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Bigboyuk
I feel for you VBJ try and take a complete break from the forum for a few days :hugs:ATB
^ This. I can see Venus on there a lot and I hope she is prioritising herself. There is a never ending stream of HAers through here.
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^ This. I can see Venus on there a lot and I hope she is prioritising herself. There is a never ending stream of HAers through here.
No she isn't and is about to get a huge BOOOOOOOOOOOOOT from me.
Between here and chat she is doing far too much
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Yes I tend to agree with you Elen she does mean well but she needs time away for her own sake to recharge her batteries :D I got a feeling that booooooooooot is a big one, and will do the trick Ouch ;) ATB
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Originally Posted by
Elen
No she isn't and is about to get a huge BOOOOOOOOOOOOOT from me.
Between here and chat she is doing far too much
Good. I learnt a very hard lesson thinking I had to do everything, it's what caused my GAD in the first place.
My GF is still like this. When her employer is demanding everything yesterday I ask her whether the consequence of not working yourself into the ground is a senior manager with a grump on for not getting their way. I also point out the sector she works in isn't stopping global terrorism or saving lives in a hospital.
It's part of our personality but balance is important. Heaping more stress on yourself when the reality is there are others to take the strain is something to learn to recognise.
I'm glad to hear she has friends watching out for her.
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Shall we think about the mental health of the Admins? Why make things harder for them?
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Re: A message from the admins. please read
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Originally Posted by
nmpadmin
As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.
No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails
We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.
There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.
Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.
The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.
We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.
OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.
If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.
Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.
If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post
All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.
99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness
Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.
Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be
NMP Admin team
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Elen
And a reminder that if Admin think people are posting just to have a go at others, their posts will be deleted and they will be barred from that particular thread.
Blunt is acceptable under the correct circumstances, but ridiculing is not.
It affects more people than the OP and will not be tolerated.
Elen
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Just catching up on here....
I am trying to step back I promise but it is difficult especially when people continue posting on threads even when they say they have had enough..... stop posting folks, do what you say you are going to do and stop keeping threads going and then complaining to the admins that we/ they are doing noting.
Anyway going back to my corner now... :) :)
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Originally Posted by
venusbluejeans
Just catching up on here....
I am trying to step back I promise but it is difficult especially when people continue posting on threads even when they say they have had enough..... stop posting folks, do what you say you are going to do and stop keeping threads going and then complaining to the admins that we/ they are doing noting.
Anyway going back to my corner now... :) :)
I think it would be lovely to see all of that energy poured into posts that don't get any or very few responses ... I know I haven't been on much, as I started a new job and am feeling so huge with pregnancy, but enough to get the gist of things.
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Also Venus, please take care of yourself. I got so burnt out putting others before my mental health earlier this year. No shame in taking an NMP vacation.
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swgrl09
I think it would be lovely to see all of that energy poured into posts that don't get any or very few responses ... I know I haven't been on much, as I started a new job and am feeling so huge with pregnancy, but enough to get the gist of things.
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Also Venus, please take care of yourself. I got so burnt out putting others before my mental health earlier this year. No shame in taking an NMP vacation.
Yes you are right swgrl09 I have started to reply to single posts a lot more think it's good to try and help others how ever you are feeling :) And understand NMP is part of Venus's life but for now leave the site for a few days and take a break. Think many of us could do with a NMP vacation I know I would love that perhaps have sub forum for that I would be the first to sign up :shades: ATB
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Originally Posted by
Bigboyuk
Yes you are right swgrl09 I have started to reply to single posts a lot more think it's good to try and help others how ever you are feeling :) And understand NMP is part of Venus's life but for now leave the site for a few days and take a break. Think many of us could do with a NMP vacation I know I would love that perhaps have sub forum for that I would be the first to sign up :shades: ATB
I will still be responding to my post and in the chat room distracting (not helping) :noangel::noangel:
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Originally Posted by
venusbluejeans
I will still be responding to my post and in the chat room distracting (not helping) :noangel::noangel:
Well there's no stopping you lol free you self from Admin duties for now and get better soon:hugs: ATB
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Originally Posted by
venusbluejeans
Just catching up on here....
I am trying to step back I promise but it is difficult especially when people continue posting on threads even when they say they have had enough..... stop posting folks, do what you say you are going to do and stop keeping threads going and then complaining to the admins that we/ they are doing noting.
Anyway going back to my corner now... :) :)
Bump to that! :yesyes:
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Originally Posted by
swgrl09
I think it would be lovely to see all of that energy poured into posts that don't get any or very few responses ... I know I haven't been on much, as I started a new job and am feeling so huge with pregnancy, but enough to get the gist of things.
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Also Venus, please take care of yourself. I got so burnt out putting others before my mental health earlier this year. No shame in taking an NMP vacation.
I agree with you. There are plenty of threads and as frustrated Admin's are trying to tell us, it's up to us to click off such threads and spread ourselves around more.
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Folks I often see new members join and only 1 welcome from Admin remember your first day on NMP did you get welcomed by other members? Think we all should make a effort even just to say hello to new members :) ATb
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Originally Posted by
Bigboyuk
Folks I often see new members join and only 1 welcome from Admin remember your first day on NMP did you get welcomed by other members? Think we all should make a effort even just to say hello to new members :) ATb
And mine is an autopost one which automatically posts when someone posts in the Intros forum so they at least get one hello..... completely agree it would be nice to have some more people welcoming our new members, even if it is just a "Welcome To NMP"
Ps folks having a goodish day so allowing myself a couple of posts on here today...... thank you to everyone for their concern xxx
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venusbluejeans
And mine is an autopost one which automatically posts when someone posts in the Intros forum so they at least get one hello..... completely agree it would be nice to have some more people welcoming our new members, even if it is just a "Welcome To NMP"
And here was me thinking Alex had wired up your alarm clock to NMP so that every time someone posted, night & day, you awoke to post! :winks:
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oh yeah of course..... that is what happens ;)
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I've noticed some repetitive threads have started being moved away from the HA forum. But people are still following them over there and the frustration seems to continue. :shrug:
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All we can hope for is that the HA board starts to change and becomes more helpful for those who truly want to manage their HA successfully and as best they can once they have been diagnosed with anxiety.
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pulisa
All we can hope for is that the HA board starts to change and becomes more helpful for those who truly want to manage their HA successfully and as best they can once they have been diagnosed with anxiety.
I don't share in the positivity as someone who was negatively affected by the frustration over repetitive posters. You may not see it but it doesn't mean it's not happening and I don't believe it is fair to push it onto individuals because some members disagree with it in public.
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Sorry, Terry-I don't understand what you are getting at here? All I was saying was I hope that the HA board can become more proactive in actually helping people manage their HA as opposed to being mainly concerned with symptoms.
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Just because threads get moved away from the HA board to a board more suitable to their content doesn’t mean that people should just abandon those threads. That’s sending the message that your thread is not important unless it’s on the HA board. Not everyone has shady motives for “following them”. The mods are doing the right thing by moving threads away from certain boards to other boards more suitable to their content. I’ve also seen them move threads from boards to the HA board.
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Originally Posted by
pulisa
Sorry, Terry-I don't understand what you are getting at here? All I was saying was I hope that the HA board can become more proactive in actually helping people manage their HA as opposed to being mainly concerned with symptoms.
At the time there was an assumption that the board was quiet because an issue had gone away. The issue in question just shifted onto individuals and I don't think that's fair.
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Sorry but I still don't understand. When is the HA board ever quiet? The admin team have taken control of a particular thread and in my opinion that needed doing. The individual is still receiving attention but it's targeted at the behaviour and restricts others being drawn into the thread. How is that unfair?
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Originally Posted by
nmpadmin
Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.
If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post
99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness
Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.
Despite what members may feel repetitive posters do not cause nearly as much of a strain on Admins as the arguing it seems to generate in people.
This forum was never set up to be HA site, it has just taken over the boards.
If moving boards helps to cut down on the re-assurance seeking behavior that has to be a good thing.
I understand what you are saying re helping people on the HA part of the forum. Sadly I feel that is something that we have not been so good at as a whole.
Yes we offer sound advice to try and break the cycle but I have seen people come back when they are struggling to keep the dragon at bay and they receive much fewer answers.
Sad to say it is the "help me I really am dying" posts that get the most attention.
Anyway just my thoughts, there are a lot of strong personalities on this forum and you all have something valuable to offer. Please do not allow petty differences and sniping detract from the great work that you all do on here.
Elen
For clarity I am not picking on any one person, nor am I posting on behalf of admin.
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No probs, Elen. I was just responding to explain the previous point. That's done now.
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It's always been the case in life that those who shout loudest get the most response and it's the same on here. I suppose that's what causes the friction. It must be very hard to be a moderator on a forum such as this one.
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I tend to agree on this Pulisa there's still a couple of those HA threads on the go no doubt with the same reassurance seeking going on We are told and rightly so to stop feeding the strays and do we I know I have stopped. Think more proactive advice should be given on the HA board and especially those 2 threads as I don't believe those members are going to get better. Sorry just needed to get this across folks :) ATB
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Originally Posted by
nmpadmin
As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.
No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails
We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.
There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.
Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.
The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.
We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.
OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.
If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.
Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.
If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post
All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.
99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness
Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.
Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be
NMP Admin team
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Thank you for all the work i know it takes to keep this working !:)
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I'd like to thank Admins for merging posts from posters who keep starting multiple posts on a particular topic that relates to them. As well as making it easier for those reading to follow, I think it helps the poster to keep owning the the whole story, and not just jump ship and start over afresh the next day.
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Re: A message from the admins. please read
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Originally Posted by
nmpadmin
As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.
No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails
We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.
There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.
Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.
The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.
We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.
OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.
If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.
Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.
If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post
All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.
99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness
Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.
Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be
NMP Admin team
And unbelievably this is having to be bumped yet again
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