I've always been a bit socially anxious, was never comfortable around people I wasn't really close to. I managed to have a handful of close friends but everyone else was aquaintances, I've never been good with groups of lots of friends. My first year at my first uni was the biggest exception I knew loads of people and would always bump into someone I knew everywhere, I stood out so people remembered me. I was lonely though as I didn't make any close friends that year.
Now as my general levels of anxiety and fear have exploded my social anxiety is much worse making me agoraphobic a lot of the time. I'm lonely cos I don't have any local close friends anymore yet I'm too terrified of people to be anywhere around them. I came back to uni, different town, etc but I'm even afraid to go into lectures incase I have to interact with anyone I'm just terrified. I avoid going out anywhere even shops cos I want to hide away but uni is the scariest. In the past sometimes when I forced myself out to something I was nervous about it turned out well and I was glad I went but that doesn't happen anymore. When I made myself go to the first seminar for a module I ended up sitting in the middle of a row and feeling trapped. I was so panicked afterwards I rushed home not going to anything else that day.
I can't cope and despite getting a lot of support at the uni I don't think I'm going to recover quick enough to make it work. I always do this, I keep trying these things and every year the anxiety is worse and I don't succeed. Despite feeling like a complete failure I think I need to take life back to basics and avoid these stresses and let myself work on this problem more slowly.
So what am I thinking of doing now? Moving back to my Mum's for now and doing Open University so I don't have to be around new people all the time. I feel like a massive loser, I'm 31 so far too old to be living "at home" but I have a housemate I'm not close to at the moment and that makes me uncomfortable, I really hate it. I like living on my own but don't see the point in staying in this town. It seems like it'd be less stressful and allow me to concentrate if I made things easier on myself which moving back home would do. There's old friends I could possibly reconnect with and I'd see another person everyday even if it is my Mum! There's enough room, I'm comfortable there and I'm not expecting to be looked after, I just need some support just having someone around that I feel comfortable with would be a huge boost. In the past when I lived with my best friends it really helped a lot if I had a stressful day that I was going back to a friendly home.