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One of my biggest fears, if not the biggest fear, is my boyfriend leaving me. I'm slightly obsessive over it. Any small argument or anything at all, I blow completely out of proportion. He'll feel like we are having a good conversation and yet I'll be feeling like everything's going horribly wrong. I don't know how to stop acting this way??
i am the same. its anxiety and it is hard to control. it is evil and blows things out of proportion. see my post above yours. i wish i could advise you. i hope people on here can help us xxx
I feel the same about mine, I suffer a bit from Agarophobia and wonder why he is still with me as sometimes I mess up going out at the weekend because of it! He also works in an office full of girls and I find it hard to accept that when he goes out socialising with them and also the office Xmas party. I do trust him but my anxiety makes me feel weaker against the other girls he is socialising with :(
dear milkcarton, it's low self esteem. you must think he is with you because he fancies you. x
You must try and allow your partners some freedom. Try to remember they are with you for a reason and if they wanted to go they would. I know its difficult but I have learnt that building on your own self confidence/self esteem may help. What I try and do is do something once a day that makes me feel good :)
For what it's worth, I am going through this about my gf. I'll read this thread when I get home from work and maybe we can help each other out.
I often think when I am having blips "why would my boyfriend want to be with someone who has these issues?" And I keep asking him if he sill loves me and is happy with me. In fact, just the other day I asked him and he said "yes I love you very much and am very happy with you." Remember that it is all part of the anxiety. You have a lot to offer him and you must make him happy or he wouldn't be with you. Try to to worry so much about it, and go with the flow!!
Joking aside, I think my gf is the same as you. Always seeking reassurance and making sure everything is `ok`. Is that ok? Is this ok? Thats whats she`s like. When I met her she was kinda down. Now things between us are not bad but she`s still `down`. I mean its not like there is anything majorly wrong in our relationship , infact everything , I think is good or excellent but she feels `negative` about us lasting or whether she`s good enough for me.
Thats crazy to me but to her its serious. She genuinely believes I see the good things in her that others don`t and as a result has low confidence in herself.
Thanks for the replies It still really scares me. I get a lot of panic attacks with him like when we are talking about serious things or things I think are serious I have them :(