don't generally help anyone else.

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Perhaps when answering the threads where the poster doesn't venture outside of themselves, we should include the link to this thread.

Positive thoughts

From a Tapatalk point of view I can’t see unanswered posts, only unread, new, participated and subscribed.
I do try to look at the new posts when I am on, but if I don’t have a lot of time I’ll only read participated.


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Guys/Gals - I know you are all having a laugh and I don't want to be the bad cop but the original thread had good intention and meaning and it is in a prominent forum that people may read and it has got a bit rude for some to handle.

I am happy to copy the thread to misc forum and let you carry on and delete the replies from here but I just worry that some reading this could be a bit offended (I am not) and I know it was done in good fun etc. but the original point has kind of being lost.

I hope you understand.

Absolutely fine, I had kinda forgotten how this whole thread started to be honest, it meadered totally off course......sorry. Yes, maybe you should take these last replies off thinking about it and leave it to be what it was - unanswered threads.

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Originally Posted by nomorepanic

Guys/Gals - I know you are all having a laugh and I don't want to be the bad cop but the original thread had good intention and meaning and it is in a prominent forum that people may read and it has got a bit rude for some to handle.

I am happy to copy the thread to misc forum and let you carry on and delete the replies from here but I just worry that some reading this could be a bit offended (I am not) and I know it was done in good fun etc. but the original point has kind of being lost.

I hope you understand.

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Sorry if anything I posted is a problem in this thread, dont think so but saying sorry in case part of the problem was my behaviour :flowers:

moved here: https://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showth...swered-threads

Apologies Nic, deleted any of mine missed. Back on topic from here.

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Originally Posted by Scass

From a Tapatalk point of view I can’t see unanswered posts, only unread, new, participated and subscribed.
I do try to look at the new posts when I am on, but if I don’t have a lot of time I’ll only read participated.


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Don't you get the forum options for unanswered threads on Tapatalk? I've never used it, although it is constantly popping up when I am on. With it being used across many forums is it a stripped down generic so it works across them all but in a very basic way but it lets you see loads of forums through one app?

The issue of repetitive posters is yet again resurfacing. Carys started this thread to try to convince them to help others. I'm bumping this because those threads attract a lot of people and we see the tired old debates about whay people are here and the usual rubberknecking but how about shifting from these threads and helping others who are actually asking for it, and willing to accept it, but are getting ignored. If not, I fear the problem lies in those who just won't move away. In the time spent arguing others could have been helped.