help!!

[nomorepanic]

Hi tuckshop - I am so pleased to hear that. Please let us know how it goes.
Nicola

[tuckshop]

Hi Everyone,

RESULTS FROM MUM'S BLOOD TEST HAS COME BACK AND EVERYTHING SEEMS TO BE O.K
SHE'S EATING A LOT MORE THAN BEFORE, SHE SEEMS A BIT BETTER IN HER SELF, WHICH IS A RELIEF. MUMS ONLY 49 SO I DON'T THINK SHE QUALIFY'S FOR FREE TRANSPORT, I DRIVE SO I SUPPOSE THAT IS CLASSED AS FREE TRANSPORT.
MUM'S WAITING FOR A HYSTERECTOMY OPERATION, NOT SURE HOW YOU SPELL IT, BUT I THINK YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN, SHE'S GOT A FIBROID THE SIZE OF A MELON GROWING INSIDE, AND HER WOMB HAS DROPPED, SO THEY HAVE SAID IT'S EASIER TO REMOVE EVERYTHING INSIDE, I THINK WAITING FOR THE OPERATION, HAS BEEN A BIG CAUSE OF THE PROBLEM.
I'M HOPING AS SOON AS SHE HAS HAD IT DONE, THEY SAID HER LIFE WOULD BE BETTER, WE'VE BEEN WAITING MONTHS FOR A CANCELLATION, THEY ARE HOPING IT WILL BE AROUND CHRISTMAS TIME.
I THINK ALL THE WORRY HAS BEEN HER GOING INTO HOSPITAL, AND GOING UNDER THE KNIFE, SO TO SPEAK. I CAN UNDERSTAND HER WORRY, AS I WOULD BE TERRIFIED, HAS ANY ONE HAD THIS OPERATION, AND DID YOU FEEL BETTER AFTER, ANY INFO ON THIS WOULD BE GRATEFUL.
THANKS TO EVERYONE FOR YOUR SUPPORT,
TUCKSHOP

[nomorepanic]

Glad to hear that all is ok Tuckshop and that she is eating better too.

I expect that it could be caused by all the worry of the operation etc - I know it would worry me!

Let's hope that they get her in soon and it helps things.

Take care

Nicola

[Meg]

Hi Tuckshop,

So pleased she is on the mend.

Fybroids are non maliganant (hurrah) overgrowths inside the womb or actually growing within the wall of the womb and hysterectomy is definately the treatment of choice once they get that big.

As she is so young some of her issues may be surrounding having all her reproductive organs (femininity) removed.It's very common that ladies find this hard to accept and deal with. If this is a big issue she could see one of the gynae nurse specialists to discuss it ahead of her surgery.

It will be a huge weight off her innards as they are under considerable strain with all that extra tissue inside her.

I so hope a date comes up soon
Let us know how you are all doing

Meg

Meg

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Watch your words, they become your actions... Watch your actions, they become your habits... Watch your habits, they become your character... Watch your character, it becomes your destiny...

[tuckshop]

HI THERE,

WE'VE ALREADY DISCUSSED ABOUT HER HAVING EVERYTHING REMOVED, SHE DEFINITELY DOESN'T WANT ANY MORE KIDS, SHE HAS 2 INCLUDING ME. I'M 29 AND MY BROTHER IS 32 SO AS YOU CAN SEE SHE'S BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, GOT THE TSHIRT, AND DEFINITELY DOESN'T WANT ANY MORE.
SO ALL WE CAN DO IS CROSS OUR FINGERS AND PRAY THAT THEY HAVE A CANCELLATION SOON.

CHEERS
TUCKSHOP

[bishop]

hi tuckshop
she can have free transport if you live so many miles from the hospital, talk too the doctors,and if shes on any carers allowance or any thing,she would get help

[tuckshop]

HI ALL.
MUM'S HAD HER HOSPITAL DATE THROUGH, 23RD OF THIS MONTH, SO HOPEFULLY ALL SHOULD GO WELL, SHE'S REALLY STARTING TO PANIC NOW, WORRIED SOMETHING WILL GO WRONG HALF WAY THROUGH THE OPERATION, I KEEP TRYING TO REASSURE HER EVERYTHING WILL BE O.K BUT YOU KNOW HOW IT IS.
I'LL LET YOU KNOW HOW IT GOES AFTER THE OP.
CHEERS
TUCKSHOP

[Meg]

Hi Tuckshop,

Not far off now.... Her response is an extremely normal one . Every other woman facing this op will be there too. She has a heightened awareness of the symptoms so it 'feels' worse as she is used to associating her symptoms with feeling anxious and depressed.

'SHE DEFINITELY DOESN'T WANT ANY MORE KIDS, SHE HAS 2 INCLUDING ME. I'M 29 AND MY BROTHER IS 32 SO AS YOU CAN SEE SHE'S BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, GOT THE TSHIRT, AND DEFINITELY DOESN'T WANT ANY MORE.'

Just wanted to clarify a bit from a previous post. On a practical level, she doesn't need her innards any more but the thing I was referring to was that to a woman - her womb, ovaries and breasts are what intrinsically makes you a woman and it is not unusual for any woman - especially when she's as young as your Mum - to feel that a Hysterectomy signifies the end of that and that her whole body image and reason for being on the earth will change hugely and they can have a full blown grieving/denial process surrounding this. Just wondering whether that has contributed at all to how she was a few weeks ago..... She will need much reassurance and TLC.

Hope all goes well.




Meg

Watch your thoughts, they become your words...
Watch your words, they become your actions... Watch your actions, they become your habits... Watch your habits, they become your character... Watch your character, it becomes your destiny...

[nomorepanic]

Tuckshop - we will all be thinking of your mum and send her our best wishes :-)

Good luck

Nicola

[tuckshop]

Hi all,
Just to let you know mum has had her op, and everything went well.
I'll be picking her up from the hospital this afternoon.
I'll Just be glad to get her home, At least she can rest for the next 6 weeks in the comfort of her own home, Hopefully after that i'll have my old mum back.
Thanks to everyone for your support + advice.