I am not sure what is going on

[nomorepanic]

quote:Originally posted by benoo5

hi nic...read an article in lancet,a few days ago...it said about the seasons,for instance,i come alive this time of year,and how i incubate myself,in autumn,its so true.

but it also said,if we feel a bit down,and we look around at people ,who are happy,it makes us feel more depressed..dont know if that makes sense!

theres 24hrs in a day..work eight(or more)..socialise eight(or less)..sleep eight(or in your case,much less),and you have the recipe for depression.

my friend,your..quality time..is very low,you need time out for nicola,as you have said,you have great moderators..use them..forget NMP for a few weeks,pamper yourself,buy some clothes,makeup,go back to basics,learn to relax,go to that great pub,and have a lovely meal,without thinking of the washing up,you have a great guy in alex,learn to lean on him,he wont mind,hes one in a million!

relax my friend,love from bryan xxx.

Hi Bryan

I do tend to forget about "me" time and this site comes first in my evening activities. But I am taking on board what people are saying and I am trying to chill out a bit more and take some time off.

Thanks for caring Bryan

xxxx

Nicola

[nomorepanic]

quote:Originally posted by april tones

hi nic, so sorry to hear you are down. we are all here for you like you for us. You do need time for your self. Your probably doing too much. What do you do in job? do you exercise as i find this helps which you probably know any way. Have you been to doctors about it? You will get better,you have come along way. Panic attacks wont come back unless you let them. I had panicky thought last night, first in while, had bad headache which i think was a migraine,then felt sick, i thought what if its something serious, i then thought hope i dont have panic attack beecause of this, i didnt!! so it proves it doesnt always come back. I managed to take two paracetomels too, i was told by pharmisist i could take with effexor but was still scared incase.I think tiredness is defineatly playing a part in this, also just an thought, could it be hormonal? i get extra weepy and panicky before a period and this aggravates everything. hope ive helped a bit, take care, thinking of you, you have a lot to be proud of yourself for, love april

apriltones

Hi April

My job is a Unix System Administrator for Britannia Airways so I basically look after the computers that run the airline operations. It can be stressful at times and even more so when I work with people that don't seem to care.

I do quite a lot of exercise as this is what initially stopped my panic attacks. I do an aerobics class on Monday and then swim Tue-Fri. I don't find it tires me out enough to make me sleep though. I feel shattered but just can't sleep very well.

I have not seen the doc yet as I am not sure what is wrong. If I can work that out then it may help me. If it is stress then I have to remove the stress factors as best I can.

I am hoping to get some time off soon - I have a week off the beginning and end of June so we shall see whether a break away from it call cures me.

Thanks for the kind words, I do appreciate it.




Nicola

[nomorepanic]

quote:Originally posted by twister


By the way have you heard about the new sleeping tablet that will be licenced soon, cant remember the name now but read in the paper - it is apparently really effective and NO side effects or addiction! Sounds great for sufferers like you, I know how bad no sleep can make you feel.

Hiya Em

Thanks for the kind words.

I have not heard about that tablet but it sounds good to me. We shall have to see if it ever comes out.

Hope to catch you in chat - I am in now!

Nicola

[pips]

Hi Nic just read message,

Sorry to hear you are feeling so low at the moment.

It could have stemed from the car park/shopping incident. Sometimes when you think you are doing so well and then you have a setback in can make you feel really low. It doesen't always come out right away either.

It also sounds like you take on to much as well! With work and with No More Panic. You are here for everyone and you do a Fab job. The feelings you are experiencing at the moment is probably your body saying ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!

I think some of the best things you can do for yourself. Is :

You need some YOU TIME

R & R (Rest & relaxation)

Watch a stupid comedy. Or daytime T.V if not at work (actually sorry ignore the latter it might make you feel worse!)LOL!

I find some of the natural remedies help ay times: Whether or not it's pyscological I dont know? but if my brain thinks it's working. Then who am I to argue!

A couple of Homeopathic remedies which might help are Ignatia & Sepia they both help with Depression mood swings etc Sepia is also good if you cry alot!

Good old Bach Flower remedies:

Some which might help you are:

Elm For - Overwhelmed burden by responsability.
Mustard For - Deep gloom for no apparant reason.
Gorse For - Hoplessness, despair, pessimism.
Impatiens For feeling irritable (Hubby needs this before going shopping! LOL)

Some of these may help you (I have built up quite a collection now LOL) You can also mix up to 7 remedies at once! YIPEEEEEE!!! Careful though you might turn into a flower!! LOL

You can buy these in Boots or Holland & Barrett they also have leaflets on them to. You might have to ask though as they are not always on display!

Well I am sorry if I have waffled on to much. And this was in the quick reply section to whoops!! You probably know all of this info anyway.! SORRY !

Hope i didn't sound like I was preaching. I tell you what though If I could believe half of the advice I have just given. I might be nearly cured (NOT) LOL

Hope you are feeling better & remember you are not Super human & this is just a Blip!!!!

Take Care & stay POSITIVE!!!!!!

Love PMT Pip's XX

[pips]

Hi again Nic,

Sorry just wanted to add that i realise most of the remedies are in the Natural Remedies home Page. I just typed out what i might use in the situation you are in!

Love PMT PIP'SXX

[Meg]

We are so tuned into thinking about panic, anxiety and depression as that's what we're looking out for, that we forget to actually take time to figure out what other emotions and feelings are on display at this time.

With the situation that you're in and being the person that you are Nic, I don't think you're troubled with depression but are miserable as a direct result of unresolved prolonged frustration leading to irritability and then building up to anger without having an avenue to vent it through. All very normal reactions to a few difficult situations..

As you already do quite a lot of exercise , your normal stuff will not relieve this but doing something different that involves being loud or aggressive probably will - so Liz's punch ball, a thump the sofa session, screeching along a windy beach.

Many long term anxious people are true perfectionists and people constantly not achieving their standards can be interpreted as not trying hard enough or being lazy whereas just above ' it'll do' is where many people aim and anything else is just unnecessary effort..

A word about Nick being off sick and refusing to work from home.
If he made an error whilst working from home (or anywhere else) and it was found out that he was working whilst under a sick note - it does make the employers and any of his personal insurances null and void....

Take care Nic. We're all rooting for you.



Meg

'There can only be true courage when first there is genuine fear'

Dr.David Livingstone

[red]

Hi Nicola
Just read your first and subsequent posts in this topic. Can't write too much at the moment but just had to say that I am so sorry you are feeling bad.xxx I'll write more tomorrow, in the meantime, like everyone else has said - take it easy, when you can.
I'll be thinking of you.

red
x

[imported_n/a]

hey nic,,how are you feeling,,better i do hope,,althou after seeing my photo hasnt helped sorry lol,,chin up nic ok,,,

[nomorepanic]

Pips - Thanks for caring and all the tips. I am trying to take all of them on board and do what I would tell you guys to do. I do appreciate the advice and the post so thanks for taking time to reply.

Meg - yeah I do feel like punching something or someone. I shouted at Alex last week and feel bad about it cos it is not his fault (made me feel better - lol). The thing with Nick is that we have told him to work from home - which he is capable of cos he can dial in with the laptop. He has CHOSEN not to. He says that he cant't drive so can't come in but we have offered to pick him up or let him work at home. He won't. This is what annoys me so much! He is now signed off another 2 weeks - making it 3 months. He also gives me such a hard time when I am off sick!

Red - thanks for the post just to let me know that you care - I appreciate it!

Darren - I am getting there but I am so far behind on the message forum that I feel out of touch - lol

All - things that still annoy me seem so silly but they are driving me mad....

Like, one of my cats that won't leave me alone all night. Sits at my feet, padding me, miaowing, jumping up. Sounds cute - but driving me mad.

Being called from work all the time. I have been on-call for 8 weeks out of 11 and I got called last night and am now waiting to sort out another problem as they called me again tonight!! We can't do much about this as me and Kev are doing alternate weeks on-call till Nick comes back in.

This guy in the swimming pool who keeps telling me to do more than 40 lengths and get to the pool earlier. a) I feel that 40 lengths is enough and I don't have time to do more and b) I can't choose the hours I work - I do different shifts.

And finally - I got my car back today and the paint job isn't up-to-scratch (lol) so I have all the hassle of taking it back to be redone next week.

I am sure you can you all see how petty these things are but they are driving me mad and making me very irritable. I know they are stupid little things but they are all adding up and I think that is why I am so down - just too many little things that add up to one BIG one.

Anyway, I will sort it out soon with some R&R.

Cheers for all the replies

xxx

Nicola

[red]

Hi Nicola
It feels like you are on the track again now, well done! Reading back on your posts again I think that you have probably felt a 'normal' reaction to what has gone on at work which has caused you a lot of stress. Sometimes we are reminded of what being depressed / anxious feels like and take it as read that it has something to do with our 'condition'. I think in your case it seems like your feelings are not disproportionate at all and ARE 'normal'. I don't think that you did anything wrong on the anxiety management side, you just felt like anyone would have done in the circumstances and so are beating yourself up for no reason (if ever there would be one!)

I have a useful questionnaire that may help you to understand why you feel like you do in certain situations at work and why you perhaps feel that others don't give a toss. Let me know if you want me to send it on to you.

Still thinking of you - take care of yourself and pat yourself on the back for being 'normal' rather than booting yourself up the bum!!!

Red
xxx