Originally Posted by
MyNameIsTerry
It must be tough watching your son going through this.
Conducting compulsions will only reinforce it, as you know, but trying to stop them will mean exposure to the feelings he won't be understanding and it will be distressing for him. Working on that less intensively will allow him to adjust bit by bit and that's why gradual exposure is the standard treatment in CBT for OCD.
It would be worth educating him about it all. He's probably feeling a lot of strange feelings about all this and not understanding why he is really doing it. I found learning I wasn't going crazy by reading about OCD helped to take the sting out a bit.
It's a difficult age for various reasons. I've never come across an OCDer on here who hasn't found stress to be a trigger. So, it's he under any stress? Maybe even self imposed due to the changes he's now going through or peer pressure? Is he finding school work hard? Things like that give you the ability to intervene in a more practical way.
Healthy behaviours are important too. Is he isolating himself? What would help him to enjoy his life more and build his confidence & self esteem? Again, this is where you can help him.
The fact he has issues with contamination yet lives in the normal tip just shows you how irrational it all is. He won't realise fully why but can learn from you why his thoughts are biased & irrational.
Good luck, I wish you well with it. I hope he gets some help from CAMHS.
There is a charity in my city for mental health issues and they have seperate groups for young people that are aimed to be specific to their needs. Maybe worth a look to see if you have something like that near you?