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Yes, I know, but they were WRONG. A professional can't dismiss you. You're paying them (or your tax dollars are) to listen to you and help you process what happened to you. It's their job.
What happened with me was also dismissed, and then I learned later when I got older and went to a therapist that my family members who dismissed me were WRONG and F**Ked up.
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it feels like my needs and opinions are not valid :(
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I know they made you feel that way, whisper, but you know what? You survived. You got through it. You're a grown woman now, and you matter. Your needs and opinions matter. F**k them. You do what's good for you now.
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my needs are not relevant though
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Yeah, they are. But if you don't believe they are, how will other people? It's time to kick some butt, Whisper.
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basically i pissed off the admin of another forum and they gave the worst most damaging thing they could ever give me - a fraction and they won't take it down nor will they accept apology :(
they KNOW how damaging fractions are but they won't even send me a few kind words in pm :(
I think sometimes we can have a difference of opinions with others on a forum and that is fine but sad to hear it got to you, there's tonnes of other forums so don't let it bother you and I'm sorry they didn't even have the heart to be respectful to you, try and let it in the past and know we won't be rude to you.
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remembering something traumatic :(
trigger warning
I remember it still from when I was about 18 maybe 19, what makes it worse was he was a family friend as well as my driving instructioner
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Many times he would have me pull over in the car just so he could touch me in places a driving instructioner would not normally touch a student and he would buy me stuff from petrol stations (chocolate bars) so i wouldnt tell any one what he was doing.
One day, he had me park up outside where i was living (my childhood home cause i had moved back in with grandparent)and blatantly groped me, i went into freeze mode and a member of the family came out and yelled at us both, weeks later she threw that incident back in my face calling me a hoe saying she had seen me not fighting back so that makes me a hoe
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i sometimes wish he had actually raped me then my family might of taken more action, instead they found me a new driving instruction lady and said "maybe you'll be more comfortable with a female instructioner", no mention of what he did to me
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was it my fault what he did? family who know about it think so, i should of fought him off
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I was friends with his daughter as well and we used to go cycling around the village just cause we could
NO- IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT, IS NOT YOUR FAULT, WILL NEVER BE YOUR FAULT.I am sad to see you blaming yourself, he was 100 percent in the wrong, he sexually assaulted you - that is a serious crime.
Don't listen to comments from your family as they obviously either got the wrong end of the stick or don't have a clue how it feels to be the person being sexually assaulted. You probably froze because you were in shock, felt very uncomfortable and did not know how to react in that situation. Your feelings matter and your feelings are relevant, your instructor should feel deep shame and I hope that as time goes on, you are able to talk about what occurred in confidence, NEVER blame yourself. I would suggest counselling and I hope you overcome this but it won't happen overnight. You are most certainly not a hoe. :bighug1:
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been feeling suicidial since yesterday :(
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Remember, whisper, they are just bad thoughts, you do not need to act on them. We all have them once in awhile. But if they get bad:
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samaritans just repeat back parrot fashion what i tell them :(