Re: Am I reading too much?
Above all am I reading too much.
Re: Am I reading too much?
She was just telling you that you should only wash your own dishes not everyones .I hardly think she would buy a bottle of wine for every body and not include you .You havnt done anything wrong .People do keep medicine in the fridge sometimes .The fridge is usually shared and you normally have your own shelf ,or you have to put your name on stuff .Students will drink wine from anything including cups .The average person drinks from a wine glass .Dont worry ,you will soon get used to things here .Take care Sue x
Re: Am I reading too much?
I went and told her, " I am sorry, I was leaving tea cups on the sink ". She was completely surprised. On seeing the surprise, I told her " I am culturally adjusting here, so wanted to be sure I am not doing anything wrong ".
She told me, " she only said do only yours not everybody elses "...
Amazing how worried I am getting. Then coming back to my room, I started thinking from now on she would be reluctant telling me anything, thinking I might worry!!!. Worry about worry about worry. How can I become a confident person, why am I worrying so much. worrying comes naturally to me. For not worrying, I am having to put a lot of effort.
Re: Am I reading too much?
it will be fine, you were honest and said you are new to all this and adjusting to things. you cleared up any mis understanding,
You are just reading too much into situations and what people say, you know you are doing it, and as you say it's hard work and a lot of effort to stop doing that, but you can do it. i know how hard it is , i am like this myself, but you have to go with your instinct, and if you think you are ready too much into it , you probably are..
Good luck
P x
Re: Am I reading too much?
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suzy-sue
The average person drinks from a wine glass .
Since becoming a student I've drunk wine mainly out of an old toothbrush mug. :D
Heavymind - it must be really difficult adjusting to a new culture, I'd be terrified if I were in your shoes! You seem like you're coping fairly well, just ask people if you're not sure about something, they won't mind :). It can be really difficult to stop over analysing and reading too much into everything, but as someone else already said, if you think you're reading too much into it then you probably are.
Flatshares can be a nightmare when it comes to fridges, I reccomend just writing your name on everything that's yours without obviously naming each individual grape or anything! (I lived with a girl once who named each individual bannana and the rest of us thought that was hilarious. We were tempted to write her name on all of her grapes but thought she probably wouldn't see the funny side)
It's tough to stop overthinking everything, but if you realise you're doing it that's a step towards stopping.
Good luck and take care :)