Hi...just wondered how many of us on here are having problems because if being abused as a child either emotionally, sexually or physically.
PP xxx
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Hi...just wondered how many of us on here are having problems because if being abused as a child either emotionally, sexually or physically.
PP xxx
me!Hey thought i would start the ball rolling!!love mary rose.xxxxxxxx
we are all in the same boat and can guide each other ashore
i have sexually and emotionally and physically
netty
the dreams of the future are better than the history of the past
me aswell pysically and emotionaly
me too, sexual and emotional. But writing it here is hard.
Interesting question though...
Lisa.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
me too. Makes you wonder doesnt it?
I CAN, I WILL , I AM
me too, both emotionally and physically and it continued into adulthood also
what has happened I cannot change - but I can choose how I let it affect me today
Darkangel
........life is for living not just for surviving
I was bullied very badly at school, physically and mentally from the ages of 12 - 15. I was often beaten, spat at, kicked, bag being emptied all over the school bus, books ripped, hair pulled, name calling (you get the idea). I'd have to sit in the toilets alone and eat my lunch because i'd get hurt abused if i was seen walking around the school alone at breaktimes.
Unfortunately it HAS created the person i am today in that i still suffer with eating disorders which started while being bullied, i have extremely low self esteem and diagnosed with BDD. I am just a mass of mental health issues. Sadly, even today i am STILL being mentally abused and told i am useless by my step-father AND husband.
Sarah x
I think this is strating to prove that anxiety caued by abuse is way more common than statistics would let on. And Sarah...get outta there...now.
Sarah I agree with polly,dont let the abuse cycle continue,you need to get out or make a stand hun!I am afraid those of us with doormat written on our faces will get walked on!!Make a decision to change your attitude to yourself first!You are a wonderful person ,it's the bullies that are thecowards!Love maryrose.xxxxxx
we are all in the same boat and can guide each other ashore
I was emotionally and physically abused by my father along with my brothers and sisters. We all have some pretty deep rooted emotional issues I'm afraid to say and i have come to learn recently that this is really at the heart of my low self esteem which is resposnible for my anxiety, panic and depression. Recognising this has helped me but I realise that it will take some time to fix myself which I am determined to do for my benefit and the benefit of those around me. I really need to b e happy.
Just picking up the tail end of this post - you are not alone. So many people 'out there' however, just try to carry on as if nothing is wrong - the worst case situations are where they still have to see their abusers in family situations and act as if nothing occured.
Sometimes you have to say to hell with family - get out of my life now.
You have to do whatever it takes to break free, and that means from the past as well
good luck
brian
Hi All,
It has taken me a while to actually comment here, But here goes;
I too have bee abused as a child when i was 7 -8! It hurt alot as going through my life and it still comes into my mind quite regular! I believe that with that, My parents separation and drugs has ruined my life! [V]
Why does so many of us have to go through such pain and difficulty! So annoying as it takes over our lives. I thought i had got over it, but it seems to me that it keeps coming back. Grr
LOL
Madmax
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I have to agree, I was bullied as a child at school and more recently I was sexually assaulted by a family member! Which has just added to the problems that were already there.
I think this is a very good point that was brought up, even though a very difficult one to talk about.
Des xx
The really sad thing is GP's often don't ask the questions to differentiate Anxiety per se from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). It is oh so common to be told [one] has GAD or SAD. The givaway symptoms of PTSD are the hyper-vigilence, exaggerated startle response (startle easily), foreshortened future and all often co-morbid with depression.
I am a PTSD-er and in the last 3 years I have chatted with many people telling me of GAD or SAD or even just depression. About one third of them have good reason in their background to be suffering PTSD. Many have later told me they have a new diagnosis - PTSD, which is an anxiety disorder, but different to treat.
Antipodes
Was abused badly by parents and extended family. Also my children in two different schools. Abuse continues into adulthood. Got rejected so many times I can't remember.
me too physically and emotionally
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Add me to that list!!!
Me too i am afraid for years of my childhood and then went on to become a 'victim' in early realtionships and made very wrong choices. I have terrible low self esteem due to this which is a huge cause of the anxieties ...but we must not allow ouselves to fall into the trap any more of being the victims and get out there and take our lives back!
Easier said than done i admit but i am trying ...
I was both emotionally abused and neglected by my parents.
My mom suffered from PTSD, anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts and problems like those (she's never been really diagnosed, but this is about it). Because of her problems and absence of therapy, medication and support, I'm suffering from childhood trauma.
I thought she needed support and as nobody gave that to her, I listened to her stories, whining and complaints for hours. My dad didn't believe in mental health and told her not to behave so weird all the time. He sort of blocked me out, because I listened to my mom. So I didn't get any support from him either. They were either fighting (and I would get attention if I listened to my mum's whining) or they were on good terms (and my mom wouldn't pay any attention).
This started really early, I think at the age of 4 or 5. She was suicidal and threatened to commit suicide often. I was so afraid to find her dead somewhere. The only thing to prevend that was to be the sweetest and "best" child, so she wouldn't have a reason to kill herself.
This went on until a few years ago. Now I'm breaking lose. It's really hard. It's caused me PTSD and all the anxiety related problems I have now.
my hubby was physically and emotionally abused by his mum through his young years and also bullied bad at school, as a result of this he is not very confident in alot of ways but very confident in others. he suffers ibs and low self esteem but he is the nicest person i know, kind, generous and caring and the only peron who has trully loved me for me and understand why i am like i am. i love him loads xx
I've never been able to understand how parents can hurt someone they love? I was little tearaway when I was a child and my father used to knock hell out of me. I can remember my mother saying "don't hit him on the head" when he was hitting me. I dare say I deserved it when I did get hit though. What was the most unforgivable thing he did was to kill my pet rabbit in front of me. I was about 6 and me and my sister where misbehaving. He told us a couple of times to stop it but we just carried on, so he just took the rabbit out of the cage and Killed it front of us, and to add insult to injury, he ate it the next day. Unfortunately I inherited his extreme bad temper and it took me a lot of hard work to destroy it. I can honestly say that the only abuse I've did to my kids is slapping them on the wrists, and that troubles me for some time after.
Tom
I was emotionally bulied by my parents from being a toddler to present day.
Constantly verbally abused and put down .. told not normal every day and a freak. Wished I would change and become a better person.
Bullied in primary school by a teacher and male member of my class in juniors
Bullied at secondary school by a group of girls who dragged me accross the field by my hair... moved schools
Next school I was raped and abused by my first boyfriend at the age of 13. Took it upon himself to get the whole class year to turn against me.
Bullied by class mates for befriending a disabled girl and helping her. Constantly called a 'lemon', as a consequence I bullied her.
College.. only time of happiness and no bullying
University, bullied by male members in my residential hall, food smothered over my dorm door and set alight. Namely I wouldnt sleep with some individuals. One girl in particular was also nasty.
Bullied by my fiance physically and emotionally, left to defend for myself. Dont trust men at all!!
Last job I was bullied emotionally by a colleague that I took further and she was found guilty as charged.
God theres a apattern forming here.
Yup emotionally and physically mainly by my mother, I think it was more emotional because as soon as I got big enough the physical aspect slowed down a lot. My father is a recovering Alcoholic, remember many a night with my parents threatening to kill each other. Then when my mother decided to go on holiday minus me and my brother, my father threatened to kill both of us. Stupid thing is I still feel an emense duty towards my mother...sucker for punishment
Been very anxious as a child and remember being bullied by my brothers and a various "friends"
I was very badly bullied at primary school from 9 to 11 years by a family member. My parents did nothing about it which I find hard to forgive. M personality changed drastically as before then I was a happy and extroverted child but they turned me into an anxious paranoid introverted wreck. I still see the relation who bullied me at family gatherings and she is all sweetness and light and has probably forgotten the harm she did me.
I was an only child and my mother was still very sad because the daughter she had before me died at 3 years and the next year I was born while she was still grieving. She treated me a friend instead of a child and told me things about her marriage and my father that I wish she had never done. I feel that is a form of abuse beause it was too much for me to handle at that age and spoiled my relationship with my dad.
I was abused by a family member when i was a child and rejected by another, i blame that for all my problems, i have low self esteem, no confidence, am too sensitive and think no one likes me........ i've been told thats silly and lots of people like me but i still believe i'm worth nothing so why should anyone else think any different!
I was sexually abused from 4 - 6yrs of age by a next door neighbour.
20 years ago i had counselling and all this came out in the open. I was advised to tell my mum (apparently to help her understand me better?) but when i approached her about it she said she'd always suspected that and even knew who it was before i told her? She even told me shed been abused sexually by her next door neighbour when she was 5yrs old too, i was gobsamacked. I still cant get my head round that one! surely if she had an idea something wasnt right, why didnt she do something to help and stop this.
I wouldnt be responsible for my actions if anyone tried to hurt my child
I had a pretty bad time of it when i was younger rather not go into it as it really upsets me and when i mention it to my sister i get the comment oh get over it it happened and was in the past
me, i also think adding a poll to this tread might be good?
Hi, I was abused on every level through out my childhood.I was builled at school and during my first marriage. When I bring up my childhood with my mother she say's"your childhood wasn't as bad as you remmber" how the hell did she know. she was to busy being friendly with men behind my fathers back.
After reading everyones posts there must be a link between anx and other depressive illness
i was sexually abused by a paedophile ring,and also violently treated by my late father.
im currently going thru therapy to reveal what happened in my childhood
there appears to be some level of emotional abuse. however i do not think it was intentional on the part of the adults. it was how i as a child perceived what was going on, and took responsibility for their actions
dont think all cases are as clear cut as some of the horrific facts disclosed prior to my post
i was also bullied at school and as a continuation recently at work
must be down to me after all my mind keeps screaming
its hard to stop the cycle of thoughts
milly xx
I have never been abused but i have just read through all your posts as i feel that if people are brave enough to tell their stories then society should listen!
I worked in a childrens home for five years and worked with children and young people deeply affected by abuse. I will never understand why any one human being feels they have a right to inflict, misery and pain on another person, to take away their innocence, violate and dimminish their self esteem. It is wrong! Because of the work i have done and information that i have been privy to i am no longer easily shocked. however i am still sickened by the actions of abusers.
I have a 22 month old son and i would protect him with my every breath.
I just want to say that for you people to have gone through life carrying such a burden as any kind of abuse you are truly inspirational. You may not feel that you are grounded individuals and many of you will never have gotten over your abuse but each of you have a strength that your abusers never had or never will have.
x
About 20 years ago I was sexually abused by my cousin whom I thought I was doing him a "favour". I don't know if it has any barring on my anxiet/panic but I know it has shaped who I am today. I haven't shared much of this to anyone. I shared it to a friend back then and my parents found out but I don't remember much more being done (I was 8-9yrs old). I haven't even told my HB of 5 years (we've been together for 13). I think I'm scared to know what he would do as we still frequently see that side of the family and him. A couple of years ago I was finally able to be in the same room as him without being angry. I'm trying not to dwell on it anymore as it's in the past and has no place in my life right now.
me too i was mentally abused and phyisically abused
At the age of 4 I was abused by a male babysitter while my older sister did nothing to stop it. I know I have not dealt with it at all and my therapists in the past have recommeded I go to the sexual assault center. I feel that if I go though I am admitting it happened and I dont wanna do that. It has created problems in my relationship.
I also suffered physical and mental abuse when leaving with my first boyfriend at 16. He went to jail for it and it took a long time for me to trust men.
me too i was abused by my uncle hard for me to go in to detail etc but well still scared of him sorry sorry
Yes, sexually abused as a young child by a friend's older brother
Me too, yup, sexually. Didn't go the full way though, thankfully