Originally Posted by
Buster70
So we came away and the problems at home were left there , things were going good but I’ve ruined it by opening my mouth , can I ask a question and if no one is comfortable answering on this thread or pm that’s ok , I keep bringing up the subject of sex and general intimacy, after the menopause is that part of life over , I still find my partner attractive especially when we come away and we both feel happier , she looks different to me here and I compliment her a lot and want to be around her , trouble is she’s not feeling that way which if I bring it up causes arguments which quickly escalate, this has happened tonight because I said how I felt and she didn’t feel the same , we have cuddled up and held hands while out but she says she’s not even sure it’s the menopause stopping her feelings maybe it’s just that I’ve hurt her , is it possible to have a relationship where you are attracted sexually to someone that doesn’t feel it back ?
Probably too much information but I’m good at that , we we’re going to see other fiats today but now it looks like she just wants to go home and not come back , I think I may be the reason she feels suicidal , I felt this was the place we needed but now it all seems a waste of time I’m trying to fix something that s just too broken , i used to think I was a good person but I’m not I’m selfish and self centred , I probably always have been but anxiety has definitely made me worse .
like I said no problem if this is too personal to put an answer to its just it’s three in the morning and my head won’t stop asking questions.
Thanks.