Things that are not working out
From now on, I have decided to give up the following:
. Obsessing over my thoughts, and trying constantly to make them feel "right" in my head, thereby making me overly self-aware and letting them have power over me.
. Neglecting my friendships and avoiding social situations out of fear I may feel uncomfortable, especially where clubbing and alcohol may be involved.
. Obsessing over living my life "perfectly" and trying to avoid mistakes or personal hardship.
. Not accepting risk in my life, and thinking too "black and white" by always seeing the absolute worst outcome of a situation.
. Forcing myself to make irrelevant future decisions in my head, but at the same time being torn against two opposing choices, out of fear of getting one "wrong".
. Comparing myself to others, and trying to keep my ego in check.
. Comparing my interests and talents to others, and feeling foolish when I feel that mine "aren't as good".
. Putting myself down in conversations with others
. Trying to please everybody and letting myself get controlled by others, out of fear of rejection.
. Worrying too much about how I look, and trying to live up to other people's standards.
. Constantly reading self-improvement material on the internet, and then consequently feeling unfulfilled and unhappy with my life.
. Holding onto to throw-away comments I found to be hurtful, whether intended or not.
. Trying to be extraordinary to everybody, instead of just being myself.
. Ignoring those who reach out for me and trying to make contact with those who don't bother, or do so only out of selfish gains.
. Worrying about the state of my health and symptom checking my anxiety levels instead of just concentrating on my immediate surroundings.
. Trying to be over-diplomatic out of fear of hurting somebody's feelings.
. Holding onto dogma, instead of making up my own decisions in life.
. Neglecting my talent for acting, and fearing it, when it is had brought me only great experiences in the past.
. Hiding my true self, passions and talents from others, out of fear of judgement and embarrasment.
. Putting things off for "another day" because I don't feel ready, or in the "mood" to do so.
. Spending time on the computer long after I have become bored, and not moving on to another activity which is more fullfilling.
. Comparing current relationships to my past relationships
. Trying to protect everybody (especially women) from situations or others I feel may hurt them, instead of trusting everything will be perfectly okay
. Always focusing on what I DON'T want to happen.
. Taking life too seriously and trying to fix everything.
. Waiting around for the "right moment", instead of just doing it now.
. Making every small issue out to be an enormous personal struggle.