Rach,
As I said in a previous post, on the internet you don't know who you are getting involved with.
"Jay" could be absolutely anyone of any age.
Using words like b***h and suchlike towards other people on the net is not nice.
You wouldn't put up with people in "real life" calling you such names, would you?
The good thing about the net though is if someone is disrespecting you in such a way, you can just have absolutely nothing more to do with them.
Don't let people speak to you in that manner, especially someone who you don't know.
You are only 14, Rachel, and I know I wouldn't want my kids e mailing someone that they know only from the net.
Don't let it worry you any longer, move on.
Kate x