I have been a member here for a very long time and can quite honestly say that the site has given me much needed support over the years.
Over the last couple of days I have been angered by the posts that have been appearing which are merely being set up to air personal grievances on a public forum. There is so much venom and hatred in these postings and I'm not easily shocked by such things but I feel compelled to write this post.
This site was set up by Nic as she wanted to share her feelings and fears with like minded people. She also wanted to help others, this was her ultimate aim. She has put so much time and effort into building the site up into the biggest and best there is with more members and postings than on any other forum of this nature. A lot of us contributed financially to the new chat room. We gave willingly as we all used the room and all benefited from it.
Please, please give some thought to how Nic must now be feeling. She has put so much into this site and it is now being abused in an awful way.
Of course I realise that there will always be disagreements on large forums such as this, that is life. But, the type of postings that have been made recently are definately not the kind that should be appearing on our forum. We are here to help people through bad times. Newcomers here will not want to be reading postings such as the ones that have appeared recently. These kind of disagreements etc should be dealt with privately through either PM or MSN or the like. There really is no need for dirty linen to be aired in public. It just fuels the arguments and turns into tit for tat nastiness.
Maybe such posts should be deleted as soon as they appear, I for one would have no problem with this. But of course, this is for Nic to decide.
Please just give a thought to what Nic has put into this site and how lost a lot of us would be if it was no longer available to us. And, finally, please remember that Nic is also a sufferer and this must all be affecting her badly as well.
Kate
"Everybody's changing and I don't feel the same"