Yes , I know you are, thank you x
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My nieces and nephew are coming round . Even in front of them and my brother today , I was talking about my pains. I have never done this before, I’ve always made an effort to take them out and do fun things. I know things have changed.
We all reach a point where the HA/mental illness grows too dominant and takes priority over more important things such as family and family life. You have realised this so all power to you xx
Its interesting you brought this up Antsy. Those were my thoughts as well but I was trying to keep it PC and not name names ;) There's a certain pattern among what I call "serial posters" and this example in particular is uncanny in their similarities. I've mentioned this before in that the use of the forum is as much a part of the pattern of illness as the symptoms themselves.
I know one can recover. I don't know if you recall cpe1978 but he struggled for years. He eventually got fed up and did something about it. His thread on recovery is in the stickies. He even has a Facebook page dedicated to recovery. Many ex NMPers are part of it. The point being, most come here to get help and advice. Aside from the encouragement and advice people get on threads, there are tons of resources right at your fingertips in the links and articles. The bottom line is YOU need to take the steps to move forward. No one here can do that for you. The current pattern just keeps digging the rabbit hole deeper and you'll never get out if you continue this way.
Its true, seeing someone recover is a wonderful and inspirational thing. It would be wonderful to see that happen here and I'm sure all would agree.
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Antsy, FMP, I agree wholeheartedly. I feel so bad for Reb, but there comes a point for some poor souls where they start to adopt the role of sick person as their identity, and that's when it becomes incredibly hard to escape.
Recovery is such a wonderful thing (I'd say I'm probably 80% of the way there myself), but it requires hard work, discipline and the willingness to accept a whole bunch of uncomfortable truths.
It's very hard to get prompt help on the NHS though, particularly in view of how the pandemic has affected services.
PB seems very isolated and alone in this. HA appears to be a constant torment for her and distraction techniques just don't cut it. I hope she gets a referral to her local CMHRS but I can imagine that this will be tricky as the GP will want to try meds first. Getting appropriate therapy from a professional who truly understands HA gives her the best chance but it always comes down to waiting times etc etc..and getting the referral in the first place.
Of course it would be quicker to go private but that's an expensive option although it could be seen as a great investment, provided there is progress which is never guaranteed of course..
Yes, even with our technically "private" American insurance, it's a long wait right now as well.
Meds could help, or at least stem the tide maybe, until some therapy can be had. What about some of the online CBT courses or some of the self-helps for now? Like Weekes?
It's hard to keep motivated with online therapy when you're absolutely overwhelmed with HA and I know that most decent psychologists will advocate face to face therapy as the best option for entrenched, complex issues.
I just hope that pb can get her GP to refer her to secondary services...if she wants to take this option and of course it's her choice. Primary care just seems a bit tame and limited.